How to divorce a narcissist, antisocial or psychopath

Donna Andersen of LoveFraud.com interviews northern Virginia family law attorney Soo Kang Keithley about divorcing a spouse who shows narcissistic, antisocial, or psychopathic traits. These are high-conflict divorces, and Keithley says she always tries to settle the cases to keep them out of court. She first tries to negotiate with her client’s soon-to-be-ex, or his or her attorney, to avoid triggering narcissistic rage. If that fails, she can then pursue aggressive litigation. When her clients suspect hidden assets, Keithley notes that they need to review financial records themselves, even though it may feel traumatic. She offers advice on how to choose an attorney to handle a high-conflict divorce and the best way to make a choice —trust your intuition.

Timeline

01:24 Meet Attorney Soo Kang Keithley
02:15 Understanding high-conflict divorces
08:51 First strategy — negotiation
12:39 Critical skills for dealing with disordered parties
15:28 How Soo Keithley learned about narcissists
17:24 How to find hidden assets
20:36 Forensic accounting tools
22:50 When opposing counsel is unethical
26:41 How to choose the best lawyer for you
29:27 The importance of trusting your intuition
31:58 Questions to ask when interviewing attorneys
35:38 Reporting ethics violations
37:18 Building a war chest to fund your divorce
41:58 Closing and resources