SWM 061 – September 2020 Questions – High Drive Wives, Being Too Wet, Polyamory and more

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October has nearly come and gone, so it’s time to get September’s questions answered and published so we can make room for October’s.

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With that out of the way, let’s get started on the questions.

There are actually two similar questions here, so I’m going to read them both as I think the same answer applies to both of them.

Hi, my question involves having a spouse that has continuously refused sex. I know it is uncommon but it is my husband refusing sex. We did not have sex before marriage and his lack of interest started from day one. We had sex more regularly while trying to conceive but after my daughter was born six years ago we likely have had sex less than six times. Currently it has been two years since any intimacy. Honestly it has broken me - my self esteem, my desire to serve him as I should as a wife and homemaker, I don't sleep well at night and my health has suffered. He has been sleeping in another room for over a year. Being in the same bed is too painful for me. He is fine with this arrangement. There is sexual abuse in his past. I have tried to get counseling but he always says he doesn’t want to go because they will just say everything is his fault. Is this grounds for divorce? I am 47 years old and this is my first marriage, his second. We have been married for seven years. We are literally roommates. Yet he says he loves me and can’t imagine life without me. There is no emotional intimacy for us whatsoever. Is this considered abandoning our marriage? Thank you