Episodes

April 11, 2025

No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode

We had a topic all planned and then life threw us for a bit of a loop on a day when we were already exhausted. Since we want to do the topic justice, we... The post No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.
April 7, 2025

Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom?

A submissive isn’t sure how to be there for their switchy Daddy Dom. Here’s the question: My partner and I are both relatively new to BDSM and kink and are in a Daddy Dom... The post Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
April 4, 2025

Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic

After multiple emails with the same question, it was time to talk about it. If you’re afraid to ask for “too much” in your dynamic or don’t think you deserve what you want, there... The post Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 31, 2025

Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink

A submissive is about to move in with their long distance partner. The submissive is new to sex and kink and has never done either. They have anxiety, and their partner has ADHD. And... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 28, 2025

Kinky AITA

This week’s BDSM Reddit response is a kinky version of “Am I the asshole?”! In this episode: You can still register for the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Horny grandma on OnlyFans Breaking up because... The post Kinky AITA appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 24, 2025

Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy?

A Domme wants to give their submissive what he wants – to call his partner Mommy – but it’s jarring to hear. Here’s the question: I stepped back into the BDSM lifestyle as a... The post Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 21, 2025

24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange

Thanks to multiple questions we received in a previous “ask us anything” episode, we’re devoting an entire episode to 24/7 D/s and total power exchange – are they the same thing or not? As... The post 24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 17, 2025

Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side?

A submissive knows they’re a people pleaser, but they also want to explore their bratty side. Here’s the question: I am a submissive who’s been exploring kink for a few years now. I have... The post Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 14, 2025

Experimenting with Rules in Public

This was a really hard episode to concisely explain in a title. We’re taking our own advice and starting low and slow when trying new things in our power exchange. In this case, we’re... The post Experimenting with Rules in Public appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 10, 2025

Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent?

A kinky couple wants to try consensual non-consent (CNC) and is looking for ideas and tips on the negotiation process. Here’s the question: I (f26) have been with my Dom (m33) for a little... The post Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 6, 2025

Kinky Q&A

This week, we answer some of the kinky questions you asked us over on Instagram (at that handle that will be hated forever!). Links from the episode: Ask Your Questions Our mailing address is:... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.
March 3, 2025

Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together?

They’re thinking of moving in together and want to make sure they plan appropriately. Here’s the question: I am a newer submissive who’s in a LDR with a Daddy Dom. We have met several... The post Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Feb. 27, 2025

Perimenopause and Power Exchange

Perimenopause can impact a person’s life for a decade or more, so of course it affects your power exchange relationship and kink life. And it’s past time to talk about it. In this episode:... The post Perimenopause and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Feb. 17, 2025

Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange?

You’ll hear the audio skip during the intro – it was a problem we discovered after we recorded. The rest of the episode should be fine. They’ve renegotiated their power exchange and removed punishment,... The post Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Feb. 13, 2025

Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity

A lot of feelings come up when you’re getting back to the D/s relationship you want or reconfiguring it to work for your life now. For us, it’s been feelings of comfort (Kayla) and... The post Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Feb. 10, 2025

Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma?

Content warning: mentions (but no descriptions) of sexual abuse and trauma in a past D/s relationship A submissive left an abusive power exchange relationship and has found a Dominant partner that makes them happy,... The post Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Feb. 6, 2025

Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange

We needed something lighthearted this week, so we’re taking a look at some of the silly little “arguments” we get into. In this episode: Our 2025 Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Argument... The post Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Feb. 3, 2025

Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex?

This week, a submissive can’t stop worrying about her partner’s previous sexual experience but her Dominant also worries he’s not giving her big enough orgasms. Here’s the question: My boyfriend and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Jan. 30, 2025

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we could use a cathartic rant or two, so we’re responding to the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community during the 2025 Patreon Membership Drive and get... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Jan. 27, 2025

Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well?

A submissive agreed to their partner “No” on agreed upon topics, but their partner reacts in a way that’s causing resentment. The submissive knows they need to talk but also knows their partner doesn’t... The post Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Jan. 23, 2025

Obedience in Power Exchange

Obedience is a necessary part of submission, but it’s not experienced the same by all submissives – or their Dominant partners. In this episode: Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Definition of obedience:... The post Obedience in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Jan. 20, 2025

Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic?

A Dominant wants to support their submissive but they don’t know how to do that and maintain their D/s dynamic. Here’s the question: My wife has voiced interest in kink play. She is submissive... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic? appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Jan. 16, 2025

Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities

This week, we’re talking about the early days of reconnecting with our kinky selves – what it’s been like so far, how we got here, and more. In this episode: Join us this Friday,... The post Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities appeared first on Loving BDSM.
Jan. 13, 2025

Q&A: Am I Really Submissive?

In this week’s episode, their partner is willing to top them but not be their Dominant. They also have conflicted feelings about their submission leading them to wonder if they’re really submissive at all.... The post Q&A: Am I Really Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM.