Understanding D/s Contracts LB064

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together again for episode 64 of Loving BDSM. This week, they're discussing D/s contracts. In this episode: The latest video is available through Patreon or membership to KaylaLords.com! This month we focused on punching. What is a contract? A D/s contract isn't required in a D/s relationship. A lot of submissives wonder if they should have them. They send emails saying their Dominant partners don't want one. Having a contract requires negotiation and what goes into the contract requires negotiation. Don't expect your contract to hold up in a court of law, but be careful what you put in it - just in case. A contract can be as simple as a written list of everything you both agree to or it can be as elaborate as you want it to be. Think about the reasons why you want a D/s contract. Thinking you're "supposed" to have one isn't usually enough of a reason. If your partner resists the idea of a contract, hear them out and then decide if that's a reason you can live with. This isn't a time when a Dom saying, "Because I said so" is good enough. There should be a reason given. Links from the Show: Kayla on Patreon Membership to KaylaLords.com First D/s Agreement Between Kayla Lords and John Brownstone 3 Reasons to Have a D/s Contract No Constitutional Right to BDSM Sex (Washington Post) BDSM and the Law (Wikipedia) BDSM Contracts (BDSMcontracts.org) BDSM Contracts: When the Law Doesn't Protect You, Protect Yourself (NCSF Blog) Kayla Lords on Fetlife John Brownstone on Fetlife Contact Kayla Lords Contact John Brownstone Follow the show: Subscribe by RSS Listen on iTunes (and leave a review if you love what you hear!) Podcast Addict (free app for Android!) Listen on Stitcher Or find us here: Two Thumbs Up Media Podcast Directory Pod Directory