Episodes

Get your Halloween tickets 🎃 (Want both nights? Have 20% off!) Night 1: https://ap1.hubs.ly/H01rw9z0 Night 2: https://ap1.hubs.ly/H01rwc_0 Jess and Lawrence play Two Truths and a Lie with OSS staff Anna, Conny and Ilona. Everyone’s brought a few stories, someone’s lying, and there are water guns waiting for the wrong answer. Anna has some after-hours office antics to explain, Conny drops a former NRL player into the conversation, and Ilona tells us about inviting two dates to the same venue. Jes...

See all the show notes: https://oursecretspot.com.au/sexiest-moments-of-the-year-part-2/ The Sexiest Moments of the Year aren't done yet. Part 2 digs back into another year of Swapping Secrets with Jess, Lawrence and some familiar guests for the conversations, stories and complete derailments that were too good not to hear again. We're talking dating red flags, open relationships, relationship stigma, consent, safer sex, boundaries, three-way encounters, fantasies, attraction and what happens wh...

Swapping Secrets is officially one year old, and apparently the best way to celebrate is to drag some of our funniest, filthiest, smartest and most chaotic moments back into the light. Jess and Lawrence revisit the clips they still can’t forget, alongside some brilliant moments from the guests and community members who’ve joined them over the past year. We’re talking open relationships, swinging, consent, communication, first-time nerves, bisexuality, sexual health, stage fright, relationship ...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Lawrence sits down with adult entertainer and content creator Kim Cums to find out what life behind OnlyFans and the adult entertainment industry actually looks like. Kim’s path into the industry wasn’t exactly conventional. After studying archaeology and environmental science, an online relationship, kink exploration and early webcam modelling gradually led her into escorting, adult content creation and eventually building her own platform, KimCums.com. Bu...

Reddit has questions about bisexuality… and some of them are MESSY. With Jess away on maternity leave, Lawrence is joined by returning guests Bradford and Angela from By the Bi to tackle Reddit’s wildest bisexual dilemmas. From women refusing to date bisexual men and the double standards surrounding bi relationships, to discovering same-sex attraction later in life, the trio unpack where personal preference ends and biphobia begins — and why bisexuality still gets tangled up with assumptions a...

What if better intimacy had less to do with technique and more to do with understanding your body? In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Miranda Cheng, founder of We The Femme and a practitioner in pelvic care and holistic sexuality. Together, they explore how the pelvic floor, nervous system, stress and breath can influence desire, arousal and pleasure. Although many people focus on what they should do during sex, Miranda explains why noticing what is already ha...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess, Lawrence and producer Gabe revisit the movies, television shows and characters that quietly shaped how they understood queerness, gender, relationships and acceptance. They discuss the difference between meaningful representation and tokenism, why some of the strongest queer characters are simply allowed to exist without their identity becoming the entire storyline, and how children’s television can normalise different relationships without turning the...

For Pride Month, we’re diving into the realities of modern queer relationships with elite gay matchmaker and relationship expert Daniel Cooley. From dating app burnout and modern matchmaking to monogamy, non-monogamy, communication, and the biggest misconceptions people have about LGBTQIA+ relationships, this conversation goes far beyond the stereotypes. Daniel shares what thousands of conversations with gay men have taught him about love, loneliness, dating, commitment, and why many people ar...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence sit down with renowned sexologist and relationship counsellor Alice Child to answer one of the biggest questions facing modern couples: Why does intimacy break down, even in loving relationships? From mismatched libidos and emotional labour to communication challenges, parenting, stress, resentment and screen-time overload, Alice explains the most common reasons couples seek professional help and what actually works when it comes to rebuild...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence sit down with internationally recognised dominatrix, sex educator, and somatic practitioner Eva Oh for one of the deepest and most psychologically fascinating conversations the podcast has explored yet. From power dynamics and long-term psychological play to shame, erotic liberation, BDSM, submission, embodiment, and human desire — Eva opens up about the hidden emotional worlds behind kink and why so many people crave control, surrender, pu...

Jess and Lawrence are diving into Reddit’s wildest open relationship stories — and things get messy fast. From ethical non-monogamy dating struggles and first-time anxiety to sex club boundaries, changing rules mid-play, safer sex debates and questionable couple behaviour, this episode unpacks the Reddit posts that made them laugh, cringe and ask: is this real or is this a troll? Want more of this smut? Join our Patreon for extra spicy content! Sponsors: “Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au ...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, we explore people, policy and pleasure podcast conversations with Deputy Lord Mayor Jess Miller, unpacking the hidden history of sex-on-premises venues in Sydney and how thoughtful legislation has shaped safer adult communities. From the legacy of the Disorderly Houses Act to the Bodyline precedent, police discretion, planning reform, and the role of local councils, this conversation explores how rules and boundaries can actually create safer, more expressiv...

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Dr. Leigh Barlow for a candid conversation about sex stigma, sexual health, STI testing, condoms, herpes, BV, and the choices that help people stay safe without shame. Together, they unpack why stigma around sex still exists, where sex education still falls short, and […] The post Sex Stigma and Smart Choices with Dr. Leigh Barlow appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence unpack one of the most relatable (and chaotic) parts of modern relationships — red flags in dating and why we ignore them when attraction takes over. We’ve all been there… The red flags are obvious, but the chemistry is too strong to walk away. From cocky […] The post Red Flags We Ignore Because We’re Horny appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

🔥 Want more of this smut? Join our Patreon for extra spicy content! In this exclusive, sneak-peek clip from our new segment, Raunchy Recaps, Jess and Lawrence share some of the wildest swingers club stories from inside Our Secret Spot. From dungeon encounters and orgy room chaos to hilarious behind-the-scenes moments, these real lifestyle stories […] The post Dungeon Anal, Orgy Showers and Schoolgirl Chaos | Wild Swingers Club Stories appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence sit down with Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club — the world’s largest women-only community for bisexual and bi-curious women. With over 27,000 members worldwide, Skirt Club has created a safe, empowering environment where women can explore sexuality, identity, and desire without pressure or judgement. 🔥 […] The post What Happens at a Women-Only Sex Party? (w/ Genevieve LeJeune) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

In Part 2 of this deep-dive episode, Jess and Lawrence answer real questions from the OSS community about boundaries, consent, rule-breaking, and what really happens when things shift mid-play. Plus, voice messages and video questions from our extended community — including familiar faces from the lifestyle podcast space. This episode is raw, honest and unfiltered […] The post Did Swinging Ruin Our Relationship? appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

What happens when curiosity turns into lived experience — and desire reshapes your identity, relationships, and sense of self? In Part 1 of this raw and reflective episode, Jess and Lawrence unpack how sexual desire can both liberate and destabilise. From early curiosity and boundary-blurring moments to the emotional hangovers no one prepares you for, […] The post Did Our Sexual Desires Mess Us Up? appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Midlife used to be framed as the beginning of the sexual slow-down. Less desire. Less energy. Less spark. But what if that story is completely wrong? In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by globally renowned intimacy expert Susan Bratton to unpack what she calls The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance — […] The post The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance – Why Sex Gets Better With Age w/ Susan Bratton (BetterLover) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Bradford and Angela from the By The By Podcast to unpack the emotional mechanics of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, and the boundaries that keep open relationships healthy, sexy, and sustainable. Together, they explore why jealousy often has more to do with […] The post The Sexiest thing YOU can do is Set a Boundary appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Naughty Christmas swinger stories are the unofficial love language of the holidays — and OSS has plenty to unwrap. In this extra-spicy Christmas special, Jess and Lawrence dive headfirst into naughty Christmas swinger stories sent in by the community, opening listener gifts, reading filthy confessions, and reliving the most outrageous festive moments of the year. […] The post Naughty Christmas Special: Listener Gifts, Wild Stories and OSS Holiday Chaos appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Self-pleasure has quietly shifted from a whispered taboo to a full-blown cultural reclamation — and few people have championed that transformation more powerfully than Rosie Rees. In this episode, Jess and Lawrence dive deep into the world of empowered intimacy, slow pleasure, mindful masturbation, and the quiet revolution happening in bedrooms everywhere. Rosie opens up […] The post Pleasure Without Permission with Rosie Rees appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Consent is easy when it’s a bright, enthusiastic “yes.” But what about the murky moments — the mixed signals, the non-verbal cues, the awkward pauses, or the moments you only realise after the fact that something felt… off? In this episode, Lawrence, and our guest Prue, dive into the real-world grey areas of consent — […] The post Reading the Signals — When Consent Isn’t Clear-Cut appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Jess and Lawrence pull back the curtain on one of the most real, raw challenges in the lifestyle: how to balance parenting with swinging, non-monogamy, and staying sexy. From babysitters to bedtime, stigma to scheduling — this episode is a candid look at the juggling act of raising toddlers while still embracing fun, intimacy, and […] The post Swinging Parents: Tackling Stigma and Scheduling Sex appeared first on Our Secret Spot.