SWM 065 – Nov 2020 Questions – High sex drives, losing erections, being too loud, vaginismus and more

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Today we have another installment of our questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. We’re going to talk about managing a high sex drive, losing erections while changing positions, being too loud during sex, a husband who thinks his wife is sexually boring, vaginismus, and then finish off with how do you surrender and give God control in your life? Didn’t expect that last one did, you?

So, let’s tackle these questions before the New Year ends.

Looking for help in managing my own high sex drive. My wife, who is definitely on the responsive side is awesome. We have sex two to three times a week and she's usually down for trying some more adventurous things on a semi-regular basis. Even still, I find myself regularly distracted (even from work) with sexual thoughts about her and fantasies of things I'd like for us to try or do. On one hand, I'm getting sex more than most people out there, I want to be grateful for the good thing I’ve got. And with both of us working and with smaller kids, that amount is a miracle all things considered. What can I do to manage such a high sex drive? I work out fairly regularly so I'm not sure what else there is. We've talked about having a "free" card for masturbation 1-2x/w but neither of us really felt that was the right thing to do. Any insight?

In our lives, we have a lot of good, and healthy impulses. We get thirsty, we get hungry, we get tired. The problem is when we want more than our needs, to an unhealthy amount. Eating too much will make you fat. Sleeping too much will make you lazy. Even drinking too much water can lead to intoxication due to the electrolytes being too depleted.

The point is, wanting sex is a healthy desire. Desiring more sex than is appropriate is not.

So, like everything else, have options on how to deal with desires that cause you to overindulge.