Episode 164: Wasted: What Families Can Do To Stop Enabling An Addict with Candace Plattor

Candace Plattor (https://lovewithboundries.com) shares how families can stop enabling their loved ones and reclaim their lives. Dr. Deb and Candace talk about addictions of all kinds and how families can thrive from the addiction and not just cope or enable their loved ones’ problems.

Do not miss these highlights:

06:01 Candace’s story of addiction and recovery

13:01 How does somebody know they have a problem – The difference between a habit and an addiction

14:53 The real problem is the denial that’s going on with people who have an addiction

15:59 The actual addiction, the actual behavior or the substance isn’t really the problem, the problem is what’s underneath – what’s the need for someone to be having an addictive behavior

18:23 Addiction is progressive, there’s something called “tolerance” involved in addiction

19:11 The role of a family in addiction

22:24 What’s the difference between enabling and codependency

24:28 It’s not a loving act to do anything that contributes to keeping an addict in their addiction

27:05 Even if there’s a genetic predisposition in your family, even if addiction is running in your family, it doesn’t mean that you’re also going to be an addict – It’s really about choice

31:43 The family is so important in the addiction recovery journey – Let your family member who’s suffering from addiction know that they are loved

34:16 The difference between self-respect and self-esteem

41:08 How to prevent yourself from going into another addiction when giving up one addiction

Resources Mentioned

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About our Guest:

Candace Plattor is an Addictions Therapist in private practice, where she specializes in working with the family and other loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction, in her unique and signature Family Addiction Counselling and Therapy Program. As a former addict with over 34 years clean and sober, Candace has learned that overcoming addiction is a family condition: everyone in the family is affected by addiction and everyone needs to heal. For more than three decades, she has been helping both addicts and their loved ones understand their dysfunctional behaviours and make healthier life choices.

The results Candace achieves have been astounding: addicts stop using and families regain their lives from the ravages of addiction. Not only has her success led to a waiting list of clients but she is a sought after leader in the field of addictions. As the developer of the LoveWithBoundaries Family Addiction Counselling and Therapy method, Candace now works with her team of top counsellors and coaches, helping both the families and their addicts break the devastating cycle of addiction for good.

IIf addiction is causing pain and suffering in your family, and you’re ready to do what it takes to reclaim your sanity and serenity so you can live your best life, you can contact Candace for a free 30-minute consultation.

Website – www.LoveWithBoundaries.com

Facebook – Candace@candaceplattor.com

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/ACoAAAFH2m0BN2RYbgI3y0xe0oh6S-ePF-d6JFY/

Twitter –https://twitter.com/candaceplattor

Transcript of episode #164:

Debra Muth 0:02Welcome to Let’s Talk Wellness Now. I’m your host, Dr. Deb. This is where we talk about everything wellness, and learn to defy aging, and live our lives on our own terms.

Hi, and welcome to Let’s Talk Wellness Now, I’m your host, Dr. Deb. And today we are going to talk about addiction. You know, addiction is everywhere. It touches the lives of everyone, whether it’s an exercise addiction, a food addiction, sugar is a common thing for us. Maybe it’s even something like work, or it’s it could be a bad addiction. It could be something that’s healthy. But when it goes to extremes, it’s considered an addiction. And I think all of us know someone who’s had a problem with addiction, all of us know someone who’s had some kind of issue themselves, maybe with a struggle of a healthy habit or a bad habit. It doesn’t really seem to matter. And I’m rambling now and I apologize for that. But today, my guest is Candace Plattor and she’s an addiction therapist in a private practice where she specializes in working with the family, and other loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction in her unique and signature family addiction counseling and therapy program. As a former addict herself with over 34 years clean and sober. Candace has learned that overcoming addiction is a family connect condition. Everyone in the family is affected by addiction and everyone in the family needs to heal. For more than three decades, she has been helping both addicts and their loved ones understand their dysfunctional behaviors and make healthier life choices. The results Candace achieves have been astounding addicts stop using and families regain their lives from the ravages of addiction.

Not only has her success led to a waiting list of clients, but she is a sought after leader in the field of addictions. As the developer of the love with boundaries, family addiction counseling and therapy method, Candace now works with her team of top counselors and coaches helping both the families and their addicts break the devastating cycle of addiction for good if addiction is causing pain and suffering in your family and you’re ready to do what it takes to reclaim your sanity and serenity. So you can live your best life, you can contact Candace for a free 30 minute consultation as well.

So I’m going to bring Candace on here and we’re going to talk about addiction. We’re going to talk about how it affects the family. And she’s also going to share with us tips and ideas of things that people can do, who are suffering from addiction, overcome addiction, and get their life back and have their family life back the way they’ve always intended it to be. So right after this message from our sponsor, we’re going to bring Candace back and we’re going to talk all about addiction.

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Welcome back to Let’s Talk Wellness Now. I’m your host, Dr. Deb and I have with me today Candace Plattor. And we are going to talk about love with boundaries. And she was going to tell us a very personal story about how she got involved in this. So Candace, welcome to the show.

Candace Plattor 4:51Hello. Hi, Dr. Deb and everyone.

Debra Muth 4:54Well welcome. So Candace, tell us a little bit about yourself.

Candace Plattor 4:58Well, I An addictions therapist in beautiful Vancouver, Canada. And I have been doing this workload at what I do specifically is I work with the families of people who are addicted. I also work with the addicts but I, I primarily work I specialize in working with the families because, you know, they’re suffering and struggling right along with the addicts they love so much. And there’s so little help for them out there.

Debra Muth 5:31Absolutely. I’m so glad that you’re doing that.

Candace Plattor 5:34Thank you. Yeah, yeah. So. So I’ve been doing that work for about 30 years now. And I myself 34 years clean and sober.

Debra Muth 5:48Congratulations!

Candace Plattor 5:50thank you. And July, it will be 35 years. And this occurred because I have Crohn’s disease. And I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease about 50 years ago, when nobody knew about Crohn’s disease. Nobody knew what it was. Nobody was really diagnosing it. In fact, I was often told that it was in my head, which it was not, you know. And I was very sick, and very unhappy. And what the doctors in the early 70s, what the doctors did was, because they didn’t know what else to do for me. And so they threw a lot of addictive medications at me. So they gave me things like Valium and out of them and they gave me things like OxyContin and codeine and morphine. And they kept renewing the prescriptions. They kept refilling the prescriptions like month after month, year after year, and I started smoking more pot, which I had used recreationally it wasn’t a problem before that, but it really helped the symptoms and it helped. It helped the shame of that kind of disease. So for anybody who doesn’t know, Crohn’s disease is an inflammat...