Episodes

This is a bit different of an episode – it is a FUN episode! It is OUR episode – the one where I tell you what is happening behind the scenes and tell you what the reader/listener feedback survey revealed. What I heard from you: Episodes that have helped you Identity Clutter Being a Mom Martyr Who is listening The topics you love to hear about Yes, we are friends IRL Why you are here hanging out with me, the podcast, the Facebook Group, and the Simple Saturdays: To remember to slow down...

I was a controlling mom. I turned on the NO switch and said no to my kids, to my husband, to myself. But this need to control everything came from one very specific belief I had about myself: that I was not a capable mom (or a capable person, for the most part) We all like the feeling of being in control, but it can lead us to act in ways we don’t like and it cuts us off from developing the skills of feeling capable. Because the more we fight for control, the more reduce the practice and sense...

What it means to be a mom on purpose – and it is not about having happy, obedient kids. It is actually about being a mom on purpose when our kids are NOT happy or obedient, or when life feels hard and we aren’t feeling happy. Dealing with Automatic Negative Thoughts Coming off a couple of weeks of feeling like I was hitting a wall and spiralling to all the things that are wrong in my life Our brain is wired to find problems so we can keep ourselves safe and protect ourselves from ‘problems’ ...

There is a quote ‘don’t just survive in motherhood, thrive in it’ When I first heard this quote I really hated it. I was home with three kids under four and very aware of how I was NOT thriving and felt like I wasn’t even surviving. I resented this notion I had to be thriving. What I thought thriving in motherhood had to look like cute home, always clean healthy home-cooked meals, everyone likes them well dressed, kids are happy, I’m training for a marathon I also have a successful side h...

Today I a sharing a shift I have made in my parenting that has made such a big difference – when I teach it to my coaching clients they have an ‘aha moment’ too – because we might not see that we are often parenting the wrong issue. (Books or products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you.) This is especially evident when we find ourselves in power struggles. We are taken out of the original...

Making decisions on what to declutter can be exhausting and often bring up emotions like guilt. I am offering my life coaching and decluttering advice on these topics as well as organizing and cleaning kid’s toys. Listen to the previous Q+A here Questions I am answering on decluttering: How to know what to get rid of? With each thing I’m asking why I am I keeping this? what should I consider getting rid of and will I regret getting rid of it (mementoes from kids school days, some of their spec...

A popular topic I life coach moms on is their relationship to their stuff and decluttering their home. I wanted to share a Q+A time for more questions about decluttering. I asked for your decluttering questions in the Simple on Purpose FB group and on Instagram. Here is my life coaching advice on these topics. Here are the decluttering questions I am answering today: How do we begin when it all just feels so overwhelming? For instance: if I start decluttering A, I first have to do B, but to do...

Elyse is a mom of three in Australia and she has a heart for helping moms make things simpler in their lives. I asked her to come and share with us what her decluttering experience was like. In this conversation, you will hear Elyse unpack what prompted her to declutter her home, what she has learned from it and the encouragement and practical tips she has for you to get started. Finding peace in motherhood Myth: If you were struggling then you are doing motherhood well On a journey to find pe...

This is the final part of the coaching session with Laura, the mom of a 4-year-old and 1.5 year old . In this part of the coaching call, we wrap up with how to take ACTION that moves her in the direction she wants to go as a mom. She is getting anchored in what she wants out of motherhood (joy), and making a plan on how she wants to get it. If you haven’t yet, make sure you listen to part 1 here, and part 2 here Enjoying the early days of motherhood When you are at home with small kids it ca...

This is part 2 of my life coaching call with Laura. We are continuing the conversation with an exploration of what values she wants to bring into her parenting. This portion of the coaching session was getting clarity on WHERE Laura wants to go as a mom, what it looks like for her to be a mom on purpose. Head on over and catch part 1 right here. Values-based parenting When we are living in line with our values we feel more fulfilled, purposeful and at peace with how we are acting and behavin...

This is a Coaching Session I had with Laura, who is looking for coaching support on dealing with jealousy of when her kids prefer her husband to her – and with setting up a motherhood mantra for herself to anchor herself in motherhood. I have divided this coaching session into three episodes. In this first one, we cover awareness. We work on identifying the problem, seeing how it impacts her life and how we can shift away from judgement and fear of it. In part two we will talk about being a M...

There have been a lot of changes I wanted to make in my life, but I didn’t trust myself to follow through and do them. So I stopped setting goals and making promises to myself. This is something I have bee through and coach many women on – the issue of not trusting yourself creates a situation where you don’t believe you CAN do it, you stop looking for ways to learn, you look to others for the solution and validation and you spin where you are – in indecisiveness, anxiety and maybe apathy. Sho...

How should a 30 something-year-old dress? I have asked this question for some years as I decluttered my closet and focussed on creating a closet of clothes I love to wear. I don’t want it to be the latest trends, but the clothes I enjoy and feel like ‘me’. I’m not a fashion blogger but when the memes went around this month making fun of millennial moms who wear skinny jeans and side parts I felt like I wanted to encourage other millennial moms to focus on building up a closet of clothes they LOV...

We all can think of some financial goals we want to meet (debt-repayment, emergency savings) and maybe we know what habits could get us there – but DOING it is the hard work. And I find it so helpful to hear what other people are doing and what it looks like in action in real life. Today I’m sharing the rest of my conversation with Bethany and Corey from the Millenial Mission Podcast about what their debt-free journey has been and in this part, they are sharing a lot about the habits they have ...

Wonder what it would be like to make a BIG CHANGE that starts your debt-free journey? Today we are hearing from Bethany and Corey on their story of what that looked like in their life. When they decide to give up the ‘good life’ for the ‘better life’ and by better I mean hard and uncomfortable but moving towards financial freedom. I love hearing real-life stories from real people who are making the hard decisions that allow them to TAKE CONTROL and start steering their life in a new direction ...

Today I’m sharing some of a LIVE Q+A I did in FB community last month A few times each month I ask for questions and sometimes on a certain topic, then I come on and answer them live In this Q+A I am answering questions about putting your head in the sand, planning your day, finding the time when you feel like it is hard to find the time, and how much work it is to change your thoughts and behaviours. I also mention the Life on Purpose Roadmap – which is the condensed and simple course that t...

We did it friends! I am proud of us! We finished the Enneagram and Motherhood series featuring moms from all over the continent sharing what it is like to parent through the lens of their Enneagram type. Today we wrap up with the Type 9, which we all know they don’t mind being left to the last (“it’s fine, whatever works for you!”) I say that because I am a Type 9 too. But this is also my 100th podcast episode so it feels like a nice way to wrap up this endeavour I have been on to grow this po...

The Type 8 is also known as the Maverick – they are confident, assertive and make natural leaders. Today I have three Type 8 moms sharing how their Enneagram type empowers them in their motherhood and how it shows up in stress. To open up I share some details on the Type 8: What motivates them How they move towards The Helper in times of growth How they move towards The Observer in times of stress The two other sides to the type 8 (the wings) What the Gut Triad is, how the Type 8 shows up...

The Type 7 on the Enneagram is also called the Enthusiast, or Fun Ninjas (as my friend Julia coined them) They are spontaneous and open to new experiences. In this episode, two Type 7 moms share how their Enneagram type empowers them in motherhood and how it shows up in times of stress. I also discuss: What motivates the Type 7 What growth looks like as the move towards Type 5 What stress looks like as the move towards Type 1 How they handle it when things don’t go their way through a pos...

Welcome to the Simple on Purpose Podcast! For moms on the go who want nuggets of information and encouragement that helps them live with more peace, purpose and presence in their daily lives. We are continuing with our series on the Enneagram and Motherhood where we hear from moms on what their motherhood experience is like through the lens of the Enneagram This episode is about the Type 6 Mom, also called the Loyalist or the Skeptic. In this episode, I explain: The common traits of the Type ...

The Type 5 on the Enneagram is also called the Investigator. They are someone who is watching and observing and analyzing how everything works. They gather knowledge on how things work and how to navigate the world with their competence. They do have a focus on managing their own needs well so that they aren’t reliant on others. Let’s hear from Liz and Melissa on how being an Enneagram Type 5 empowers their motherhood and how it shows up in stress. When the Type 5 is in stress they move toward...

The Type 4 on the Enneagram is also called the Individualist, or the Romantic. They have a reputation of being artistic, expressive and willing to feel a range of emotions. Which I think makes them very brave and they hold a lot of space for those in suffering and those who long to express themselves. The Type 4 is part of the reactive group when it comes to dealing with problems. This means they respond/express themselves and look for an emotional response from those around them. A Type 4 cra...

The Type 3 on the Enneagram is also known as the Achiever or the Performer. They are motivated by a need to be successful and they are natural checklist-makers and goal getters. What is it like to be a Type 3 Mom? I have three Type 3 moms sharing their experience on how their type empowers them and how it shows up in times of stress. When a Type 3 is in stress they take on the qualities of the Type 9 and become more detached and apathetic and stubborn. When they are in a place of growth the...

The Type 2 on the Enneagram is also known as The Helper. For this reason, a lot of us can identify as a possible Type 2 – especially in North America where this is a cultural expectation that women are ‘helpers’. This can lead to people-pleasing, but not all people-pleasers are Type 2s. Some things that set the Enneagram Type 2 apart: They cope with problems by focussing on the needs of others rather than themselves Their relationships are built with a culture of ‘helping’ They find their v...