Episodes
Feb. 5, 2023
Bad Mormon (feat. Heather Gay)
This week, Kate starts by sharing the shows she's been watching (Bad Sisters, Shrinking, Pamela: A Love Story, discusses her enthusiasm toward the redemption of victims of 90s misogyny, then reviews the social media ads she can't get away from, and her love/hate relationship with custom songs people commission for Valentine's Day off of Tiktok ads. She then discusses some thoughts on religious deconstruction and then goes into an interview with Heather Gay, Real Housewife of Salt Lake City and a...
Jan. 29, 2023
Butternut Squash Dupe (feat. Kelly)
This week, Kate talks about Madi Prew & her husband's purity culture-tastic video, then she feels the need to snorkel her issues with golf culture, talks about her affinity for "Dad Stuff," then, she needs a pal to chat with so Kelly dials in, and they discuss taking on snow sports in your 30s, lift ticket couture, California culture, some more thoughts on Spare (e.g. lip gloss and Easter presents), school fundraisers with prizes like limo rides to a Pizza Hut (!!), the joy of a woman's right to...
Jan. 22, 2023
Sunday Snorkel
This week, Kate's snorkeling (AKA mini deep dives) the week's pressing pop culture topics, according to her IG Q&A box that keeps her in the know while she's still slightly off the grid, like discussing the economics and backlash associated with the Tarte Dubai Influencer trip, the continued skyrocketing of Alix Earle (and else what's on Kate's FYP, like scar girl?). She talks about the rumors surrounding Miley Cyrus' new song Flowers and the barrage of super-specific rumors that came out about ...
Jan. 7, 2023
2023 and Me
This week, Kate is solo (and has the plague!) as we kick off 2023 with a Katelilah episode where she answers listener voicemails and is thrilled to have someone to talk to in isolation. Topics include discussing the trend of having style "words," personal style evolution, the Tiktok trend of dressing your mom, top internet sleuthing tips, Kate's thoughts about internet detectives going too far, the evolution of celeb paparazzi shots, Taylor Swift being driven by accolades/success metrics and gue...
Dec. 23, 2022
Harry & Meghan (with Carmen James)
This week, Kate has Carmen James (@thegoodcarmablog) on the podcast to talk about the 6-part reality docu-series Harry & Meghan. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Let Audible help you discover new ways to laugh, be inspired, or be entertained. New members can try it free for 30 days. Visit Audible.com/bethereinfive or text bethereinfive to 500-500. For a gift that will impress, check out OSEA's Bestseller Minis Collection. Right now our listeners get 10% off your first order with promo code BETHERE...
Dec. 17, 2022
Laguna Diets (feat. Dieter Schmitz)
This week, Kate goes back to the beginning. Back to where (the earth, the stars, the sun all aligned, yes) but also back to the beginning of her fascination with southern California beach culture, thanks to 2004's groundbreaking reality show, Laguna Beach: The Real Orange County. Due to Kristin & Stephen's podcast, the show is experiencing somewhat of a renaissance, and in case you're adding this to your holiday binge watch schedule, Kate wanted to also revisit the days of side bangs, black and ...
Dec. 11, 2022
Mama slay at the lake (feat. Caroline Moss)
This week, Kate starts with a high level first impression of the Harry & Meghan documentary (she'll cover in full once all eps come out), then she is joined by Caroline Moss (from Gee Thanks Just Bought It) to talk all the hottest trends in pop culture and gift guides. Instead, they get distracted and mostly talk about nothing current and hyper focus on the culture of hand towels and merch in lakefront towns and how the wordplay transcends any and all human reasoning, to the point where Kate lau...
Dec. 3, 2022
Cheval's Well That Ends Well
This week, Kate has on a special guest that you may have known from the world of bridal design, but given an ongoing legal battle with her former employer, she can no longer publicly identify with her given name and was reintroduced to the world as Cheval in August 2022 (and her namesake line of glam footwear @sheischeval was introduced in October 2022). As the friendly designer and "America's bridesmaid" on TLC's, "Say Yes to the Dress," she brought over 10 bridal product lines to market, dres...
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Nov. 27, 2022
Tis the Damn Seasoning
This week, Kate reads crowd-sourced stories about holiday hometown romantic rendezvous from BTI5 listeners. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Let Audible help you discover new ways to laugh, be inspired, or be entertained. New members can try it free for 30 days. Visit Audible.com/bethereinfive or text bethereinfive to 500-500 to try Audible free for 30 days. For a gift that will impress, check out OSEA's Bestseller Minis Collection. Right now our listeners get 10% off your first order with promo c...
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Nov. 13, 2022
Smokeprogramming (Love is Blind Recap with Kelly)
This week, Kate and her sister maintain tradition and review the recent Love is Blind Prom, I mean reunion, but first go over their week in California, Kelly's fav on Midnights, the Jen Aniston article, review a celeb sighting involved their favorite plane movie, among other random topics. Then they get into the Love is Blind couples, along with a few side convos, like comparing/contrasting to Married at First Sight. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Get started today—frame your photos or give someo...
Nov. 5, 2022
Midnights Reign
This week, Kate provides very Maroon-forward programming with her high-level review of Taylor Swift's 10th album Midnights (it's totally different from Patreon reaction videos, btw). Now that we've had a couple of weeks to let it sink in that karma is a cat, Kate discusses her streams and skips, bread and butter songs versus jams, muses about parallels between sister tracks, goes more in-depth into a handful of songs she's still analyzing, and also talks about ancillary topics from the past 2 we...
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Oct. 20, 2022
Be There in Bad Vibes Only (with Nora McInerny)
This week, we have a BTI5 book club and Kate interviews friend of the pod (and more importantly, best selling author and host of hit podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking) Nora McInerny about her new essay book Bad Vibes Only. In this episode, they discuss the confusing nature of knowing aging is a privilege but not wanting to look it, the fallacy of elegance, Millennial work ethic, reflecting on disordered eating patterns, the art of the tendril/skank bang, why she opened with a TS quote from "Mi...
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Oct. 14, 2022
Afterparty in the Miss USA (with Cori Wallace)
This week, Kate follows up on some of the themes from last week about the lore and cultural significance of pageantry by bringing on a former pageant contestant & PR insider (and Beth!) named Cori Wallace, who chats with her about a variety of topics that extend beyond the scope of last week's drama to meander through pageants being both a reflection (and regression) of elements of modern womanhood. From more granular details like what it costs and how people win, to the mental health implicatio...
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Oct. 9, 2022
Something's A-Miss, USA
A deep dive Kate put together last minute about the controversy surrounding the Miss USA pageant late last week when contestants claimed the pageant was "rigged" and/or a product of overt favoritism toward Miss Texas. Insisting she was mostly disinterested, Kate dipped her toe in, then managed to spend the whole weekend researching history, and lore, thinking about her own memories watching, all while developing an incredibly lukewarm take on a topic she knows very little about and isn't totally...
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Sept. 29, 2022
3-in-1
This week, Kate answers three questions and made it into one episode after having an epiphany about 3-in-1 products and their correlation to the patriarchy, consumerism, and religion in line at a Walgreens (where she has all her best thoughts). This turducken of an episode snorkels the irony of the Dove Campaign for Real Beauty being executed alongside Axe Body Spray's incredibly sexist mid-aughts advertising and details some thoughts on her own struggles with body image over the past year that ...
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Sept. 25, 2022
Make Your Christian Brothers Autumnal
This week, Kate attempts to reclaim the nostalgic magic of fall by detailing her feelings about dystopian Instagram-backdrop businesses and resurrects the fauxliage phenomenon to chat about manufactured coziness and the art of photo taking. She then reminisces about some of her back to school and fall-related longings, like the lore of school supply shopping, how not all spiral notebook manufacturers are created equal, the scholastic book fair, among other things. She discusses her theory about ...
Sept. 18, 2022
Childless Millennial, Part III
This week, Kate updates you on the first half of the IVF/egg retrieval process and, in the second half, is fortunate enough to ask Kindbody co-founder Dr. Fahimeh Sasan about your questions regarding egg freezing/embryos/IVF because Kate wished she knew these things but was (and still is honestly) a person who isn't super into kid-related content. But for those of you that identified with Childless Millennial in 2020, this is kind of an update, where she summarizes how she got here, how she used...
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Sept. 11, 2022
That Don't Impress KD Much
This week, Kate has 3 of her friends from college on the podcast following a pilgrimage to the Shania Twain residency to talk about the things that don't impress them much about Vegas (and all the ways Vegas is no longer impressed with them). Following their trips to Vegas at ages 25 and 30 (now here for Kate's 35th birthday), they've noticed some subtle changes from their party girl days, e.g., getting rejected from a day club for having a breast pump and Kate being checked in to the hotel alon...
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Aug. 28, 2022
GDI Candy
This week, Kate starts by sharing her thoughts on how being fashionable in the early aughts meant to try the absolute HARDEST, a revelation that feels as glaring as her patent leather pumps after witnessing the shift in collegiate fashion upon spending "welcome weekend" in a college town. Then, she touches on Selling OC before reminiscing via reading through residual sorority stories that listeners submitted the past two years from when she was going to resuscitate the sorority series (before ac...
Aug. 21, 2022
Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants Store
This week, Kate discusses Bama RushTok from a slightly different angle, exploring the elaborate gender performance and implicit artifice of sorority recruitment in the context of being interpreted as [postmodern] 'camp' and a form of high art to consume, per the insight of Tiktok users @shorthouseplant and @themostes. The meaning of camp made the internet collectively melt down in 2019 following the Met Gala (given its defining characteristic being an inability to be concretely defined), but Kat...
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Aug. 14, 2022
Soft Swinging for the Fences
This week, Kate is joined by her sister to discuss what they've been up to, e.g. their unforeseen TV debut, Kate's new appreciation for sports, and the latest updates with the "soft swinging" scandal they recorded about for Patreon in May. Then, they snorkel listener submitted topics like nostalgic foods, first day of school outfits, what it's like to be the 'planner' of the group, making new friends in a city, The Summer I Turned Pretty, favorite fictional bands, and much more. Enjoy! SUPPORT ...
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July 31, 2022
Kate-lilah #15 (Answering Listener Voicemails)
This week, Kate is in and out of coherence as she records responses to listener voicemails throughout week 2 of fertility treatments. Kate-lilah is a play on radio icon Delilah's soothing highly subjective advice and once a quarter Kate answers listener questions, requests for advice, or plays commentary called into the show's voicemail hotline (312) 379-9676. This week, Kate chose a list of light topics by design for a breezy escape of an episode (with the exception of the last that's a bit mo...
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July 24, 2022
Sami is a Girl's Best Friend
This week, Kate is joined by Sami Sage (Co-founder and Chief Creative Officer of Betches) to have a stimulating conversation while they both happen to be stimulating their ovaries. They discuss their respective decisions to freeze embryos (briefly! skip mins 15-25ish if you want to dodge fertility talk), then venture into topics that are half light pop culture and half a deeper religious discussion (Kate's favorite combo!). First, they discuss their feelings about being renters/city dwellers, th...
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July 17, 2022
An Elephant Never Forgets
This week, Kate talks through a prompt from a listener about the times somebody said something to you in passing that ended up burned in your brain about your appearance, skills, competence, personality, etc. In a conversation about why words matter (revelatory!!), Kate rages through insults, side comments, and backhanded compliments listeners submitted that were likely meaningless on behalf of the messenger but transformational in their messaging long term. She also discusses her own list of pe...