Episode 344: The First Step to Solving Any Marriage Issue
When there's a problem in your marriage, it's natural to want to address the problem.
Have the conversation.
Tell your spouse how you feel.
Ask them to do something differently.
Set the boundary.
But before you do any of those things, you have to start somewhere else FIRST.
With you.
In this episode, I'm sharing why I teach self-awareness, personal responsibility, and self-leadership before we begin trying to solve the issues happening between you and your spouse.
Because what you do next matters—but the version of you doing it matters just as much.
Inside this episode, you'll learn:- Why going straight to "solving the problem" can sometimes make things harder
- The internal work I believe needs to happen before an important conversation, request, or boundary
- How to distinguish between taking responsibility for yourself and taking responsibility for the entire marriage
- Why emotional regulation changes the way you handle difficult moments with your spouse
- How self-leadership helps you respond based on who you want to be rather than what your spouse is doing
- How to know when it's time to stop processing and start taking empowered action
Focusing on yourself first doesn't mean the problem is yours.
It means getting yourself into the strongest, most grounded position to decide what you want to do about it.
Listen to this episode and consider where you may be trying to solve a marriage problem before first getting clear, stable, and intentional within yourself.