Healing Emotional Trauma and Understanding Energy with Regard Tang

We can’t remove emotion from our lives — it’s always been there since the beginning. Sometimes, when we’re making big life decisions, we have to face and work through past trauma. That trauma can show up in different ways. So how do we start to heal? In this episode, I talk with Regard Tang, an energy healer and channeler who focuses on emotional and social trauma. We chat about how our childhood and our parents’ influence shape our emotional habits as we grow up. Regard shares why it’s important to deal with emotional and generational trauma so we can live healthier lives. She also explains how energy healing works, including how she connects with a person’s ancestors and spirit guides to help uncover and release deep emotional pain. --- Listen to the podcast here: Healing Emotional Trauma and Understanding Energy with Regard Tang Welcome to Action’s Antidotes, your antidote to the mindset that keeps you settling for less. When we are preparing for whatever our next move is, oftentimes that will be starting a business, starting a new initiative, or starting a new chapter in our lives, we need to do various things to, whether it be purge the old chapters or just kind of heal, reset ourselves, oftentimes, that will involve kind of overcoming or processing some trauma from previous areas of our lives, and that can take on many different forms, but it is a very important thing that I think a lot of people don’t necessarily think of of why am I in this mentality where I don’t seem to ever be able to get a move on what I’m doing or make a decision or really kind of go for what I’m going for. And so I want to present with you various different forms in which we can heal the trauma, because there’s many different ways that we can process our energy. Today, my guest is Regard Tang, and she is an energy healer and a channeler. --- Regard, welcome to the program. Thank you for having me, Stephen. Thank you so much. And I want to start this podcast with a quick explanation, because I’m bringing on a concept that may be new to a lot of people about the two things that you do, which are energy healing and channeling. By energy healing, what does that mean? What does that really entail? So, energy healing, we all carry different kind of energy. Some people, they carry a little bit like a heavier energy and I’m sure that when you walk into the room, you can just stand –– the room is carrying those very heavy energy versus when you’re seeing some people that they’re very bubbly and they’re just like lighter, they light you up. So energy healing, what I do? I do channeling. So energy healing, you can go to sound healing, you can go to reiki. There’s a lot of different methods, but for me, I specialize in channeling. What does channeling mean? It means that I can talk to my client’s ancestors, I can talk to my client’s spirit guides, which is spirit team, and I can also talk to my client’s inner self, means that, because I specialize in emotional trauma and social trauma, so I’m able to tell are their emotion aligned? Means that they’re like, “Well, I experienced X, Y and Z,” but I’m able to tap into their emotion, it’s like, actually, it’s not exactly what you feel on their surface. I can feel very, very deep emotions that they literally put it in the box and put it away when they were younger. And, of course, in a minute, we’ll explain a little bit more, but that is what I do. Okay. And so I want to start the beginning of the story, which is these emotions that are pushed away and the energy that people all kind of come out in the room, because it sounds like this is something that could be really limiting some people from living their best lives and really presenting themselves in a way. So, what does it look like for someone whose energy is not aligned because of an emotional baggage from the past? What does it feel like when you walk into a room and you encounter that person and what is usually that person’s experience? That is a great question. Well, let’s put it this way, society is leading us to suppress our emotions. But a lot of us, we get our emotions from our parents, like how are we formed as an adult? A lot of times, it comes from our childhood and childhood trauma. And also that while I’ve been doing this work, I didn’t know that when a mother is actually carrying the baby, the baby is able –– is kind of like a little sponge and able to receive how’s the mother’s emotions during the pregnancy. And then, obviously, that is epigenetic. And epigenetic is a little different than genetic. So genetic means that I’m Chinese so I have black hair, I have brown eyes, I look like Asian, period, but then epigenetic, a lot of times, it comes from the environment, the diet, and also their emotions. So this is how it forms our emotions. But, of course, we come from a certain program, and, let’s say if the household, a little child growing up, the parents, they use substance, and a lot of times my clients, when they grow up, they will copy –– I always say copy and paste because that they don’t really have the awareness of knowing that, oh, that was actually my parents’ habit or my parents’ program and I just take it in as a little sponge, as I mentioned earlier, and then a lot of time, the kids, they’re just holding on those program, even though my clients, they are 40, 50, 60s, they still have that programming in their mindset, in their mind. And, of course, once we understand what is the root cause or what is the root of it and you put in the work, then we can reprogram. We have to unlearn to relearn something new.Share on X Basically, how are we able to identify our emotions and not carrying those heavy emotions and then release it or let it go and reprogram in order to bring in the new ones. So I think a common emotion that’s being talked about quite a bit, particularly over the last, say, five to eight years, is anxiety. And we’ve heard people say, “I have anxiety,” which, to me, baffles me because it feels like everyone’s anxious about some things but that’s a whole separate issue, but let’s just say that there’s a lot of people who have that programming because their parents, when they were a kid or when they were in utero had a lot of anxiety. What does that look like for someone who has that anxiety program and needs to let that go? So I always say that people thought like, “Oh, yeah, I want to delete that emotion. I don’t want that to be with me anymore,” and I always joke about good luck with that because you can’t delete an emotion, just like sadness, jealousy, resentment, sometimes when we feel like lack, like, oh, I feel like –– it’s not feeling what I need. Happiness, joy. Some people, they don’t really understand what joy means, we can talk about a little bit more in a minute, but it’s just all kinds of emotions is within us. So you cannot delete it. You can understand and catch that at that moment and like, “Oh, it’s showing up for me right now, and I appreciate that you show up, however, I don’t need you at this moment,” because anxiety, a lot of times, why people are anxious, they are trying to predict what they want. Anxiety is future. Depression is from the past.Share on X So when people, especially nowadays society is a lot of comparison, and when you compare, you’re like, okay, how am I going to get there? Then, of course, that is anxiety. Anxious has been around since day one that we have humans on Earth. It is not a new emotion. But now that we are using a little bit more, I think it’s because of COVID, to be honest with you. COVID, because there’s a lot of things that you cannot predict, you don’t know what does the future looks like, that’s why anxious comes up a lot, especially like depression as well because I always say depression and anxiety, they are basically like a sister or twins, for some people. But in the past, because we are not huge or as big as mental health. Yeah, yeah. It was ignored for most of humanity. Exactly, because think about my parents that they are boomers and I joke about the boomers, they do not have much emotions, which is true. Yeah, in many cases. Yeah, because, they’ve been suppressing and they learned from their parents, which is our grandparents, that they don’t know how to understand what emotions mean, and now we have the privilege to understand what emotions means to us. So I hope that I answered the question. Yeah. So what you’re saying is that whether it’s anxiety or any other emotion, it’s not about deleting it, which sounds like going back to that past of like denying your feelings, not thinking about your feelings, and just taking it out on the bottle, is to recognize the emotion, but then saying, putting into context, I guess, would be the best way to say it, and just saying, okay, maybe I don’t need this emotion right now. If it’s anxiety based on comparison, there’s a way you could take a deep breath and say, “Okay, the fact that this person has more than me is making me anxious right now but why is it making me anxious? And does it make me any less satisfied with what I do have?” Yeah, so I always suggest, no matter it’s my friends or people that I come across or my clients, does this emotion serve you at this moment? You can identify it, you can honor it, okay, I’m letting you to show up today, I’m going to let you show up tomorrow, but I’m not going to let you dictate rest of my life. Same as ego, right? A lot of times people don’t understand what ego mean and people is like, “Oh, yeah, I don’t need ego in my life,” whatever, and I’m like, well, good luck with that, because you cannot delete it. The same is one of the emotions. It’s here to protect you because I cannot predict what is going on, or people trigger us, and then your ego come out to protect us. But you can also honor your ego, it’s like, “Okay,...