Episodes

How important is finding compatibility to you when dating? When seeking a life partner, you don’t want to choose anyone. You wanna find someone you’re compatible with, but what does that mean? The word compatible is where two things are able to exist or occur together without problem or conflict. There are some things that you don’t want to mix together such as baking soda and vinegar, or bleach and rubbing alcohol. When you combine these chemicals they create something that is toxic and unsafe...

Disagreements, frustrations and disappointments are impossible to avoid in relationships. Although we can’t avoid disagreements and frustrations in relationships, it doesn’t mean they have to turn into arguments. Disagreements aren’t the same as arguments. An argument occurs when two sides are approaching a disagreement in unhealthy and unproductive ways. An arguing couple in most cases isn’t seeking resolution, rather they are seeking to be right or prove someone wrong. Bad relationship argume...

Have you ever found yourself frustrated or disappointed when dating? A disappointment is a negative feeling that results from something not living up to an expectation. When we open up ourselves to romantic interests (e.i. dating) we normally have some form of hope or expectation. An expectation to meet someone we like, where feelings are mutual, and a lasting relationship is formed. Unfortunately, like many journeys getting to the destination can be a long and bumpy ride with unexpected challe...

What does it mean to be honest about your Relationship mistakes? A mistake can be intentional or unintentional but the key is, it’s wrong. It is a form of behavior that is either dishonest, unjust, or immoral and often violates another. In life and in relationships we make mistakes, the question is, what is our response once we commit them. For some, the urge is to ignore their wrongdoings, make excuses, or even worse blaming others. This is a form of self-deception and will lead to someone rep...

Any solid entity needs a solid foundation or anchor to bring it stability. Consider for a moment a ship without an anchor. It would find itself fighting against the current, drifting from place to place unable to remain in one place. Consider a home and the destruction that would follow after a storm if it lacked a strong foundation. This is no different in relationships. People want strong healthy relationships, but they find themselves drifting and shaken after the storms of life. What is sta...

Why is it when a woman chooses a man that is deemed undesirable by the world, people attack her character, assuming there’s an ulterior motive? As if her motives can’t be pure driven from the heart and wisdom. Recently on a podcast Channing Crowder attacked the character of Ciara and Russell Wilson. In his podcast Channing proclaimed that the only reason Ciara is with Russell Wilson is because of his money. In summary Channing felt Ciara’s EX rapper Future was a better catch, and that Russell Wi...

Have you ever made a rash decision that you regretted later. In life we all have moments or things where we are urged to loose control. This could be something common such as an act of cutting someone off in a moment of road rage, or it could be something uncommon such as a violent attack upon a cheating spouse. In the case of Will Smith, it was going on stage at the Oscars and hitting Chris Rock. The point is out-of-control behavior is something we all must be on guard against. Learn from vs ...

To celebrate or not celebrate Valentine’s Day, that is the question? Just because something is a cultural norm, it doesn’t mean it has to be a normal practice for you. Valentines Day is a national celebrated holiday, but its value varies from person to person. Some people love it, the romance, the gifts and special attention that comes with it. Yet for others, the day doesn’t mean as much. It’s not to say they don’t enjoy romance, gifts, or special treatment. It just doesn’t have to be on that ...

How does one remain happy and content in singleness? Be intentional in your approach! Finding happiness and contentment in singleness is not an accident. Just as having a happy marriage isn’t. Obtaining success in life requires you to take action. God tells us that one reaps what they sow. If you are purposeful in your choices as a single man or woman then you will reap the benefits. Our challenge for you as you step into the new year is give yourself single goals. Goals aren’t just for those ...

Dating can be a rollercoaster!!! There are moments in the dating process where you have emotional highs. You meet new people, you meet someone you like, you get to know that person, and maybe it turns into a something special. Yet, there are also the lows. You can’t find a date, you meet bad people, or find yourself rejected. What is your approach to dating successfully? Do you have dating goals? When dating, a major mistake people make is they do it aimlessly. They don’t really have a plan or...

It’s often said in sports, “if you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.” I believe this saying is not only true in sports, but in relationships. As a spouse you should always be seeking to grow. How can you be a better husband? How can you be a better wife? One way to be intentional to grow in your relationship is by setting marriage goals, and what better time to set goals, than in the New Year. If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit nothing! New Year Resolutions are a great way to start ...

How are you approaching family & in-laws within your relationship? When it comes to weird uncles, hardheaded cousins, or even that overly intrusive Mother, family dynamics can be challenging. So much so terms such as Monster-in-laws are used to describe them. Although we all have “THOSE” family & in-laws it doesn’t mean challenging family dynamics have to destroy your relationship. You have the power to determine how much your in-laws wreak have it on your relationship. When it comes to famil...

If you had to choose between Looks vs character, which would you choose? Thankfully when approaching relationships a person doesn’t have to choose between looks vs character. Both play an important role within relationship. Yet, too often people place more emphasis on looks rather than character. Most people when choosing whom to date are driven by external attraction. Unfortunately, the emphasis of external attraction keeps people from seeing the most important part about a person and the succ...

There’s an old saying, don’t put your business in the streets. Yet, how does this apply in the 21st century? In the age of social media, blogging, and streaming people are sharing more personal information about themselves in an ever increasing way. Yet, when sharing, when do you cross the line. When can sharing become damaging, to you personally. This is extremely problematic in the area of relationships. One of the challenges of sharing too much information about your relationship, is it invo...

A myth is a widely held but false belief or idea. There are ideas people hold that aren’t always true. Unfortunately, people pass on these false ideas or personal preferences as truth, forming myths. Myths can be passed down from generation to generation, mentor to pupil, or even through social media platforms. Although something sounds true, or people say it’s true, it doesn’t always mean it’s true. God warns us to be vigilant. The need to be vigilant is also important when dating. God desires...

Is there a right or wrong amount one should spend on a wedding? Weddings can be amazing, but they can also be extremely costly. The average wedding in America is 30,000 dollars. Yes, you read that correctly. People are spending on a wedding the same price you can buy a car, or a down payment on a home. Is spending this amount wrong or something you should feel guilty about? How much should a person spend on a wedding? There are varying & passionate opinions when approaching costs for a wedding...

Traumatic events are incidences that cause physical, emotional, spiritual, or psychological harm. Sometimes relationships face challenges as a result of incidences between a couple. This can be a spouse who does something dishonest, or a partner who says hurtful things. Yet, in relationships there are some traumatic events that don’t come from the couple, but rather come from outside sources. For example, this can be a spouse who loses a mother or father, or one who get’s let go from their job....

Is it proper to compare marriage to a business? There a lot of things we can compare marriage too. Some people compare marriage to a rollercoaster, and the ups and downs one may experience. In my book, Chasing Happily Ever After, I compared building a house to building a solid relationship, and the importance of a strong foundation. Even God compares marriage to our relationship with Him. So is it a fair to say marriage is a business. Recently there was a post on social media where a particular...

It has been said, “diamonds are a girls best friend.” So naturally a woman’s probably going to want one when getting engaged. A diamond ring has become a staple among what is offered when proposing in marriage. Yet is it superficial of a woman to reject a man’s engagement, if he offers something other than a diamond? This is a sensitive subject because many women feel passionate about marriage and the engagement process. This subject recently came up as a topic circulating on social media. Whic...

Singleness IS NOT a disease, not is it a bad thing! Being single isn’t purgatory, an in-between period of life that you have to suffer through until you get to something better (aka marriage). First off, who said marriage is something better. If you ask some people, marriage can be jail, but that’s a different topic. Singleness is an amazing part of life that you don’t want to miss out on. Yet, if you are not careful a discontent spirit can cause you to do just that. The key is to getting the m...

Experiencing a tough breakup is like loosing apart of yourself. For those that have experienced a breakup or divorce can understand the emotional and physical toll it can take on you. In relationships you invest a lot to make them work. You open up your heart to another person, trusting that they will value it. Unfortunately, many times that is not the case. Trust is broken by one, sometimes both, and hearts are left behind in the wake of its destruction. So what do you do? Are there tips to he...

Messaging bad habits in marriages have lead to more unnecessary conflicts than I care to count. Don’t let them happen to you! Good communication is critical to any successful relationship. Unfortunately, many couples don’t always consider how they communicate over messaging as part of their good communication skills. The truth is people spend way more time messaging than actually talking over the phone. Therefore understanding basic do’s and don’ts of messaging in marriage will save you many he...

Have you ever made a text messaging gaffe while dating that may have cost you another date? Good communication is critical to any successful relationship. This is even more apparent early in the dating process, because one mistake could end your interaction forever. Therefore there are unwritten rules of communication when dating, yet with each generation these rules evolve. Today the primary form of communication is text messaging. Whether messaging through text or direct message (DM) the do’s...

Is your relationship Private or Public? This is a question that takes on a new meaning today. In the past to say your relationship was private (a.k.a secret) meant you didn’t tell anyone about your relationship. For example, your friends, family and others in your community didn’t know about or had little details of your relationship. Today this isn’t how many define a private relationship. Today a private relationship is one that is not posted on social media for the world to see. This is rega...