Episodes

This week is a bit different but something we’ve wanted to do a while. Our dear friend, Professor Sex, finished their thesis several months ago and generously allowed us to discuss their work on... The post Research on Kink Behavior vs. Kink Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The topic of toxic masculinity — in power exchange and kink or not — is a huge one. But as with all of these conversations, we have to start somewhere. In this week’s episode,... The post Toxic Masculinity in Power Exchange | A Dominant’s Perspective appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Spoiler: This episode is about sex, and it’s a TMI episode about the two of us, our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and more. If that’s more than you want to hear, feel free to skip... The post Answering Spicy Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We mentioned something in last week’s episode on people-pleasing — about needing to talk to JB about a stressor Kayla tried to handle alone — and it got us thinking about the things we... The post Sharing Burdens in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

People pleasing happens for a lot of reasons, and it manifests in a lot of ways. We’re talking about it this week, specifically as it relates to power exchange and D/s, based (primarily) on... The post People Pleasing in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about intimacy before — link below — but this time, a post on Instagram gave me (Kayla) some specific examples of intimacy beyond the obvious. Also, yes, this is a solo episode... The post Different Types of Intimacy in Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode was recorded while we waited for Hurricane Ian, so it’s more chaotic than usual. Also, we took help from kinksters over on Instagram. We asked, “What do you wish people (including... The post What Kinksters Want Others to Stop Getting Wrong About Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re reacting (or responding) to the BDSM questions asked on Reddit! In this episode: Live Stream/Virtual Munch this Friday, September 16! We’re taking next week off. Reacting/responding to BDSM questions from Reddit... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we answered listener questions about a variety of topics: masochism, kinky bucket lists, non-monogamy, and more! In this episode: Our first scene experience Where are all the middles? How do we deal... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, let’s talk about voice kinks: what are they and do we have any? In this episode: Defining voice kinks What we like about voices Do we have a voice kink? Thanks to... The post Voice Kinks appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re talking about anger, upset, and other negative feelings specifically in terms of submission. How do you submit when you’re angry at your Dom? The answer is…it depends. In this episode: Want... The post Submitting While Angry or Upset appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we get personal — more than usual — and have a formal check-in of our D/s relationship. We tend to do this on a frequent and casual basis, bringing up concerns or... The post Checking in on Our D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s podcast, we discuss the term “service top” — and there are a lot of ways to define it! In this episode: Multiple definitions of service top What it means to us... The post What is a Service Top? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We (kind of) get where this question comes from — submissives are seen to bend to the will of their Dominant partner, submissive training and behavior modification are tools used in some D/s relationships.... The post Does a Submissive Have to Change in D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, we took questions from Instagram and then from the YouTube live chat. Plus, the bonus section actually has bonus content about our power exchange. (Proving miracles can happen.) In this... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re back with another BDSM Reddit reaction episode! And for once, the answer to all of these posts was something other than, “Talk to your partner!” In this episode: Why the podcast was late... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A term keeps popping up in Kayla’s feeds: conscious kink. But what does that even mean? Is it a new way of thinking about BDSM or is it a catch-all term used in marketing?... The post What is Conscious Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It might seem like a random topic but the joy we’ve felt (at times) in our power exchange is so powerful and amazing that it’s important to acknowledge. And also, we can’t be the... The post Joy in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, we talk about the label “alpha sub” — how it was defined when we first heard of it and what it means to many people today. In this episode: Thanks... The post What is an Alpha Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone posed an interesting question when thinking about power exchange relationships and new potential partners: What do you bring to the table as a kinkster and just as a person? So that’s what... The post What Do You Bring to the Table? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A listener sent us a question about telling the difference between love bombing and being an eager caregiver type with new relationship energy (NRE). We decided to talk about love bombing, ideas for figuring... The post Love Bombing and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re revisiting a topic we talked about back in 2019: teamwork in power exchange. The conversation focuses on a book we recently read specifically on the idea of having a dynamic built... The post Collaboration and Teamwork appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Not every power exchange relationship needs (or wants!) an element of discipline, punishment, and consequences. But for those who do, there are a lot of things to keep in mind. This week, we’re sharing... The post Minisode 56: Punishment Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week we’re talking about something near and dear to our experience — perfectionism, and how it can impact your power exchange relationship and you as a kinkster, regardless of your role. In this... The post Perfectionism in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.