Episode 285- The Wake Up Call

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[1:22] When my body stopped listening

DEB: A few weeks ago, my body stopped listening to me. Just for a few hours, my legs wouldn’t move the way I told them to. After some rest, it passed, but it was a wake-up call, and it sent me straight back to the science I’ve taught for 25 years: what stress and trauma actually do to the human body — and, more importantly, what we can do about it. That’s today’s episode. Not a confession — a toolkit. I’m going to show you exactly what happens in your nervous system and your immune system when life piles on, and then I’m going to give you real, evidence-based ways to support yourself through it.

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[2:37] Welcome to Let’s Talk Wellness Now

DEB: Welcome back to Let’s Talk Wellness Now, the show where we uncover the root causes of chronic illness, explore cutting-edge regenerative medicine, and empower you with the tools to heal. I’m Dr. Deb. If you’ve ever felt like your body was sending you a message you didn’t have time to answer, this episode is for you. We’re going to talk about the real physiology of stress and trauma, and I’m handing you a toolkit you can start using today. So grab your cup of coffee, tea, or whatever helps you unwind, settle in, and let’s get started.

[3:15] Seen at Last

DEB: Before we dive in: this episode touches on a theme I explore in my book, Seen at Last — what it feels like to keep showing up for everyone else while your own needs go unspoken. It’s available on Amazon, and I’m building a community around it. More on that soon, but for now, let’s dive into today’s episode.

[3:37] What happened, in short

DEB: I’m not going to spend this episode on the details of my month. Life has stacked up hard, all at once: business pressure, personal loss, family health crises. What matters is what happened next. My body flagged something that stress physiology has understood for decades, and I want to hand you that understanding. Here’s the short version: in the middle of an unusually hard stretch, my body — which has managed a quiet autoimmune condition for years — briefly stopped cooperating. A few hours later, I was fine, but it was loud enough to make me stop and ask, “What is actually happening inside my body, with something I thought I had healed?” When stress reaches that threshold, what can we do — ideally, before it gets that loud? That’s what this episode is going to share with you. Let’s get into the science, and then let’s talk about the tools.

[4:41] The HPA axis: your body’s alarm system

DEB: Stress and trauma affect the body in a variety of ways. Stress is not just a feeling. It’s a full-body, measurable physiological cascade, and understanding it is the first step to protecting yourself from it. We call this the HPA axis — your body’s alarm system. When your brain perceives a threat, your hypothalamus signals your pituitary gland, which signals your adrenal glands to release cortisol. This is the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, or HPA axis for short, and it’s meant to work as a short-term burst followed by a return to baseline.

[5:23] When the off switch breaks: cortisol resistance and inflammation

DEB: A 2025 review in the International Journal of Molecular Sciences lays out exactly what happens when that all-clear signal doesn’t come. With prolonged activation, the feedback loop that’s supposed to shut the axis off starts to break down. Cells can become resistant to cortisol’s regulating effects, and the whole system shifts toward a pro-inflammatory state. Newer research in Molecular Psychiatry describes the same pattern from the immune side: chronic stress hormones weakening cortisol’s normal anti-inflammatory effect while raising inflammatory messengers like IL-6 and TNF-alpha.

[6:09] Chronic stress and autoimmune disease

DEB: So what does this mean for autoimmune conditions specifically? That 2025 review ties persistent HPA dysregulation to lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and multiple sclerosis (MS). I want to be precise here: this is well established as an association and a mechanistic pathway, documented in both human and animal research. Its exact reversibility and the full clinical picture are still active areas of study. Animal models of MS have shown measurable HPA axis and oxidative stress changes that track with disease activity. This isn’t speculation — but it’s also not a settled, one-to-one clinical prediction for any individual person.

[7:03] The gut, the brain and the blood-brain barrier

DEB: Now, why your gut and your brain are part of this conversation too. You’ve heard us talk for years about the gut-brain axis. Chronic HPA activation doesn’t stay contained to the adrenal glands. Functional neurology research — including work associated with Dr. [Datis] Kharrazian’s clinic — describes how sustained cortisol elevation and neuroinflammation can compromise blood-brain barrier integrity, allowing inflammatory activity to reach further into the nervous system than it otherwise would. This is an emerging, mechanism-level area of functional neurology rather than settled consensus science, and I want to be transparent about that distinction on air.

[7:54] Why trauma is different from a bad week (polyvagal theory)

DEB: Why is trauma different from a bad week? Acute stress is your body handling one threat and returning to baseline. Trauma — especially the kind involving betrayal, grief, or ongoing fear for someone you love — tends to keep the nervous system in a sustained state of vigilance. Here it’s worth naming polyvagal theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, which describes the autonomic nervous system moving through gradations: safety and social connection; fight-or-flight mobilization; and, at the extreme, a dorsal vagal shutdown response. And I want to be straightforward with you and our listeners: polyvagal theory is widely used in trauma-informed clinical practice, but it’s actively debated within mainstream academic neuroscience, and some of its specific claims are considered unproven or contested by critics. I find it a very useful framework for describing what patients experience, and I’ll present it that way — not as settled physiology.

[9:02] The reframe: your symptoms are information

DEB: So here’s the reframe I want to leave you with. Your symptoms after a hard season are not you personally failing. They’re your body’s honest report of what it’s been going through — and that report is useful information that points directly to what you need to do next. And this is where we get into the heart of today’s episode. These are specific, evidence-informed tools, not vague wellness advice.

[9:29] Tool 1: Regulate your vagus nerve with paced breathing

DEB: First, regulate your vagus nerve — on purpose, every day. The vagus nerve is the main highway of your parasympathetic, rest-and-digest nervous system. Research on heart rate variability and biofeedback shows that slow-paced breathing — roughly six breaths per minute — reliably increases vagal tone, and even a single five-minute session of paced abdominal breathing has been shown to significantly reduce state anxiety, particularly in older adults. So try this: inhale for a count of four, exhale for a count of eight, and do it for five minutes, twice a day. This is a legitimate, measurable physiological intervention.

[10:19] Making time: breathing in the car

DEB: When I first started this, I could never figure out where I’d find the time. But all of us drive, and all of us get stuck at stop signs and stoplights. So I started doing deep abdominal breathing while driving. When I was younger and busy running my practice, taking care of my kids, and everything else household life brings, I didn’t have time when I got home. Between work and home, I was very stressed — thinking about everything I needed to do when I got home, and everything I still needed to finish at the clinic. Breathing in the car let me relax a little before transitioning from my career-woman role to my mother-and-wife role. I’m not as good at it today as I was then, because I don’t have kids at home anymore. I can just keep working, do whatever I want — I don’t have that responsibility of someone else needing me to take care of them.

[11:21] Truvaga, and the month I’ve had

DEB: One of the things I do now is use a device called a Truvaga. It’s a little handheld device: you run it along the side of your neck for 2 minutes on each side, twice a day, and you’re done. I have time for that. I can do it in the car, before bed, or between quick meetings — whatever I need to calm my nervous system so I’m not stressed and anxious. When I’m consistent with it, my body loves it. This past month, I haven’t been consistent, and my life has been in shambles. Many of you know what I’m going through right now with my son-in-law, who has cancer. I also recently found out that my husband’s carotid artery is 100% blocked and there’s nothing they can do for him. While we were waiting to make a decision, we waited a little too long. Thank goodness, there don’t appear to be any signs of a stroke, and I’m really grateful for that. But it has been one stressful thing after another, after another, after another for the last month. It’s been a real challenge for me, and using that vagus nerve stimulator has been crucial since my neurological episode.

[12:28] Tool 2: Use your voice

DEB: Second, use your voice. Because of the vagus nerve’s close anatomical connection to the muscles of the throat and the inner ear, humming, singing, and vocal toning are genuinely researched pathways for shifting the nervous system toward parasympathetic dominance.

[12:46] Tool 3: Protect your sleep

DEB: Number three: protect your sleep like it’s a clinical intervention — because it is. Sleep is when your HPA axis recalibrates. Given everything we just covered about cortisol dysregulation and inflammation, inconsistent sleep isn’t a lifestyle footnote. It’s a direct lever on the exact mechanisms driving symptom flares.

[13:09] Tool 4: Support the physical terrain (magnesium, B vitamins)

DEB: Number four: support the physical terrain. This isn’t guesswork, and we need guidance for it. Magnesium plays a documented role in regulating the HPA axis. Deficiency has been associated with heightened HPA reactivity and anxiety-like responses in preclinical models, and human research links low magnesium status to difficulties with mood and stress regulation. I want to be precise on air: magnesium is not FDA-approved as a treatment for cortisol dysregulation or any diagnosed condition. It’s a foundational nutrient best discussed with your own practitioner in the context of your labs. The same is true for B vitamins and adrenal hormone production.

[13:56] Test your cortisol rhythm, and Venari

DEB: If you’re working with a functional medicine provider, ask them to run a salivary cortisol panel so you can see your rhythm rather than guessing. In some states, you’re allowed to order this yourself, from a variety of sources. And if you need help interpreting it, you can use my Venari app — the new functional medicine AI program I’ve trained with all my years of knowledge and everything I’ve learned from the people I’ve trained with — so you can get answers from a functional medicine perspective. Check that out as well — it’s called Venari.

[14:36] Tool 5: Move your body aerobically

DEB: Number five: move your body, specifically aerobically. This isn’t about intensity. A controlled human trial found that improvements in aerobic fitness correlated with increased BDNF — brain-derived neurotrophic factor — and reduced inflammatory markers, including TNF-alpha. Broader research confirms that regular, moderate aerobic activity supports hippocampal health and lowers pro-inflammatory cytokine activity. A brisk 20- to 30-minute walk is doing real neuroimmune work for you.

[15:15] Tool 6: Coregulate, don’t white-knuckle it alone

DEB: Number six: coregulate. Don’t white-knuckle it alone. Within the polyvagal framework, our nervous system is described as regulating partly in relationship with other people’s nervous systems — sometimes called coregulation. Whatever framework you use to describe it, the practical takeaway is well supported by broader stress research: social connection during a hard season is a protective factor, not a luxury. If you’re isolating during your hardest stretch, that’s the moment to reach out, not withdraw. We need our support systems. Call your girlfriend, call your mom, call your therapist — whatever you need to do to connect with others instead of being alone during this time.

[16:05] Tool 7: Know your early warning signs

DEB: Number seven: know your own early warning signs. Part of what I learned from my own wake-up call is that my body had almost certainly been signaling me long before it demanded my attention. Identify your signals right now, today. Is it tightness in your shoulders and neck, where you’re walking around hunched up? Skipped meals? Snapping at people you love? Difficulty sleeping? Forgetfulness? Just not enjoying life anymore? Name yours, so you can respond at signal one instead of waiting for the crisis — when your legs don’t move anymore.

[16:45] A note on adaptogens

DEB: Now, a note on supplements and herbs. Adaptogens like ashwagandha and rhodiola have preliminary research behind a possible role in HPA axis modulation. But they are not FDA-approved treatments for any condition, and they can interact with medications and certain health conditions, so talk to your practitioner about adding them. I’ve used these for decades, and they work beautifully when people are in really stressful situations.

[17:13] Your invitation: name your early warning sign

DEB: Here’s the question worth asking yourself — and this is what I want to leave you with: an invitation, not a confession. What is your early warning sign? Put it in the comments below so we can see it. Not your breaking point — the early sign before the breaking point, the one you can actually act on. And when you notice it, what is one tool from today’s list you’re actually going to use? Not someday — this week. Because here’s the truth: you don’t have to wait for a crisis to give yourself permission to regulate your nervous system. You can start on any ordinary Tuesday, before anything forces your hand. And if you need a group of people to support you, listen to you, or give you some information, join our free Facebook group, Seen at Last, where we can be your sounding board if you need one. We’re happy to do it. It’s free, it’s on Facebook — join us today. We’d love to support you.

[18:20] Wrap-up

DEB: Thank you for spending this time with me. If this episode helped you understand your body a little better, share it with someone who needs a toolkit right now, not just sympathy. Remember, wellness isn’t just about feeling good. It’s about thriving in every area of your life — including actively supporting your nervous system before it has to demand your attention. And if you’re ready to explore root cause care for yourself, visit us at serenityhealthcarecenter.com. Until next time, I’m Dr. Deb, reminding you to take care of your body, mind, and spirit. Be well, and I’ll see you on the next episode.

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