SWM 051 – Anonymous Questions – October & November 2019 – Types of orgasms, sleeping during sex & more

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here

Anonymous Questions - October & November 2019 - Types of orgasms, sleeping during sex & more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Today we're answering questions about marriage and sex from our anonymous Have A Question page on our website. We’re answering questions we received back in October and November of 2019. Everything from orgasms to masturbation to crossdressing to sleeping during sex.

Do you think that braingasms, heartgasms, and full-body orgasms are legit? I heard that some sex therapists believe that they are and have courses on how to achieve them. From my understanding, teaches men to achieve these orgasms by focussing on their breathing and doing kegels during sex. This is supposed to allow sexual energy to move through the body, and couples can transfer energy between each other. Think it also teaches something called "The Key Sound." It seems to be based on Tantric and Taoist sexual practices. All of this sounds rather interesting, but I don't think that these therapists really hold to a Christian sexual ethic. I'm trying to figure out whether these types of courses and the techniques that are taught are legit, or whether they are mostly a new-age scam. I think breathing together during sex can be relaxing and potentially allow for deeper connection, but I'm not sure that I could do it for an entire session. Kegels have their benefits, as you have acknowledged, but is it reasonable to try to do them for an entire lovemaking session? Would like your perspective on these things.

There are a few things here to unpack. Do I think things like braingasms, heartgasms and full-body orgasms are legit? Yes and no. I think people experience things that they describe as those things. I’m not entirely sure they are things themselves. It’s sort of like a clitoral orgasm vs a vaginal orgasm. Do people experience orgasms from having the clitoris stimulated? Yes. Do they experience orgasms from having their vagina penetrated? Yes. Do they feel different to some people? Yes. Are they different things? I’m not sure about that one.