Episodes

Robert and Holly give 13 practical self-care tips & discuss ways to help maintain your mental & emotional health while working in ministry (or any helping profession). Tips we mention, along with accompanying links to things we mention: Eat + sleep- episode 48 - How Does Nutrition Impact Our Mental Health? (feat. Dr. Leslie Korn)- episode 57 - Why We Need Better Sleep (& How to Get It) (feat. Dr. Michael Scullin) Change your socks Count your spoons- episode 63 - Uncluttering Our Spaces, Our ...

It’s Valentine’s week, and one important conversation to have is about singleness. What messages do people get about being single? Are there positives and negatives? How can the church do a better job at creating space for single people to exist and to lead? We’re joined by Dr. Bella DePaulo and Holly Stallcup to talk about it. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Bella’s TedTalk ‘What No one Ever Told You About People Who Are Single’- Bella has tons of books on Amazon, man of wh...

It’s Valentine’s week, and one important conversation to have is about singleness. What messages do people get about being single? Are there positives and negatives? How can the church do a better job at creating space for single people to exist and to lead? We’re joined by Dr. Bella DePaulo and Holly Stallcup to talk about it. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Bella’s TedTalk ‘What No one Ever Told You About People Who Are Single’- Bella has tons of books on Amazon, man of wh...

It’s Valentine’s week, and one important conversation to have is about singleness. What messages do people get about being single? Are there positives and negatives? How can the church do a better job at creating space for single people to exist and to lead? We’re joined by Dr. Bella DePaulo and Holly Stallcup to talk about it. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Bella’s TedTalk ‘What No one Ever Told You About People Who Are Single’- Bella has tons of books on Amazon, man of wh...

Do we have too much clutter in our homes, schedule, and mind? Courtney Ellis (author of the new book Uncluttered: Free Your Space, Free Your Schedule, Free Your Soul) stops by to talk to us about her journey from more to less and how it was actually a journey from less to more. Don’t worry, this isn’t just an episode about organizing stuff: we talk about technology use, our busy schedules, the practice of Sabbath, and more (ok yes, including physical stuff). Things we mention in this episode/ot...

Do we have too much clutter in our homes, schedule, and mind? Courtney Ellis (author of the new book Uncluttered: Free Your Space, Free Your Schedule, Free Your Soul) stops by to talk to us about her journey from more to less and how it was actually a journey from less to more. Don’t worry, this isn’t just an episode about organizing stuff: we talk about technology use, our busy schedules, the practice of Sabbath, and more (ok yes, including physical stuff). Things we mention in this episode/ot...

Do we have too much clutter in our homes, schedule, and mind? Courtney Ellis (author of the new book Uncluttered: Free Your Space, Free Your Schedule, Free Your Soul) stops by to talk to us about her journey from more to less and how it was actually a journey from less to more. Don’t worry, this isn’t just an episode about organizing stuff: we talk about technology use, our busy schedules, the practice of Sabbath, and more (ok yes, including physical stuff). Things we mention in this episode/ot...

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Ellen Hendriksen to talk about Social Anxiety! We touch on all sorts of things including shyness, the difference between being an introvert and being social anxious, how to help others, ways to challenge our own social anxiety, and how to make friends as an adult. Dr. Hendriksen is an expert on social anxiety and the author of How To Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Perceived deficits:1. my anxiety2. my appearance3. my social ski...

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Ellen Hendriksen to talk about Social Anxiety! We touch on all sorts of things including shyness, the difference between being an introvert and being social anxious, how to help others, ways to challenge our own social anxiety, and how to make friends as an adult. Dr. Hendriksen is an expert on social anxiety and the author of How To Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Perceived deficits:1. my anxiety2. my appearance3. my social ski...

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Ellen Hendriksen to talk about Social Anxiety! We touch on all sorts of things including shyness, the difference between being an introvert and being social anxious, how to help others, ways to challenge our own social anxiety, and how to make friends as an adult. Dr. Hendriksen is an expert on social anxiety and the author of How To Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Perceived deficits:1. my anxiety2. my appearance3. my social ski...

It’s 2019, and we’re doing something we’ve never done before: a crossover episode! We got together with our friends from The Desire Line podcast to talk about resolutions, setting goals, and what it takes to create lasting change in our lives. In the intro. Robert & Holly talk about changes to the ways you can interact with the show! Join the Cxmhunity Facebook group for free here and support the show on Patreon to see upcoming episodes and submit questions to be in interviews! Things we menti...

It’s 2019, and we’re doing something we’ve never done before: a crossover episode! We got together with our friends from The Desire Line podcast to talk about resolutions, setting goals, and what it takes to create lasting change in our lives. In the intro. Robert & Holly talk about changes to the ways you can interact with the show! Join the Cxmhunity Facebook group for free here and support the show on Patreon to see upcoming episodes and submit questions to be in interviews! Things we menti...

It’s 2019, and we’re doing something we’ve never done before: a crossover episode! We got together with our friends from The Desire Line podcast to talk about resolutions, setting goals, and what it takes to create lasting change in our lives. In the intro. Robert & Holly talk about changes to the ways you can interact with the show! Join the Cxmhunity Facebook group for free here and support the show on Patreon to see upcoming episodes and submit questions to be in interviews! Things we menti...

Have a seat here for a special holiday fireside chat with Robert & Holly. It’s the last episode of 2018, so we take a look back at the year and talk about what we’ve learned, as well as listing what we think could be better about the show in 2019. We also put on our respective therapist hats to talk about how the holidays are hard for a lot of people and the tension of a ‘joyful’ time of year when there’s so much pain happening around us. Lastly, we talk about self-care during the holidays and s...

Have a seat here for a special holiday fireside chat with Robert & Holly. It’s the last episode of 2018, so we take a look back at the year and talk about what we’ve learned, as well as listing what we think could be better about the show in 2019. We also put on our respective therapist hats to talk about how the holidays are hard for a lot of people and the tension of a ‘joyful’ time of year when there’s so much pain happening around us. Lastly, we talk about self-care during the holidays and s...

Have a seat here for a special holiday fireside chat with Robert & Holly. It’s the last episode of 2018, so we take a look back at the year and talk about what we’ve learned, as well as listing what we think could be better about the show in 2019. We also put on our respective therapist hats to talk about how the holidays are hard for a lot of people and the tension of a ‘joyful’ time of year when there’s so much pain happening around us. Lastly, we talk about self-care during the holidays and s...

How do our religious & spiritual beliefs factor into how we cope with hard times in our lives? Dr. Kenneth Pargament (author of The Psychology of Religion and Coping) comes by the show to talk to us about his work in exactly that area. We talk about integrating spirituality into therapy, various styles of coping using religious beliefs (self-directed, deferred, and collaborative), what some positive and negative coping skills could be, and more. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk about whether th...

Hey, how’re you feeling today? Tired? Us too. This week, we’re joined by Dr. Michael Scullin (an expert in the connection between sleep & cognition) to talk about getting good sleep and how we’re not getting it. We talk about how lack of sleep impacts memory, driving, adolescents, college students, and tons more. Dr. Scullin also shares with us his top ten tips for getting better sleep! Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- CXMH episode 48 - How Does Nutrition Impact Our Mental He...

Our good friend Phileena Heuertz is back with a new book, Mindful Silence! She joins us to talk about centering prayer and the role that things like solitude, silence, and stillness play in our callings to social action. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Phileena’s last appearance on CXMH: episode 51 - Pilgrimage of a Soul- Obviously, the book we talk about in this episode! Mindful Silence: The Heart of Christian Contemplation- MindfulSilence.org, where you can learn all about...

How are thoughts, emotions, and behaviors connected? What can we do about that? Can CBT be integrated with spiritual & religious beliefs? This week’s guest, Dr. Michelle Pearce, drops by to chat with us about all of this. She talks us through the basics of CBT as well as what the implications are for therapists, faith leaders, and individuals themselves. Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Michelle’s book- CXMH episode 31 - Does It Matter If Your Therapist is a Christian?- the A...

Trigger warning: sexual abuse. In this important episode, we talk with Dr. David Pooler, who has done extensive research talking with survivors of sexual abuse perpetrated by faith leaders. Dr. Pooler talks us through the survivors’ experiences within their churches (largely bad), as well as those survivors’ suggestions for preventing abuse, being prepared to respond, helping the victims find healing, and helping the congregation find healing. Things we mention in this episode/other resources-...

He’s baaaaaack! Steve Austin is back, and boy is this episode no fun at all. He chats with us about his new book, the power of saying no, and how to slow down. (Just a heads up, Robert had a long time to stock up fake names to call Steve.) Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- We mention Jon Singletary. Check out his episodes on the Enneagram here and here.- Our friend Sarah Robinson and her recent article on Relevant- CXMH episode with Ed Bacon- CXMH episodes with Paul Young Conn...

In this jam-packed episode, we talk with Dr. Meredith Gould about being an activist online, balancing that with self-care, and topics like art & beauty. Dr. Gould is a sociologist, activist, artist, and tons more. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk about why last week’s episode was late and share what’s been happening in their lives. For more info about the Suicide Prevention Training on November 14th, click here! Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Brian Zahnd’s book Beauty Wil...

This week, we’re joined by Phileena Heuertz, co-founder of Gravity: A Center for Contemplative Activism, and author of Pilgrimage of a Soul: Contemplative Spirituality for the Active Life. In this episode, Phileena talks with us about her first book (one of Holly’s favorite books, which you’ll soon understand why!) and unpacks the seven stages of the spiritual journey. What are the seven stages and how do they map alongside a pilgrimage? You’ll have to listen to find out (and then pick up the bo...