If perfectionism is the enemy of happiness, why are so many striving for it?!? WHEW!!! That's a loaded question, right? But the truth is none of us wants to be perfect because perfectionism is too heavy a burden to bear. What we really want is to be LOVED, ACCEPTED, and fully ALIGNED with who we were created to be. In today's episode, Shirl and Natty share pieces of their journey to how perfectionism was ingrained in their lives from childhood and how they escaped it. Press play to hear what they have to say and be sure to listen til the end for a POWERFUL reflection question that will help you on your journey to healng. And be sure to joiin us in the Shades of Strong Facebook Community to share your response with us. The Facebook community is a safe space where you can connect with other Black women and have open and honest discussions about things that concern us individually and collectively. This is a safe space where we can lean on each other in times of trouble and unrest, and dance with each other in times of celebration. If you find yourself in this or previous episodes, and are ready to start your journey to healing, please consider joining us in the Sista Circle of Healing. The next cohort starts November 9th. Other Episodes in This 30 - Day Series Day 10 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhidng |The Fight Trauma Response & Cookie Lyon Day 9 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding |The Ride or Die That is Cookie Lyon Day 8 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding, |Is Cookie Lyon an Angry Black Woman Day 7 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding, |Kick People Pleasing to the Curb Day 6 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding | Ten Whole Years of People Pleasing DAY 5 People Pleasing A Harmless Act of Love or a Mental Health Risk? Day 4 Uncaping Unmasking Unhiding | Why We Become People Pleasers Day 3 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding |The Side Effects of the Black Superwoman Syndrome Day 2 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding | When Love Becomes Kryptonite Day 1 -- Uncaping, Unmasking, and Unhiding the Strong Black Superwoman Superwoman Must Die | Slaying the Strong Black Woman Syndrome Superwoman Quiz Are you a perfectionist, master performer, people pleaser, or people prover? Take this 4 minute quiz & get a breakdown of your superwoman archetype & how you can use this knowledge to start healing from the Strong Black Superwoman Syndrome.