Episodes

What is relationship vision? Vision is the ability to have foresight. The ability to see beyond where you are, and to see where you want to go. Imagine a company that lacks a vision statement, how successful do you think that organization will be? This is no different as an individual. Having a personal vision statement to guide your life will place you on a road to success. Having vision for your relationship desires will do the same. Possessing vision applies regardless of the relational pha...

Is the grass “always” greener on the other side? This is a saying that reflects a view people hold when comparing their life and circumstance to others. Sometimes as people are dealing with challenges they begin to compare their life circumstances with differing, and often better circumstances than their own. There are many dangers of comparison within relationships. Often comparison leads to a discontentment within one’s own situation, and a false perception of other situations. Whether singl...

Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight asks the question, are you fully committed to love. Love has become a common word that people say without fully considering what it means. Are you fully committed to love? Our snippet comes at the 9:00 minute mark of, when is the right t...

How are you sharing relationship responsibilities with your mate? In a previous episode, we discussed whether the traditional view of the woman’s duty to cook was biblical. Yet, the needs and responsibilities within a relationship go far and beyond just cooking. Who earns the money or manages the budget? Is it primarily one person’s duty to clean, or do laundry? What about cleaning the car, mowing the lawn, bathing the kids, or running errands? This list can go on, and on, but don’t make the mi...

Relaxing at home is nice, but what happens when overtime staying at home is all you do? Are you or your spouse a homebody? Relationships go through many phases. Early within a relationship when a couple is getting to know each other, they often go out and do various activities together. Unfortunately the longer those couples are together, the frequency of their dates begin to wane. Normally this isn’t a planned habit, but with life, work, and kids, staying at home can become a regular occurrenc...

Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight focuses on attraction towards others when you’re already in a relationship. You can’t avoid attraction. Unless you walk around with a blindfold, you are bound to see people you’re attracted to. Unfortunately, when you start dating or whe...

Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This weeks highlight focuses on a quote by Keonte McDonald, “Are you buying your own ticket for an Emotional Ride?” Relationships have their ups and downs. Unfortunately sometimes people allow those ups and downs to cause physical and mental imbalance within...

A growing trend is the act of dating multiple people at the same time. The truth is, dating is evolving! Much of this has to do with technology and how people meet. Before technology most people met through a friend connection, or at a social gathering. It was rare that once you engaged with one individual, that you simultaneously meet others, and begin to date them. This isn’t to say it didn’t happen, but it wasn’t as frequent as it is today. Through online dating and other resources. People a...

Sometimes you just need a quick encouragement to carry you through your day, or in this case your weekend. Our Weekend Snippets take key talking points from past episodes to highlight relationship principles you can carry into your weekend. This week we want to highlight one of our most searched relationship episodes. Is the Wife Obligated to Cook for Her Husband? The discussion will start at the 7:00 minute mark, and will focus on communicating relationship assumptions to avoid relationship mi...

Losing oneself or identity in a marriage is more common than people are aware of. Marriage requires a lot. For a relationship to be successful one must be willing to give to the relationship what it needs. Sometimes this means compromise, sacrifice, and/or putting a side personal goals. Yet, overtime as a person continues to give in this way, they can also begin to lose touch with other important desires or dreams they once had. These feelings can become overwhelming if ignored, feelings as tho...

How important is money when choosing whom you date or marry? There is little doubt that money is important. So, is it bad to only date those who have money? There are those who are passionate about this subject, and give compelling arguments to why one should only date those who are financially well off. There are also those who would say “only” dating someone of a certain economic status is shallow. Does it matter? Should money be a factor when choosing whom to date or marry? This question wa...

There’s a saying by Zig Ziglar, if you aim at nothing you will hit it every time. The same can be said when searching for a mate. There are often two types of approaches when people are searching for a mate; those who have a clear idea of what they want in a future spouse, and those who play it by ear, more open to different possibilities. Is a list of wants realistic? I believe both approaches have their positives and negatives. On one hand having an idea of what you are looking for can keep ...

How should couples approach friendships with the opposite sex when in a committed relationship? Building platonic friendships is important. In my book, Chasing Happily Ever After, I outline several benefits of platonic friendships and how they help build healthy relationships. Yet, how do you navigate those important friendships when you step out of singleness and into an romantic commitment? Do you completely disassociate with close friends of the opposite sex? What about men or women you’ve ...

Should a person keep in touch or stay friends with their Ex if in a committed relationship? There’s a lot to be said about EXES! Sometimes their can be drama centered around an ex, and other times there’s not. Often a question people have surrounding exes is whether they should maintain contact with them when they step into a different relationship. On one hand, a person may feel as a result of their past relationship, a deep friendship was formed. Although they are no longer together, there is...

Are there negative ramifications or impacts of premarital sex? Discussing sex from a biblical perspective can often feel taboo. Yet, not talking about a subject doesn’t help people gain understanding. Are their negative impacts of premarital sex from a Christian perspective? When approaching the subject of sex from a Christian point of view, it’s important to understand God isn’t a prude. God is the creator of SEX. God created sex for a purpose and created it to be pleasurable. Yes, you heard ...

Are there negative ramifications or impacts of premarital sex? Discussing sex from a biblical perspective can often feel taboo. Yet, not talking about a subject doesn’t help you gain understanding. When approaching the subject of sex from a Christian point of view, it’s important to understand God isn’t a prude. God is the creator of SEX. God created sex for a purpose and created it to be pleasurable. Yes, you heard that correctly; God created humanity with the ability to have orgasms. Though...

There’s an unspoken rule that men are supposed to pay for the first date, and possibly beyond, but why not women? There are people hold a traditional view that men should be the pursuer at the beginning of a relationship. Therefore it is often perceived that a man should pay for the dates since they are trying to win the woman. Yet, cultural traditions are changing. Today some woman are the pursuers in relationships. Therefore, should women pay for dates as they pursue a man? What does it say a...

You can’t always control when and where you have conflict. So what do you do when faced with a possible conflict in public? Disagreements or arguments are bound to happen within relationships. Though there are varying degrees of disputes. Disagreements are bound to happen, because people are different and have differing points of view that eventually collide. Having an argument is one thing, but how to handle relationship arguments in public is another. Most people don’t plan on making a scene...

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh (Gen. 2:24). Oneness in marriage is critical to a successful marriage, but achieving it can be difficult. The main reason it can be so hard is because of individualism (the habits and principles of being independent). Let’s be honest, for the most part people are selfish. It’s easier to be selfish, than it is to be selfless. Even in the beginning stages of dating, ultimately y...

How critical are family and friends to the success of a marriage? Family and friends are a major part of our lives, but depending upon your community (family and friends) and their influence, it will determine whether their impact is positive or negative. In our last podcast we examined the value community plays while single and dating. In this podcast we want to examine the importance of family & friends while married. Relationships take a lot effort and attention to be successful. This is on...

How important are the family and friends around you while single or dating? Family and friends are a major part of our lives, but depending upon your community (family and friends) and their influence, it will determine whether their impact is positive or negative. Hopefully, you are mindful to surround yourself with positive people. The point of this episode is to talk about how the right type of community will help your relationship for the positive. When people are single their community is...

Is it a sign of weakness for a man to open up his heart to a woman? Don’t Love Them Hoes, is a catchphrase coined by Snoop Dog in the 90’s. This phrase and its thought permeated throughout much of hip-hop, and American culture. The idea behind this phrase promoted a “Playa’s Mentality“. Women are seen more as objects to conquer vs someone to troth. It is also a sign of weakness for a man to open up his heart. If you are looking for advice on how to be a playa, you’ve come to the wrong podcast....

Who hasn’t been somewhat nervous on a date? I believe being nervous isn’t a bad thing. There is a sense of humility that comes with being nervous, and with that humility people should learn to lean on God for strength. Unfortunately, the levels of nervousness people feel are not the same; nor is how they respond to it. For some their anxieties can result in a complete lack of confidence, which negatively impacts their dating experience. Some people are so overwhelmed that they shy away from dat...

When is the last time you really thought about what is love? People in all walks of life are in pursuit of love within relationships, but what is that exactly? Some in their pursuits are chasing passion, while others are desiring happiness, but is happiness. Many people consciously or unconsciously build their idea of love from the movies they watch, the music they listen to, or the people they admire, but is that where one learns love. Does your idea of love match the reality of it? An idea ...