124. How to love your home (when you wish it were different)

This is not the house I would have chosen to be my forever home, but over the years I have come to terms with us staying here - but how to reconcile with the dissatisfaction of this home not being exactly what I want.    Acknowledging our home dissatisfaction * Recognizing that deep desire to create a space that FEELS like home * Addressing the longing we have to change our homes * How we handle our dissatisfaction   Working with a partner to build a home together * Having different ideas on what a home should be * Looking for the ways we both want to create a great place  * Owning where we think the grass is greener   Are we entitled when it comes to having an upgraded/ideal home? * Addressing the concept of what is 'normal' for how our homes should look * Getting overwhelmed to just 'get there already' * Asking about what we want, why we want it  * Can we consider the costs of having this 'ideal' home *   Appreciating the home you have * The one question that helped me see the resent I was looking at my home with  * Looking at my space with appreciation over the days/weeks/months and the things that I have put on my list that I didn't expect * Old decks, small closets, dated kitchens, lack of storage cul-de-sacs   Why do we want to change our home? * We think when our home is 'ideal' then we can feel different * Seeing how you don't have to wait for the perfect home in order to feel that * Getting stuck in the either/or mentality   Stop waiting for the perfect home  * Your home should be a place that reflects YOU and is a space you love to be and nobody else will do this work for you  * Do the work of removing what you don't want in your home and letting the things you love shine and be used * Know what you LOVE and focus on those things more than the latest trends * Make a point to USE your space for the way you want your home to be used (gather, create, make, relax) * Creating spaces you use and enjoy   Loving your home and wishing it were different * This is not an either/or situation,  hold space for both of these   Products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and buy something I will be compensated at no cost to you.    Mentioned: Love The House Your Are In by Page Rein No Demo Reno on HGTV Table Topics Question cards to start dinner conversation  How to Hygge When You Are a Busy Mom (Episode 75) Join the Facebook Simple on Purpose Community Be the mom you are (blog post)     Simple Pleasure of the week: Warm blankets out of the dryer.    Full transcript   Hey friends it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend life coach from simple and purpose.ca Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast.