Episodes

We (Robert & Holly) reflect on Season 7, what we’ve learned over the past year (from the show and our lives), and look ahead to the summer. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Check out all the episodes from Season 7 and beyond on our episodes page! - specific episodes we mention (in order of mention): - CXMH ep. 170 - Felt Safety, Honoring Our Needs, & the Flow of Strength (feat. Aundi Kolber) - CXMH ep. 162 - Celebrating One Year of The Soul of the Helper (feat. Dr. Holly ...

We’re closing out Season 7 with one of our favorite people! Therapist and author Aundi Kolber is back to talk about her new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing. We talk about why feeling safe matters, what our window of tolerance is, how the idea of our container can help, and how to navigate those things by trying softer. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Aundi’s first book, Try So...

This week we’re joined by the one and only Enneagram Godmother, Suzanne Stabile! Suzanne is one of the most renowned experts on the Enneagram, as well as being the author/co-author of books such as The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery, The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships, and her latest: The Journey Toward Wholeness: Enneagram Wisdom for Stress, Balance, and Transformation. She talks with us about what stances are, how understanding those le...

Studies show that when our teenagers get adequate sleep, it has huge impacts. From grades to safety to mental health, adolescents need more sleep then other ages. Unfortunately, the majority of adolescents in the United States aren’t getting enough sleep (and it’s usually because of school start times). This week we’re joined by Lisa L. Lewis, author of The Sleep-Deprived Teen: Why Our Teenagers Are So Tired, and How Parents and Schools Can Help Them Thrive. She talks with us about how much sle...

This week we’re joined by Regina Chow Trammel, co-author of A Counselor's Guide to Christian Mindfulness: Engaging the Mind, Body, and Soul in Biblical Practices and Therapies. She teaches us about the basics of mindfulness, how it can help, how it can work with Christian spirituality, and some practical tips for when mindfulness is hard. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Dr. Trammel’s Ted Talk: ‘Using Mindfulness to Deal with Everyday Pressures’ Connect with Regina on her ...

This week we’re joined by Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren, the author of Humble: Free Yourself from the Traps of a Narcissistic World. Daryl teaches us about different types of humility, how it can impact us & those around us, and how to cultivate humility in a world that’s increasingly narcissistic. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - CXMH ep. 103 - How We Move Through Suffering (feat. Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren & Sara Showalter Van Tongeren) Connect with Daryl on his website, on Instagr...

Today we’re joined by Rev. Dr. Sarah Travis, the author of Unspeakable: Preaching and Trauma-Informed Theology. She talks about what trauma-informed theology means, how that can shape preaching, and why preaching matters in the context of trauma. Dr. Travis teaches preaching at the University of Toronto and is also the author of Decolonizing Preaching: Decolonizing Preaching The Pulpit as Postcolonial Space and Metamorphosis: Preaching after Christendom. Things we mention in this episode/other ...

Content warning: discussion of self-harm, suicide, and related topics.  This week we’re joined by Dr. Janis Whitlock, one of the authors of Healing Self-Injury: A Compassionate Guide for Parents and Other Loved Ones. Dr. Whitlock talks about what self-injury is (2:46), how it differs from suicidal actions (3:47), ways self-harm can happen (4:59), current rates/trends (6:07), how self-harm works (8:18), first steps when helping someone (13:50), and much more. Things we mention in this episode...

This week we’re rebroadcasting our interview from 2019 with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith about different types of rest. Original show notes: - - - Have you ever wondered why you’re still tired if you’re getting enough sleep? How do we know if we’re actually even resting? Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith stops by the show to tell us about 7 different types of rest and how to make sure we’re actually restoring what we’re pouring out. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Dr. Dalton-Smith’s ...

We’re joined this week by Rick Lee James. Rick is a musician and worship leader, as well as running the biggest Mr. Rogers quotes account on Twitter, hosting a few podcasts, and is currently in a hospital chaplaincy program. We talk about all of those things, and how they interweave despite seemingly like separate areas of his life. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - The Simple Faith of Mister Rogers by Amy Hollingsworth - CXMH ep. 143 - Seeing the Sacred in Ourselves & Each...

This week we celebrate that Holly’s book, The Soul of The Helper, has been out for over a year! She reflects on the past year and answers some Q&As that she’s gotten since the book released. At the end, she shares an excerpt from the book chosen specifically for the CXMH audience as well as an exclusive reflection & unpacking of the excerpt. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - buy The Soul of the Helper: Seven Stages to Seeing the Sacred Within Yourself So You Can See It in Ot...

This week, we’re recasting our interview from early 2021 with Brandon Johnson. The original show note is below: --- Content warning: in this episode we talk about suicide This week we’re joined by Brandon Johnson, public health expert and creator of The Black Mental Wellness Lounge. We talk about why conversations specific to black mental health matter (including suicide prevention), how a public health lens helps, and the role that the black church can play. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk...

This week we’re joined by Eryn Eddy, founder of So Worth Loving! We talk about sharing our stories, when that can be unhealthy, navigating burnout & divorce, healing, and how we can find our self-worth along the journey. Eryn is also the author of So Worth Loving: How Discovering Your True Value Changes Everything. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Waiting to be Wanted: A Stepmom's Guide to Loving Before Being Loved by Cheryl Shumake Connect with Eryn on Instagram or Twitte...

This week we’re joined by Kevin Sweeney to talk about letting go, and how that can change both our internal & external lives. We also talk about mysticism, mushrooms, and weird interactions at the airport. Kevin is the author of The Joy of Letting Go: How One Thing Has the Power to Change Everything. Connect with Kevin on Instagram or buy his books on Amazon. Listen to ‘The Church Needs Therapy’ on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook! Connect with Robert on his website, ...

In our first interview for Season 7, we’re joined by Stephen Roach. Stephen talks to us about creativity, faith, mental health, and how all of those things intersect. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Makers & Mystics S9 E02: The Soul of The Helper with Holly Oxhandler - Stephen’s book Naming the Animals: An Invitation to Creativity - CXMH ep. 80 - Music & Ministry (feat. Rivers & Robots) - CXMH ep. 122 - How Writing Can Shape Your Past, Present, & Future (feat. Allison Fall...

After taking the fall off, we’re back and excited to kick off Season 7! In this episode, we talk about why we paused the show and where we go from here. Things we mention in this episode/other resources: - Embracing Rhythms of Work and Rest: From Sabbath to Sabbatical and Back Again by Ruth Haley Barton Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram...