When Margy and Laura were at this year’s Podfest Expo, we grabbed Elijah Desmond for a chat. Elijah is one of the most energetic people you’ve ever know and is a very successful serial entrepreneur. In addition, he is a speaker, an MC, a DJ, an event planner, a husband and dad, and an all-around wonderful person. Over the past 18 months, he has had an “aha moment” about how he wants to show up and and shared his journey, the lessons he’s learned along the way, and how he’s been able to thrive in the world of parties and events while embracing sober choices. He also discusses his book, Hype: The Ultimate How-To Guide for Conferences & Events.
From Party Animal to Soberish Superstar: Elijah Desmond’s Transformation
Elijah Desmond is always in his happy place at the heart of the party scene. In fact, he built an entire business around it with Smiles At Sea and The Dental Festival. A couple of years ago, he went to DJ school so he could amp his parties up event more. With Elijah at the helm, he hypes up crowds at huge, high-energy parties where alcohol flows freely, and the atmosphere is electric. Like many of us, he believed that drinking was essential to enjoying a good time, and he immersed himself in that lifestyle.
But over time, Elijah realized the toll alcohol was taking on his body and health. He noticed his energy was depleting, and his alcohol tolerance was growing, making him need to drink more to feel the same buzz. This was when Elijah had an eye-opening realization: maybe drinking wasn’t serving him the way he thought it was.
“I got to a point where I felt like I was drinking too much, and I started asking myself if this was really serving me anymore,” Elijah shares. “It wasn’t about quitting altogether, I just wanted to lower my tolerance and drink less but still have a good time.”
A Break from Alcohol: Elijah Desmond’s Sober Experiment
To regain control over his drinking, Elijah decided to take a break from alcohol for a few months. His goal wasn’t to quit drinking —he wanted to reset his body and reduce his alcohol tolerance so he could still drink less and enjoy a social buzz.
However, something unexpected happened during this sober period: Elijah realized he didn’t actually miss drinking. He found that he could still enjoy the same high-energy social scenes and parties—without the need for alcohol.
“I was having just as much fun, if not more, being sober. I didn’t need alcohol to be the energetic, lively person I was,” Elijah explains. “The more I realized that, the more I leaned into it.”
At this point, Elijah made the conscious decision to be more mindful of when and how much he drank. Although he still enjoys an occasional drink, he no longer feels the pressure to drink in every social situation. He’s fully comfortable going to parties and gatherings sober, knowing he can still bring the energy and excitement.
How Sobriety Changed Elijah Desmond’s DJ Career
As a DJ, Elijah’s job is to entertain, engage with the crowd, and create a high-energy environment. He’s known for his ability to read the room and pump up the crowd. However, Elijah quickly realized that alcohol was actually impairing his performance.
“Looking back, I can definitely say that I play better when I’m sober,” Elijah reflects. “When you’re not drinking, your focus, your clarity, and your energy are on another level. I’m able to connect with the crowd and deliver an even more dynamic experience because I’m fully present in the moment.”
This was a huge revelation for Elijah, showing how alcohol can diminish not just your physical health but your mental clarity and focus. By choosing to DJ sober, he’s able to bring his best self to the table, enhancing his music and the energy he brings to every gig. Elijah’s story shows that you don’t need alcohol to have an amazing time—whether you’re performing, socializing, or enjoying a night out.
Elijah Desmond’s Book: Hype: The Ultimate How-To Guide for Conferences & Events
In addition to his career as a DJ, Elijah Desmond is an expert in event planning and hosting. He recently released a book titled Hype: The Ultimate How-To Guide for Conferences & Events, which helps readers step away from the typical, dull event formats and create memorable, engaging experiences.
The book’s message is clear: boring, stale events are a thing of the past. Elijah advocates for high-energy, interactive events that people actually want to attend. Here’s a glimpse of the book’s prologue, which perfectly reflects Elijah’s fun, unconventional approach to event planning:
“So, you’re gonna host a ‘conference.’ Congratulations! You might just be on the fast track to becoming the king or queen of BORING… I’m kidding. I am gonna help you step away from the snooze-fest playbook.
Let’s get real for a moment—no one, and I mean no one, wakes up thinking, ‘Gee, I sure hope I get to sit through a soul-sucking, mind-numbing lecture today!’
Nope. Not a single person.
I’m here to help you transform your run-of-the-mill professional conference into a full-throttle, heart-pounding destination experience. One that will not only be memorable but remarkable. I will show you how to convert so-called attendees into loud and proud raving fans.”
Elijah’s book is packed with practical tips and creative ideas on how to create events that are exciting, engaging, and full of energy. It’s perfect for anyone looking to host a conference, meeting, or party that people will actually enjoy and remember.
The Power of Sobriety in Social Settings
Elijah’s story goes beyond his career—it’s about personal growth and embracing new ways of living. One of the most significant changes Elijah has noticed since his sober experiment is how he thrives in social situations. He no longer feels the need to drink to fit in or to enjoy himself.
“For a lot of people, the idea of being sober at a party is intimidating,” Elijah admits. “But what I’ve found is that when you embrace it and own it, it’s actually empowering. You don’t have to hide behind a drink to have fun or be confident. Being sober allows you to connect with people on a deeper level, and you can be your most authentic self.”
Elijah is living proof that you don’t need alcohol to be the life of the party. He’s found that being sober enhances his ability to connect with others, bring positive energy to the room, and be fully present in the moment. His journey is a great reminder that alcohol doesn’t define our fun—it’s all about how we show up and enjoy life with a clear mind.
Sobriety Brings Clarity, Focus, and Energy
As Elijah continues his journey, he feels more focused, energetic, and clear-headed than ever before. He has clarity to pursue his passions with a renewed sense of purpose, and he’s excited about the future. His decision to embrace sober choices has allowed him to step into his fullest potential in both his personal and professional life.
“My sober experiment was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made,” Elijah shares with a smile. “It’s given me a level of focus and energy that I didn’t know I was missing. Now, I’m able to live life fully, without the fog of alcohol holding me back.”
For anyone considering sobriety or looking to cut back on alcohol, Elijah’s story is a powerful testament to the positive changes that can come from living a clear, focused, and energized life.
Final Thoughts: Living a Vibrant Life Without Alcohol
Elijah Desmond’s journey proves that sobriety isn’t about missing out or living a dull life. Instead, it’s about embracing the fullness of life—whether you’re rocking the DJ booth, hosting an unforgettable event, or simply enjoying time with friends. Being soberish has allowed Elijah to step into his best self, and he’s showing the world that it’s possible to live an energetic, successful, and fulfilling life without it always revolving around alcohol.
Don’t forget to check out Elijah Desmond’s book, Hype: The Ultimate How-To Guide for Conferences & Events—a must-read for anyone looking to elevate their event-planning game and create unforgettable experiences.
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