Episodes

Photo by Francesca Tirico on Unsplash Our best travel tips! Travel can spark some serious anxiety but here are some hacks to stay sane. We also chat with Samantha Broxton (@sisterlocked), founder of Sister Locked and Raising Self, on FOMO (fear of missing out) and how it can rob us of our zen. In this episode we talked about: Buying one of everything, using refillable containers, labeling everything with alabel maker, and investing in a hanging toiletries bag. Kristen swears by the American E...

Social media can make it feel like we are comparing our real life to everyone else’s highlight reel. We talk about how to protect yourself and how self-care can also include boundaries and saying no. We interview Kelly Beall, founder of the popular lifestyle blog Design Crush, on how she found a simple ritual of self-care that helped center her each day. Listen here: Play in new window | Download In this episode we talk about: Cetaphil cleanser and Cetaphil face lotion with SPF Alba Botanicals...

It’s possible this episode was recorded WHILE HUNGOVER in Palm Springs. We chat how to avoid hangovers, and also have an interview with Jane Mosbacher Morris of To The Market, who saw a need for empowering global women and came up with a practical solution through ethically-made goods. Jane had a pretty intense experience with burnout and shares her story with us. In this episode, we talk about: Nux Vomica Just the Wine Alka Seltzer We were a little buzzed during this Facebook Live we made....

Mink Mingle Alright, let’s finally talk ACTUAL SELFIES and how to do them well. What’s the best angle? How do you nail the lighting? And to filter or not to filter? We are also going to talk vagifacials, the new trend of pampering the skin down there to keep your vagina looking young. (We are rolling our eyes at the need for younger vaginas, too.) Things we talked about in this episode: We think everyone should own a cheap tripod, and these ring lights for your phone are an inexpensive way to...

Andy Omvik Can you be addicted to habits or behaviors? We discuss process addictions, and how we can become hooked to certain experiences, from the internet to shopping to flirting. We talk about how to know when a process addiction has gone too far, and what to do about it. Some great books on process addictions: How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emer...

Kristen chats with friends Sarah Bessey, Jen Hatmaker, Tara Livesay, Jamie Wright, and Sarah Goodfellow about how they created friendships in their 30’s and 40’s, and built a tribe of ride-or-die friends in a unique way.

We ponder the merits of the instant pot and share some favorite recipes, as well as our other must-have kitchen gadgets. We also conclude our enneagram series by talking about type nine, along with interviews with author Sarah Bessey and psychotherapist Baron Harley. In this episode, we talk about: The infamous Instant Pot Sarah’s favorite rice cooker Kristen’s rice cooker for supersized families The George Foreman grill Kristen’s favorite slow cooker Nom Nom Paleo’s instant-pot-rich new cookb...

Aging skin – it’s inevitable. But we’re talking about the practices and products that can help. We also chat about the confrontational charm of the enneagram type 8, including an interview with blogger (and mom of 9) Heidi Weimer. In this episode, we talk about: * Kristen brought Sarah over to the robe dark side. Kristen loves Barefoot Dreams but Sarah says the Parachute Robe is superior. * Facial Massage increases circulation in the skin, drains lymph nodes, boosts collagen, relieves tension,...

We are sharing the apps that help us function, sleep, maintain relationships, and edit photos. We also chat with Ryan Walton, blogger at DaringtoDad.com, about being an enneagram type 7. On this episode we mentioned the following apps that can be found in the iphone app store: We both credit Voxer for keeping many of our friendships alive, and count it as the app we use the most on any given day. Sarah is a fan for Group Me to stay in touch with special-interest kid’s activities like sports te...

We’re talking favorite snacks, both salty and sweet, healthy and splurge-worthy. We also talk with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6. In this episode we mention the following snacks: Trader Joe’s Omega Trek Mix La Croix Grapefruit or Cherry Lime flavor Whole Foods hot salsa with Garden of Eatin’ Sesame Blues Sugar snap peas or edamame with Maldon Sea Salt Fair-trade chocolate chips Trader Joe’s Everything Blend Spike Seasoning Apples and brie or apples and Justin’s maple almond butter...

What supplements should you be taking? We chat about our daily regimen, and continue our conversation about the enneagram, taking a deeper dive into type 5. We chat with Kelley Nikondeha, author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World, about some of the unique strengths and challenges of being an enneagram 5, as well as with Seth Haines, author of Coming Clean, about some of the internal fears and motivations unique to type 5’s. We also share a great offer from Grove Collabo...

From teas to hand creams to cozy blankets, we are talking all of our favorite winter products. Plus, an interview with Holly Rankin Zaher about being an Enneagram Type 4. New to the enneagram? Check out The Road Back to You by Ian Cron. Kristen’s favorites: Shaggy blanket Hempz herbal body lotion Ahava hand cream Marula oil : Acure is a great bargain option and on sale for $8.99 right now. If you want to go luxury try Drunk Elephant for $72 Thymes – Frasier Fir Pine Needle Green Glass Jar ...

What are Kristen and Sarah’s goals for the New Year – and are resolutions really such a good idea? We’ll be taking a break next week to celebrate Christmas, but see you back here in 2018! Our old posts about New Year’s Resolutions: Kristen’s year of ENOUGH Kristen’s failed resolutions from 2011 Sarah’s 2012 resolutions Sarah’s 2017 resolutions (still trying to embrace her natural waves #BIGFATFAIL) Here is a great read for our fellow Enneagram 3s. Ambition Addiction Also, Zola is reinven...

How do we stay sane over the holidays? We share our tips, and have a conversation with Meagan Francis of The Mom Hour about being a type 2 on the Enneagram. To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.) Here are some Enneagram books we recommend: The ...

In our last episode of Selfie, Sarah and I shared a ton of unique gift ideas for the women, men and kids in your life. Here are some of our favorites: For Women: If you love the smell of walking into an Anthropologie, you need Capri Blue candles. It smells like a tropical vacation. Kristen is partial to the mercury glass collection because of the glow the glass gives off. She’s also a fan of Jonathan Adler’s red currant candle. Wanna gift a cookbook? We recommend How To Cook Anything by Mark Bi...

We are talking about type 1’s (the Reformers) in our ongoing Enneagram series. And botox – should you do it? We have a fascinating interview with Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius Podcast, who is an Enneagram 1, as well as Jenny Potter, a creative producer at Willowcreek. Also, Kristen admits to her cognitive dissonance around her own botox use. Here are some books we talked about in this episode: The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut The Road Back to Yo...

What can you learn about your internal motivations and drives from the Enneagram? We’re kicking off a series on this fascinating personality theory. In this introductory episode we will explain what it is, and then talk through each type with writer and enneagram enthusiast Leigh Kramer. We’re also joined by Christopher Heuertz, author of The Sacred Enneagram, who shares some of the history of the enneagram, it’s spiritual origins and modern psychological iterations, and how our childhood fears ...

Can embracing our mortality help us living more fully? Caleb Wilde, author of Confessions of a Funeral Director, shares with us some of his insights about facing death and what we can learn from loss. We also continue the skincare conversation, talking about our evening routines for a clean and healthy face. Facial massage is a thing. Sarah’s favorite tutorial is here. Wanna go green with your evening face routine? We recommend: For luxe: Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser – use code whoorl10...

We talk our morning skincare rituals, and interview Obama’s former social media manager about keep the peace when our politics collide. Caleb Gardner of the digital innovation firm 18 Coffees gives us some insight for staying sane in the midst of our current climate. Plus, to tattoo or not to tattoo? Kristen regrets not having any, and Sarah regrets the ones she has. In this episode, we mentioned: The new Nom Nom Paleo book Wanna go green with your face routine? We recommend: For luxe: Tata...

Is the internet making us dumber? More dumb? How can detachment help us avoid self-hate? And can watching TV be a form of self-care? In this episode, we chat about our collective addiction to scrolling the internet, and the negative effects of screentime (and how to get control.) We also chat with Cheri Huber, author of There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate and founder of the Zen Monastery Peace Center , about the process of letting go of our negative personal narratives. And w...

This is my favorite episode of Selfie so far because 1) our conversation about pubic hair was so cringey and hilarious that my cheeks hurt from laughing, and 2) our conversation about detachment with Bj Hickman was full of life-giving lightbulb moments about relationships and detaching from people pleasing. In this episode we take a deep dive (ooph) into pubic hair and some of the challenges of hair removal in this delicate area, sharing our own experiences with lasers, waxing, shaving, trimmin...

Most of us know how to eat well . . . so why don’t we? We discuss the barriers to a healthy diet, the last factor of Myers Briggs (Judging vs. Perceiving) and how it affects self-care, and we each dish on our current favorite fashion trend. Spoiler alert: we have a strong disagreement on high-waisted pants. Our latest episode is here: In this episode, we talked about: Have you tried Whole 30? Kristen found it to be a game-changer in terms of learning to meal plan. We are both fans of Trader Joe...

This is our hair episode. We talk all things follicular, from going gray to the best flat iron to whether or not those hair pills really work. Plus, body positivity – we’re positively conflicted about it. We love the movement and yet . . . we have concerns and feelings and confusion. You'll just have to listen: And Thinking vs. Feeling: what the third Myers Briggs quadrant means for your personality and your own self-care habits. In this episode, we talked about: Lisa from This Organic Girl is ...

How do you stay sane when the world seems broken? We talk with grief therapist Claire Bidwell-Smith about collective trauma after national tragedies, and with activist Micky Jones about the intersection of activism and self-care. Special thanks to Claire Bidwell-Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance and After This, and Micky Jones, social justice doula. You can check out her blog and upcoming speaking engagements here. If you feel so led, we recommend the following ways to take action: Donat...