Episodes

This week, Kristen and Matthias chat through how much is appropriate to share with teens about our own teenage years. Plus, are active shooter drills in schools helpful or harmful? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Beth McCormack about delivering a child with a congenital heart defect and overcoming infant medical trauma. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources: Open Story luggage at Target...

This week, Kristen and Matthias introduce a new series called “What I Want You to Know” featuring stories from Selfie listeners. Plus, revenge procrastination: what is it and how do we stop staying up so late? And, Britney Spears is finally free! What is a conservatorship and what does her new freedom mean for her? To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources: Truekind Seamless Stretch Mid-Waist Short...

How do you set family boundaries during the holidays without causing a scene? Plus, Matthias shares his theory on uncomfortable throw pillows. And, Kristen + Matthias discuss the American Psychological Association's recent apology for perpetuating systemic racism -- what does racism look like in psychology? Links + Resources: FACTORFIVE Regenerative Serum Hempillow on Etsy Decolonizing Therapy on Instagram Gabes Torres on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoice...

Two thumbs up is back! Matthias and Kristen discuss a question from a listener wondering if narcissists can spot narcissism in other people? Plus, how can things go so wrong in crowds like what happened recently at Astroworld. And…why is Pete Davidson so hot? Links + Resources Land’s End Packable Down Coats CGK Unlimited Sheets Death at Astroworld: 5 Ways Crowds Can Quickly Go Bad EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for k...

Today Matthias and Kristen talk about sexual and gender identity development in teens. How do we leave room for growth without locking kids into an identity? And, why is Tik Tok so addicting? Links + Resources Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT) The Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv The Brain's Way of Healing by Norman Doidge The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk Shameless Parenting by Tina Schermer Sellers George by Alex Gino Raising Them by Kyl Myers Red: A Crayon's Story by Michael ...

It seems like every week a new video comes out about someone losing their cool on airplanes, this week Kristen and Matthias dive into what might be going on. Plus, is high functioning anxiety a real thing? Links + Resources Onsite Workshops The Anxiety and Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and s...

Today Kristen and Matthias answer a listener question about how to help a spouse dealing with mental health issues but won't seek treatment. Plus, everyone's favorite topic: anxiety! Is Generalized Anxiety Disorder a chronic, life-long condition? And...why is Squid Game so popular? Links + Resources Health at Every Size (HAES) The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Squid Game on Netflix Subscribe via Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | Google | IHeartRadio Fazl is a company that w...

Kristen introduces Selfie's new co-host, Matthias Roberts. After playing 10-questions, Matthias and Kristen discuss resources for parents wanting to raise kids in a sex-positive environment. They end with a conversation about the new Netflix show Maid and the issues of emotional domestic abuse it addresses. Links + Resources: Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, ...

Roo shares about her new tv show, Undercover Underage, premiering on Discovery+ on November 6th. We talk about her next steps and some exciting changes coming up for Selfie! In this episode we also talk about: SOSA Matthias Roberts Maid on Netflix Anastasia Beverly Hills - Lip Gloss BrwnGrlz jewelry Better Than Before Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristen ponders women’s collective anger about strategized incompetence in our partners, Roo talks her new grounding practice, and we chat with Rafia Zakaria about her new book Against White Feminism.about what white women must do to make the feminist movement in America truly intersectional. She has some amazing insights on how white privilege has infiltrated the feminist movement and shares her experiences as an immigrant woman of color and how the feminist movement alienated her. You can find...

Kristen shares her smoothie-prep hack, Roo is back in the gym, and BJ answers our questions about what to do when your own parenting disagrees with how you parent. In this episode we also talk about: The Chair on Netflix Sugarfina Advent Calendar Tea Advent Calendar CUUP Bras Bimble CBD Beverages MyFitnessPal is more than just counting calories. MyFitnessPal helps you gradually learn from personalized data what works for you and YOUR goals. “App Customization” lets you choose the right setting...

We are talking with Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess) about her book Broken (In the Best Possible Way) about mental health, using humor to cope, our brains lying to us, and our shared introversion mishaps. Jenny’s memoir is simultaneously hilarious and thought-provoking, and you can find it here. Give InKind is a platform specifically created for offering care. It is highly customizable and offers a number of ways for family, friends, and even strangers to help out. It offers a variety of ways to cro...

From Tiktok to Youtube, more and more people are talking about their ADD or neurodivergence, and the result is that many of us are wondering . . . is this me? BJ talks about what to do if you suspect it could be true. Kristen talks about shifting away from blogging as a profession, and Roo gives us her outsourcing laundry hack. In this episode we talked about: Target Composition Journals Overnight Oats Tea Organizer Laundry Service Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving i...

Kristen talks about taking sedatives for her insomnia and realizing her body was dependent on them, and Roo goes analog. BJ helps us navigate parenting kids who are adults but still living at home. In this episode we also talk about: Manta Sleep Mask Pray Away on Netflix Teen Trailblazers: 30 Fearless Girls Who Changed the World Before They Turned 20 Linen Blend Wide Leg Drawstring Pants Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristen shares about one of her kids testing positive, Roo shares her own family scare, and BJ talks about how to help our kids who are having anxiety about being back at school. In this episode we also talk about: Home COVID-19 Rapid Self Test Kinderlyte Hydration Packs Nuvana Shield Immunity Defense Megafood D3 Gummies Gold Bond Age Defense SPF Super Long Cable Charger Photo by Roger Bradshaw on Unsplash Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we are musing about when to back off and when to push when our kids are struggling, and BJ answers a question about what to do when longstanding mental health issues aren’t improving despite our best efforts. In this episode we also talk about: In this episode we also talked about: Your Super Moon Balance Mix Superfood Powder Wild Organic Original Sunburn Soap ThredUp Supergoop Everyday Lotion SPF 50 (in the big pump) Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning h...

Kristen shares about her troubling colonoscopy news, Roo talks about her new non-profit SOSA that is fighting online child sex abuse, and BJ answers a reader question about how to avoid burnout in jobs that are inherently stressful. In this episode we also talk about: Jungalow at Target Allay Lamp Neutrogena Invisible Face Serum, SPF 60 SOSA Organifi creates delicious superfood blends that address chronic stress and a lack of nutrition. They use adaptogenic herbs to help balance cortisol leve...

BJ answers a listener question: How much does a parent's mental health issues contribute to their child’s? Kristen talks about her fun but exhausting nomadic summer and Roo shares about her disappointing LASIK journey. In this episode we also talk about: Cocobaba Coconut Body Oil MELIXIR Vegan Lip Butter in Nude Cracker Cordless Jump Rope Glossier Ultralip Melonsun Deep Tissue Massage Tool Thumb Saver Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving ingredients that not only highlig...

Roo shares how she is tracking her time to give her brain breaks throughout the day. Kristen and Roo answer a listener question about how to help kids who do not understand cause and effect with internet safety. “It’s like they need their own 24 hour tech support,” this mom said. Ugh. We agree. In this episode we also talk about: TimerCaps mDesign Home Storage Bins Office Storage Organizer Bin Mrs Smith Spy School for Girls. Chanel mirror Organifi creates delicious superfood blends that add...

We are talking about the pandemic mental health crisis with Dr. Sarb Johal, an expert in emergency management and disaster psychology and author of Steady: A Guide to Better Mental Health Through and Beyond the Coronavirus Pandemic. We also discuss our favorite clothing brands and Kristen’s Everlywell food allergy test results, and BJ talks about how to teach self-compassion to our kids. In this episode we also talked about: Grove Collective at Target Dashing Diva Nail Gels Coola Setting Spray...

Today we are talking with Janice Litvin, author of the new book the Banish Burnout Toolkit, about understanding our stress response patterns, and BJ is answering a listener question about couples who don't sleep in the same bed. In this episode we also talked about: Mare of Eastown LONDONTOWN Illuminating Nail Concealer ‎WaterMinder on the App Store Sock Drawer Organizer Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving ingredients that not only highlight your best features – they a...

What is the impact of burnout on teachers, and how can it trickle down to students and our communities? We are talking with Stanford professor Greg Hammer about post-pandemic burnout and how to center ourselves. BJ answers a community question about needing psychotropic medications to function, and how to get out of guilt about a brain that needs meds. In this episode we also talked about: * Gain without Pain: The Happiness Handbook for Health Care Professionals * Enjoy Life Thai Chili Lime Le...

Matthew Paul Turner joins us to talk about the new book he completed with our late friend Rachel Held Evans, and we chat about our memories of her. BJ gives advice on finding a good therapist for kids. In this episode we also talk about: * What Is God Like? by Rachel Held Evans and Matthew Paul Turner * Jordans Skinny Syrups Sugar Free Blueberry Lavender * Sencha Green Tea Powder Decaf 30 Single Serving Packets * Anastasia Brow Freeze * Amazon Essentials Tech Tee 2-Pack Learn more about your ...

Lacey Dunn, author of The Women's Guide to Hormonal Harmony, helps us understand how to make sense of declines in metabolism. BJ gives advice on how to talk to kids about sex. In this episode we also talked about: Bee's Knees Lavendar + Honeysuckle Cocktail Kit African Dream Foods Safari Smoke Seasoning and Brai BBQ Theanine for sleep Ouai Hair Oil It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know...