Episodes

Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win. We all carry around an invisible bucket; it represents our well being. Family members, friends, coworkers can all put rocks in our buckets….and we can put ...

Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win. We all carry around an invisible bucket; it represents our well being. Family members, friends, coworkers can all put rocks in our buckets….and we can put ...

Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win. We all carry around an invisible bucket; it represents our well being. Family members, friends, coworkers can all put rocks in our buckets….and we can put ...

This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2. 1. What is a relational safety zone? 2. It’s ok to love your mom. 3. A rock and a hard spot; You between your wife and your kids. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit fro...

This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2. 1. What is a relational safety zone? 2. It’s ok to love your mom. 3. A rock and a hard spot; You between your wife and your kids. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit fro...

This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2. 1. What is a relational safety zone? 2. It’s ok to love your mom. 3. A rock and a hard spot; You between your wife and your kids. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit fro...

There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1. 1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!” 2. What is reverse betrayal? 3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they co...

There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1. 1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!” 2. What is reverse betrayal? 3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they co...

There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1. 1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!” 2. What is reverse betrayal? 3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they co...

A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc. Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that? Be aware. Be intentional. What do you think? We’d like to hear from you! hello@gilandbrenda.com Action Steps: 1. Look for ways your spouse/frien...

A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc. Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that? Be aware. Be intentional. What do you think? We’d like to hear from you! hello@gilandbrenda.com Action Steps: 1. Look for ways your spouse/frien...

A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc. Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that? Be aware. Be intentional. What do you think? We’d like to hear from you! hello@gilandbrenda.com Action Steps: 1. Look for ways your spouse/frien...

This is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! “Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged." ... "This is how true intimacy is...

This is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! “Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged." ... "This is how true intimacy is...

This is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! “Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged." ... "This is how true intimacy is...

This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be deflated. Violation of trust can lead to pain and confusion. Gil and Brenda talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. If damaged, how do you ...

This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be deflated. Violation of trust can lead to pain and confusion. Gil and Brenda talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. If damaged, how do you ...

This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be deflated. Violation of trust can lead to pain and confusion. Gil and Brenda talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. If damaged, how do you ...

This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when...

This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when...

This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when...

This is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep questions. Gil and Brenda tackle these with specific ways to find the answers for yourself! It starts with you! How can you expect your spouse to meet your n...

This is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep questions. Gil and Brenda tackle these with specific ways to find the answers for yourself! It starts with you! How can you expect your spouse to meet your n...

This is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep questions. Gil and Brenda tackle these with specific ways to find the answers for yourself! It starts with you! How can you expect your spouse to meet your n...