GODDESS WISDOM with Madeleine Sklar (Season 2 | Episode 92)
50 Years of Polyamory
The Goddess Wisdom of Madeleine Sklar
(Season 2 | Episode 92)
[Tessa] We have a woman of wisdom with us this week. And more than that: a woman of wisdom who opens up her heart to us. It is such an honor to witness the deep knowledge of a 79-year-old woman. I named this episode “Goddess Wisdom” for a reason, for she is not only wise about the ways of the world and the ways of the heart, she has first-hand experience with polyamory. In fact, we found each other on a polyamorous Facebook group. Madeleine has been married to the same man for over 50 years.
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Madeleine Sklar and Polyamory
Madeleine is more sexual than her husband. And, in fact, her husband decided that he did not want to participate in sexuality with Madeleine. Yet he wanted to continue to have sex with other women. A deep love remained, but the sexual desire was just not there. That was a time of crisis as you can imagine. Madeline says, “she would rather be told the truth than a lie.” And they were able to deal with this development as a team.
I am sure you will enjoy listening to our conversation to see where that led Madeleine Sklar since that time.
About Madeleine Sklar
Although adopted at birth by a “good” family, Unfortunately my nature and that of my adoptive mother, were total opposites. We were a square wagon wheel clunking awkwardly along point, to point in our jagged clumsy relationship whose mismatch left me always searching for connection to a greater Whole.
Coming from a Jewish birth mother I needed to belong to the Jewish people. However the Jewish religion was very patriarchal, like all religions I observed in my youth. Later, studying the Tarot in my twenties, aroused curiosity to explore he Hebrew Alphabet.
Even though both the Papus and Rider Waite writings on the Hebrew Aleph-Bet or alphabet, in relation to the Tarot are full of misinformation, my awakened curiosity led me to reading on the Hebrew letter/numerals, Kabbalah (especially, “On the Kabbalah” by Gershom Sholom) and the ancient Goddess centered cultures where the Aleph-Bet originated.
I learned that the roots of the Hebrew Alphabet originated in ancient Goddess cultures and so even the Hebrew Aleph-Bet or alphabet, is Feminine as is the word “Aleph-Bet” and Torah which like Shekinah, the Holy Feminine Presence, is a Feminine name of God. In Genesis 1, in the Holy Bible, The Holy One creates Male and Female “in Our image”. Also the Holy Name, יהןה ends with the letter, Heh, a letter usually indicating a feminine word in Hebrew.
Later, I completed my Master’s in interdisciplinary studies Psychology Anthropology and Sociology, with a focus on Women’s Issues. In My thesis, “Healing The Mother-Daughter Wound,” I developed my initial program to Spiritually, Culturally, and Personally, heal our most important primary relationship and through that healing, heal our relationship to our self, our partners, our children.
Over the years, as well as my academic training in working with relationships, I have a lot of personal learning, growth and experience deep and fulfilling both traditional and non-traditional relationships.
Following the devastation and desperation I experienced following the “failure” of my first marriage, and my subsequent revelation that since I was alone and might be alone forever, my only choice was: to be happy alone, or unhappy alone. Once I chose to be happy alone. I was able to break free from my victimhood to create my own happiness. Ironically, once I took take charge of my own happiness, and my cup was no longer filled with longing, there was room for love to pour in.
I have a life time of experience exploring and working with relationships, including my own: I have by now, spent over 50 years with the love of my life. It has not always been easy. Love is a process not a fixed state. It involves, creativity, learning, growing, adapting, and humor as you work through changes and challenges. In our constantly evolving, loving, extended family we raised a boy and girl, into amazing healthy loving adults. And now I feel I can actually speak not only from my years of training as I developed a kaleidoscope of skills, I can speak from personal experience.
I’ve learned that as you heal your childhood wounds, and particularly your maternal wounding, you become a better, parent to yourself, and your relationships with your children, partners and even friends becomes healthier and more fulfilling.
Life Recreation Program is designed to help you activate your connection to the Holy Feminine Presence at your deepest center so you can Re-Create your life for more joy connection and soul-purpose into your life and relationships.
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Tessa holds an MA in Consciousness Studies and is a speaker, coach, program and journey facilitator & leader, author and, of course, Podcaster.
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