Episodes

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March 18, 2021

Under The Microinfluencer (with Ailsa Emmel)

This week, Kate has the pleasure of being joined by one of her favorite microinfluencers and women's health advocates, Ailsa Emmel from @_happygocurly_. Ailsa and Kate talk about so many topics, from the ups and downs of instagram, to how she got started, to women's health Wednesday, cancel culture, Kate's fears about childbirth, sex ed, and more. Since Ailsa is a Certified Nurse Midwife, a large majority of this conversation is dedicated to discussing women's health, being open about our bodies...
156
March 12, 2021

Meghan & Harry Interview Recap

Kate recaps Meghan Markle & Prince Harry's bombshell interview with Oprah from last Sunday. The intro is new, with recent updates from Buckingham Palace and Kate discussing the British press' reaction, and the remainder of the episode is Kate's raw take from Sunday night right after it aired. If you already listened on Patreon, the first 30 mins or so are new! You can also listen to last night's live show Bar Cart Sports on demand through the end of the weekend - onlocationlive.com/bethereinfive...
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March 4, 2021

Trauma-rama

This week, Kate salutes one of the most iconic magazine series of our time: Seventeen's Trauma-rama. First, she discusses Meghan & Harry's upcoming interview, then does a brief Are You Afraid of the Dark detour, followed by reading from old Seventeen & YM magazines she bought off of eBay from their juiciest embarrassing stories sections. Following that, she reads crowd-sourced 'things that are embarrassing for no reason' anecdotes from listeners and discusses the discomfort of, well, just genera...
154
Feb. 25, 2021

Twinkle, Twinkle, S0cc3rA11Star

This week, Kate does a continuation of last week's episode (Pussycat Dull) since more listeners submitted their tales of cringeworthy attempts to make their crush jealous. They somehow keep getting better. In between stories many of Kate's own anecdotes and insights are shared, from her being cast as a Valley Girl to a broader discussion of sexism in how women are judged for the way they speak. There's also discussions of things like the 00s 'mean girl' culture, a revisiting of Why Men Love Bitc...
153
Feb. 18, 2021

Pussycat Dull

This week, Kate reads from listener-submitted stories about the embarrassing (and now hilarious) ways in our youth that we tried to make people jealous and/or acutely aware of how well we're doing following a romantic rejection. From the classic "sorry wrong IM" all the way to a full John Tucker Must Die reenactment, these stories represent the good, the bad, and the delightfully cringy of Livin La Vida Four Loko in the mid-2000s. But first, Kate discusses some broader thoughts on mid-aughts med...
152
Feb. 11, 2021

Coming Up For Erin (with Erin Heatherton)

TW: Mention of EDs, body image discussion This week, Kate has a conversation with Erin Heatherton, a former Victoria's Secret Angel and Sports Illustrated model (among other things) who now lives in Chicago after having stepped back from the spotlight. She's now crushing it as an entrepreneur and somehow befriended Kate along the way, so they recorded a heart to heart about not only Erin's life and career but also about body image, problematic beauty standards, doing Ayahuasca, being in VS show...
151
Feb. 4, 2021

Kate-lilah #7 (Answering Listener Voicemails)

Kate answers listener voicemail questions on a variety of topics, e.g. music videos, her mom, fading friendships, city living, Dixie D'Amelio, societal pressures and more! Hotline: 312.379.9676 patreon.com/bethereinfive Right now, you can get a FREE rack of St. Louis Ribs, 1 pack of bacon and 1 pack of pulled pork for free in your first box. Just go to ButcherBox.com/BETHEREINFIVE Go Feals.com/bethereinfive and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping. Grab your Energy Liquid I....
150
Jan. 28, 2021

Look Who's Tokking Now

It's been one year since Kate begged her listeners to start talking the 'Tok, and on this episode, Kate follows up on her original TikTok deep dive to update everyone on what's happened in the past year. She broadly discusses the big trends, cringy dance moves, obscure subcultures, roller coaster legislation, favorite follows, etc., but also dives into specifics about some of the app's biggest stars. She discusses the trajectory of the D'Amelios, Addison Rae, The Hype House, Sway House, and even...
149
Jan. 21, 2021

149. Hun For The Money (MLM & Insta Coaching Deep Dive)

This week, Kate takes on the Venn diagram of Instagram "life coaches," self-help gurus, manifesting babes, and multi-level marketing #girlbosses that peddle the (often) false hope of financial freedom and entrepreneurial dreams through uncomfortable emoji-laden texts and Facebook messages. She discusses the problem with influencers selling one-size-fits-all solutions based on their anecdotal business experience and then reads crowd sourced stories from listeners who have been on the receiving en...
147
Jan. 6, 2021

Somewhere Hungover the Rainbow

This week, Kate's feeling metaphorically hungover from 2020 and is providing you some hot takes on a cold January night for a distraction in an ever-chaotic world. Recorded prior to (and cut off due to) the events today in DC, this episode includes discussions about: Neighborhoods trying the hardest to sound rich Turtle Creek Lane's new Mercedes Kim & Kanye's divorce Freckled Fox's separation A mini deep dive of SimplySuzys' Instagram bait-and-switch Are Instagram growth coaches the new MLM? A ...
146
Dec. 26, 2020

Beth of Both Worlds

A fireside heart to heart via a double episode to keep you company through the end of 2020! In this episode, Kate recorded a holiday heart to heart, asking listeners what questions/topics they'd want to discuss if they were sitting down for dinner together. From wine selection at a dinner party, to what her experience has been like with other podcasters, what she'd say if she met TS, advice for those who are single, to hearing more about her husband and family, what she'd teach her younger self,...
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Dec. 20, 2020

Evermore than you bargained for (bonus)

In this bonus episode, Kate was trying to do a "quick recap" of all of the discussion and mystery surrounding Taylor Swift's 9th studio album's surprise release. However, it is not quick and recap might be a generous word since she felt like she hasn't listened enough to go song-by-song. Yet she still manages to talk about it for like, evermore, and shares her observations surrounding this album, e.g. the comparisons to folklore, the theories leading up to (and the theories following) the sister...
144
Dec. 17, 2020

2020 Recap with Comments by Celebs

This week, Kate is joined by Julie Kramer and Emma Diamond from Comments by Celebs to rapid fire recap some recent pop culture news, i.e. Olivia Jade's Red Table Talk, Kristin Cavallari & Austin (vs Madison and Jay and Shannon??), Evermore, Kardashians on Hulu, etc. They also recap some of 2020's notable celeb/influencer news, i.e. being obsessed with Love is Blind and Tiger King, Kourtney & Addison's friendship, Charli D'Amelio's fame and attempted "cancellation," cancel culture as a whole, Van...
144
Dec. 10, 2020

Be Terrible in Five (with Nora McInerny)

This week, Kate is joined by Nora McInerny, best-selling author and host of the insanely successful podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking. On this episode, Nora and Kate do what they do best: provide a form of conversational whiplash as they alternate between light and heavy topics in a delightful manner. Ranging from nostalgia, rom coms, and 2000s fashion, to how Nora's experiences have shaped her career in the space of grief, to a detailed discussion of their DM history, it's a well-rounded epis...
143
Dec. 3, 2020

Destiny's Inner Child

In this nostalgic deep dive, Kate details her "main character" moments throughout life, AKA moments her hyper sensitive nature and her obsession with pop culture perfectly intersected to produce fake emo song scored movie scenes in her head. Join her as she reviews memories from her recently discovered journals when she was dramatically, if not disproportionately, reacting to very normal adolescent situations, from youth group, to celeb sightings, hook up culture, a Twilight phase, frat parties,...
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Nov. 27, 2020

Good Will (Bowery) Hunting: Folklore Studio Sessions Deep Dive

This week, Kate reports live from an unforeseen all-nighter following Taylor Swift's surprise Folklore Studio Sessions release on Disney+. This holiday season is lonely enough as is, so Kate decided to do an unpolished reaction podcast in hopes of getting it out quickly so no one's watching alone. If you don't have Disney+, that's ok, Kate will give you the scoop about what she said about the album's creation, inspiration, notable lyrics, and most of all… her revealing of the identity of the elu...
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Nov. 19, 2020

Under The Influencer (with Carmen Myer)

First, Kate talks about being ghosted by her CPA and the Dixie/Charli drama. Then, she is delighted to have on Carmen Myer of @thegoodcarmablog, a microinfluencer who has grown substantially in the past year as a blogger, teacher, and activist, sharing her day-to-day thoughts about a variety of topics on her instagram. Kate and Carmen talk about what it's been like being an educator during COVID-19, how parents can best develop a relationship with teachers, being a COVID bride, her activism in p...
140
Nov. 14, 2020

All Too Unwell

Join Kate & her friends Allie LeFevere and Lyndsay Rush (from Brandsplaining, Fangasm, Obedient agency) as they record live in Harbor Country and do a one-take journey through cut live show content, Taylor Swift's discography, SW Michigan wine country housewives taglines, bar carts, creativity, Kate's Hallmark screenplay, and other riveting topics live from the Mitten. Enjoy! Support our sponsors: Use code KATE10 to enjoy 10% off your #bookedwithbluefish stay fo 2 nights or more! Explore your ...
139
Nov. 3, 2020

Are You There God? It's Me, at Target.

This week, Kate asked listeners what they'd like to be distracted by on election day and listeners submitted a wide range of meaningless topics that are perfect meaningful discussions to listen to while we all do a whole lot of waiting. Whether you are waiting in line at the polls or waiting for results to come in, Kate is honored to keep you company via this one-take unedited casual stream of solo consciousness. Please go vote and remember many locations still take registrations on election day...
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Oct. 30, 2020

Kate-lilah #6 (Answering Listener Voicemails, feat. Kelly Kennedy)

Kate and her sister Kelly answer listener voicemails. First, Kate reminisces her attempted rebrand to a Manic Pixie Dream Girl after seeing Garden State in 2004. Then, Kate and/or Kelly answer listener questions surrounding the topics of: -Songs that Kate hates -Kardashian's KOVID Trip -Danielle Bernstein/WeWoreWhat -What's the deal with vests? -What to do about getting pressured to get married? -Trouble with in-laws and being put in uncomfortable positions to attend COVID weddings -Colonial Wi...
137
Oct. 23, 2020

BONUS: Reality TV + Docuseries Roundup (with Kate Casey)

For this bonus episode, Kate is joined by Kate Casey (from the popular podcast Reality Life with Kate Casey) to discuss the future of reality TV, what it's like interviewing show insiders, her favorite docuseries/documentaries, Bravo, and many other topics. They also go deeper into HBO Max's The Vow, since Kate (Casey) has interviewed several subject matter experts on the NXIVM cult and has interesting insight into the motive of the cult's infamous leader. The other episode about The Vow came ou...
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Oct. 23, 2020

136. Deep Dive: Cults, NXIVM, and HBO's The Vow

This week, Kate has two slightly different episodes that discuss topics related to HBO Max's hit series about the NXIVM "celebrity sex cult," The Vow. In this deep dive, Kate is solo and focuses on the psychological tactics used in the NXIVM cult and compares them to self-help gurus, religious organizations, and MLMs through discussion of the BITE model, Neuro-linguistic programming, and other facets of mind control. She also tells a semi-relevant story about why she got super into researching m...
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Oct. 15, 2020

Childless Millennial (Part II)

Part 2 of a 2-part series. This week, Kate follows up on last week's episode by sharing more of her childless millennial thoughts as she talks through listener-submitted #momlife pet peeves and feedback. She also takes on "mommy juice" wine culture, sexist baby shower gifts, and reads through DMs and e-mails showcasing different listener's motherhood journeys. Support our sponsors! -To try Audible, text bethereinfive to 500-500 or go to audible.com/bethereinfive -Receive $10 Off Your First Pair...
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Oct. 8, 2020

Childless Millennial (Part I)

This week, Kate gets vulnerable and discusses what no one wants from a childless millennial: opinions about the prospect of parenting, pregnancy, and motherhood. Rather than provide anything conclusive, she opts for a stream-of-consciousness approach about being at an age where decisions need to be made, feeling ill-equipped to make those decisions, and the implications of social media #momlife on her perceptions of motherhood. She also explores the impossible paradox of being at your career's h...