Episodes

We joke about Kayla’s control issues, but they’re definitely a thing we both have to navigate in our power exchange. In this episode: We joke about Kayla’s control issues all the time. The stereotype... The post Submission With Control Issues appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a submissive is ready to get back to their previous kink life but their partner might not be as ready. Here’s the question: I have a question with no easy answer. I... The post Q&A: How Do We Get Our Kink Life Back After Having a Baby? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Hair pulling inspired this week’s episode – because it was a grounding and/or centering moment in kink. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Friday night live stream on May 17 starting at... The post What Grounds or Centers You in Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive needs more commands and strictness from their Dominant to feel the power exchange, but they’re not getting what they need. Here’s the question: My kind sadist seems to be under the impression... The post Q&A: How Do I Help My Dom Act More Commanding? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Each partner has responsibilities to the other, to yourselves, and to the power exchange relationship. We’ve talked about this in the distant past, but it’s worth discussing again. In this episode: This week’s episode... The post Responsibilities to Your Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a kinkster asks if it’s time to let their kinky relationship go. Here’s the question: My BDSM relationship is disintegrating. I don’t know what to do. Other than let him go and... The post Q&A: Should I Just Let My BDSM Relationship End? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week we answer relationship questions that are supposed to make us feel “warm and fuzzy.” In this episode: Our Wednesday live streams are changing times starting May 8 from 12pm ET to 7pm... The post Answering Feel Good Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a submissive has been assigned the task of coming up with ideas for punishments and rewards in their new D/s relationship, and they’re not what to put on their list. Here’s the... The post Q&A: What Make Good Punishments and Rewards? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

If Kayla Rants™ are one of your kinks, our BDSM Reddit episodes are made for you. In this week’s Reddit response, we talk about spanking “ugly” butts, learning to be a Dominant, soft limit... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question is something both of us have dealt with – and there aren’t any easy answers. Here’s the question: How do you handle family members and/or friends who disagree with your kink... The post Q&A: What Do I When People Reject Me For Being Kinky? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We didn’t have it in us to focus on a single topic, so this is a bonus section episode – rambly, pointless, and chaotic (on purpose!). If you prefer a topic-based discussion, feel free... The post A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster feels like they’re the only monogamous person in their local kink community, and it’s really bothering them. Here’s the question: I recently got involved with a local kink community, although I’ve been... The post Q&A: Are Most Kinky People Also Non-Monogamous? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s topic came straight from a recent Patreon live stream where we were asked about how to be confident in a power exchange dynamic and within your kink identity. Here are our thoughts.... The post Building Confidence in D/s and Your Kink Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We are so sorry for the sound quality on this episode. We knew we had issues with the video, but we didn’t realize the mics wouldn’t be picked up when we switched cameras. The... The post Q&A: What Kinky Lingerie Options Are Available for Big Breasts? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We are so sorry about the audio quality! We had tech issues for the live stream/video side of things and didn’t realize until afterwards that the fix for the video had caused our mics... The post Do Submissives Really Have All the Power in D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster’s ex-spouse figured out they were kinky during the divorce, and it impacted the divorce decree. Now they want to introduce their sub but are worried about being found out later. Here’s the... The post How Do I Introduce My Kink Partner and Honor the Requirements of My Divorce? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re back from our break and answering some random relationship questions we found on Instagram! In this episode: Get your free ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, April 8-11! Questions: What’s your favorite... The post Answering Random But “Deep” Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster is part of their local community but still finds it difficult to make connections, especially with a possible long term partner. Here’s the question: I’ve been an active member of the community... The post Q&A: How Do I Connect With People in My Local Kink Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re going on break next week but before we do, we asked for your kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions over on Instagram! Here’s what we think… In this episode: We’re taking next week... The post Responding to Your Kinky Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster had a question about specific items they wanted to use in kink which gave us a great excuse to talk about pervertables in general! Here’s the question: I am on a budget.... The post Q&A: Will These Household Items Work as Pervertables? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For this week’s episode, we asked for your questions over on Instagram. In this episode: Check out our newest products on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Yes, we’re answering the questions that allow us to... The post Ask Us Anything! appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The person who submitted this question said it was complex, and they weren’t wrong. Here’s the question: I have a question on how to handle loyalty conflicts in complex situations. I live in Europe,... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate a Complex Poly and Kink Relationship with Two Partners? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode isn’t meant to be a continuation of the pleasure Dom discussion from last week – though it seems that way. Instead it’s a reminder to (too many) kinksters that yes, submissives... The post Submission and Pleasure appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question comes from a submissive who’s getting their desire for kink and sex back but doesn’t want to feel like they’re telling their Dom what to do. Here’s the question: I (31F... The post Q&A: How Do I Let My Dom Know I’m Ready for Sex and Kink Without Feeling Like I’m Initiating Play? appeared first on Loving BDSM.