Episodes

Why do people flake? Why do they lie in their profiles? Why does it feel like no one is actually looking for a real connection? Dating apps promise endless possibilities, yet so many of us find ourselves endlessly frustrated. You swipe and swipe, hoping for a spark, only to be ghosted, breadcrumbed, or hit with yet another “Hey” that leads nowhere. It’s exhausting, discouraging, and sometimes downright infuriating. It’s easy to blame the apps, the algorithm, or the people on the other end of...

You have more power in your dating life than you think. The way we think about dating—our expectations, assumptions, and mindset—shapes our experience before we even meet someone. When we go in with pressure, self-doubt, or fear of rejection, dating feels hard, like a lost cause, and discouraging. But with a few small mindset shifts, dating can become lighter, more fun, and way less stressful. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the life-changing lessons I learned from my sponsor—lessons that he...

That rush of excitement when you meet or match with someone new—the butterflies, the spark, the hope that maybe this time it’s real. And then… it fizzles. They ghost. 🚫 They’re not who they said they were. 🎭 Their pictures were old or heavily filtered, and you don’t even recognize them in real life. 🤦‍♀️ Or worse—they seem amazing, but they don’t feel the same way about you. And just like that, excitement turns into disappointment, frustration, maybe even bitterness. Sound familiar? Let’...

Ever feel like you’re stuck in a cycle of attracting the wrong people? You keep finding yourself in confusing, frustrating, or downright toxic relationships and you’re left wondering: What is wrong with me? Why do I always attract liars, cheaters, or emotionally unavailable people? Are there even any good ones out there?! If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And in this episode, we’re breaking it all down. 👉 Why do we attract the same types of people over and over again? 👉 What subconsc...

Everyone has compulsions or addictions, and needs relief from the discomforts of life. Whether you’re in a treatment center getting treatment for substance abuse, or the soccer mom who struggles with overeating that doesn’t resonate with typical alcoholic or addict, but can’t stop using food to feel better – to the people-pleaser that is causing major discomfort in their own life, and the lives of everyone around them – they’re seeking support and could use the steps without the program because...

Have you heard the term dry drunk and wondered, “Is that me?” Can you be sober and be a dry drunk? Or you may think, what’s the difference between dry drunk vs. sober or in recovery. Today, I’m going to break down the ins and outs of dry drunk. From what does it mean and is it me all the way to how to avoid it and/or change it. This is a jam-packed episode and perfect for the newbie, just getting sober, or the seasoned old-timer who always needs a good reminder of the importance of emotional...

Have you ever felt stuck in the shadow of your past, unable to move forward but unsure of how to start healing? In this transformative episode, we dive deep into the power of healing trauma and how it can unlock a life of clarity, confidence, and emotional freedom. Whether you’ve experienced a single event or the ongoing stress of circumstances like the recent California wildfires, or maybe you don’t even know you have trauma because you had a great childhood – this conversation is here to rem...

Happy New Year, my friend! I hope you are waking up today ready to tackle this thing HEAD ON. If this is your day 1… I’m glad you are ready to kick some a** and make big changes starting today. There’s no way around it. Holiday season is ex-haust-ing. I’m right there with you. 🙌 If your head is a little fuzzy today, I want you to start with nourishing your body. Drink lots of water, get rest, and take a little time to do a gratitude list to start the first day of 2025 on the right foot. Don...

From the outside, it might look like everything is smooth sailing, but the truth is, even those of us thriving in sobriety encounter challenges. As we wrap up 2024, I’m pulling back the curtain to share some personal struggles I’ve faced this year. In this episode, I open up about what’s been going on behind the scenes, how I’ve coped, and the lessons I’ve learned about resilience and self-compassion. Recovery is about more than just quitting alcohol—it’s about learning to handle life on life...

Have you been trying to stay sober but find yourself back at square one? You’re not alone, and it’s not about lacking willpower. In this episode, we uncover the hidden roadblocks that could be sabotaging your sobriety. These challenges often fly under the radar, making it difficult to maintain progress. I’ll share five of the most common roadblocks and offer practical strategies to overcome them. Get ready to identify these sneaky obstacles and take control of your sobriety journey. What Y...

True transformation happens when you fully embrace your identity as a non-drinking person and create a recovery lifestyle. It’s not just about quitting alcohol, it’s about stepping into a new lifestyle, taking responsibility, living with purpose, and feeling totally empowered by it all. When you want long-term sobriety, to feel confident in your recovery, and be happier… building a recovery lifestyle is the answer. So the question is, how do you do that? Especially in a world that is saturat...

Did you know that many people don’t realize they’re on the path to relapse until it’s too late? The truth is, relapse doesn’t happen in a single moment—it’s a slow buildup of emotions, stressors, and unchecked behaviors that compromise your decision-making over time. In this episode, we’re breaking down the early warning signs of relapse so you can recognize them before they get the best of you. From seemingly harmless triggers like work stress and family dynamics to emotional overwhelm and s...

The holiday season is magical—a time for sparkling lights, heartfelt traditions, and moments of togetherness. But for many of us in recovery, this time of year can feel like navigating a minefield of stress, temptation, and overwhelming expectations. The pressure to be everything for everyone, the endless to-do lists, and the ever-present cultural norm of celebrating with alcohol can make it feel like staying sober is an uphill battle. You’re not alone if the holidays bring a mix of excitemen...

All right, my friend. Don’t even try to deny it—you know the feeling I’m talking about. You start out with the best intentions, maybe after a particularly rough night or an emotional moment of clarity, and you tell yourself, This is it. I’m going to stop drinking, and everything will fall into place. But then, reality sets in. The road feels harder than you imagined. You’re not seeing the changes as quickly as you’d hoped, and before you know it, you’re wondering if you’re even doing it right....

I wholeheartedly believe that learning to enjoy social situations without alcohol is one of the most empowering gifts you can give yourself. It’s a skill that brings freedom and joy, allowing you to show up as your authentic self—without a drink in hand. But as you probably already know, it’s not always easy. Whether it’s handling those awkward questions, navigating a wedding or happy hour, or simply feeling like you don’t fit in, sober socializing can feel daunting. In fact, social anxiety ...

Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed by the journey to quit drinking, like there are a million things to figure out all at once? Or maybe you’ve wondered why it feels like a game of Whac-a-Mole with new habits popping up to replace old ones. If so, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely in the right place. In this episode, I’m breaking down three surprising traps that no one talks about when it comes to quitting drinking. These sneaky obstacles can easily keep you stuck, frustrated, an...

Recovery isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey—it’s deeply personal, especially when you’re working to find what truly clicks for you. On this episode, I’m sitting down with Jason Wahler to dig into the power of a solid recovery plan, the strength it takes to get sober in the public eye, and the importance of finding your unique way to stay on track for the long term. Here’s what we’re diving into with Jason: Why finding what works for you is key – and how the right recovery approach can help you...

How are you feeling about your next social event? Calm, confident, and ready to connect? (Or did that question just stir up a wave of anxiety and second-guessing?) And what about your body? Tense, tight shoulders? Racing heartbeat? (If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.) The reality is that social anxiety can be incredibly overwhelming, especially when you’re newly sober. The situations that used to feel easier with a drink in hand—work events, family gatherings, even vacations—now see...

If you’ve ever found yourself asking, ‘Why do I keep spending when I know it’s not helping?’—you’re not alone. Many of us fall into the trap of trying to fill emotional gaps, manage stress, or escape uncomfortable feelings by shopping and buying more than we need. But that momentary buzz from clicking ‘add to cart’ quickly fades, leaving you feeling worse, not better. Today, we’re not just talking about what’s happening on the surface—we’re diving into the real reasons behind overspending and...

Did you know that relapse can actually be a pivotal moment in your recovery journey? It’s a reality that many people face when quitting alcohol, but here’s the good news—it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. In fact, it can be one of the most powerful opportunities for growth and long-term success. In today’s episode, I’m walking you through how to view relapse as a stepping stone rather than a setback and why embracing it can actually strengthen your commitment to sobriety. ✅ How to reframe relaps...

Have you ever thought about leveling up your personal development? Growing your emotional intelligence and emotional maturity can open the door to incredible transformations, both personally and professionally. And today, my amazing guest is the perfect example of how expanding your emotional toolkit can be your best move ever. I’m thrilled to welcome my new friend and emotional intelligence guru, Noble Gibbens, to the show. Noble didn’t just improve his emotional intelligence; he went ALL IN...

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers because the world is embracing mocktails in full force right now. And I know alcohol-free drink options are a welcome alternative for many people and there’s nothing wrong with that. This is NOT going to be a conversation about if it’s RIGHT or WRONG. Because it’s neither. This isn’t about making a judgment on your choice or mine. I want to share with you the research, my personal experience, and some of the issues you’ve probably never considered...

There’s only one thing you need to know, to understand you still can’t drink in a healthy way, even after a period of sobriety. It doesn’t matter if you quit for a week, months, or years. I’m going to tell you how you know with 100% certainty that you still can’t drink. Over all the years of my own sobriety, and helping thousands of people navigate their own sober journey’s, one thing has always stood out that makes it clear to me our relationship with alcohol is different. And it will contin...

What if the little things—traffic jams, work deadlines, or even family gatherings—are quietly sabotaging your sobriety? These everyday stressors could be leading you closer to relapse without you even realizing it. People say, I don’t even know how it happened, or, it was a split second decision, but that is really never the case. The point of this episode is to understand how and why you are compromised and weakened in a daily basis, and how that leads you to relapse without you knowing it’s...