Episodes

If you’re looking for the best books about emotional abuse in marriage. It’s important to understand all the ways a husband can be emotionally abusive. Before covering the best books about emotional abuse, if you’re wondering if your husband is emotionally abusive, take this free emotional abuse quiz. Trauma Mama Husband Drama is a picture book for adults, written by Anne Blythe, M.Ed. founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. Trauma Mama Husband Drama written by Anne Blythe and Illustrated by Cri...

If you’re wondering, “What does the bible say about boundaries in marriage?” You’re not alone. WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE? Do the words boundaries in marriage even show up in the Bible? No. But the principle is everywhere. Scripture repeatedly warns us to be watchful, wise, discerning, and separate from people who choose deceit, harm, and destruction. So what if the person deceiving you, harming you, and causing destruction… is your own husband? That’s where things...

It’s hard to know what to do when your child watches inappropriate things. One dad shares his thoughts about protecting children from pornography. Discovering that your child has been exposed to inappropriate content, such as pornography, can be deeply upsetting. Many parents feel unsure of how to handle the situation—should you confront them? Punish them? Ignore it altogether? At Betrayal Trauma Recovery (BTR), we understand the complex emotions and challenges that come with situations like t...

If you’re searching for self care books for women after discovering your husband’s betrayal, It’s likely you’re overwhelmed and trying to find ways to get through the day, feed your kids, answer one text, or stop ruminating. After reading over 50 books and interviewing many experts, here are seven things to know about self-care when you’re in the fog of betrayal trauma. If you’re struggling in the fog and need support try our Betrayal Trauma Recovery group sessions. 1. SELF CARE IS BEING UNDER...

Your husband’s infidelity is heartbreaking. As a Christian, this truth remains constant—you’re called to protect yourself from evil and pursue spiritual safety. If you’re looking for Christian help for infidelity, here’s what you need to know. If you’ve just discovered your husband’s infidelity, start with this free emotional abuse quiz to see if what else might be going on. WHAT’S THE SPIRITUAL PROBLEM? If you’ve been led to believe that the betrayal in your marriage is because you haven’t p...

If you’re typing “sex addiction therapist near me” because your husband says he has an addiction, you’re not alone. For nearly two decades, I have helped women navigate betrayal and the confusing labels that surface in the midst of their searches for help. After over 200 long-form interviews and more than 8,000 clients served, here is what I’ve learned matters most: The impact his behavior has on you matters more than the label. Below are the most common patterns to pay attention to when you’re...

What is exploitative? A global industry that uses coercion and abuse to make money. Understanding how exploitative media harms women’s rights will help you understand what exploitative really means. Did you know that wives of men who exploit women are likely to be emotionally abused? To discover if you’re experiencing emotional abuse, take this free emotional abuse test. WHAT IS EXPLOITATIVE? VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN Understanding that exploitative media often depicts graphic violence against w...

Are you hoping to help your daughter avoid teen dating violence, even if it’s “just” emotional and psychological abuse? Anne Blythe, M.Ed. interviews Sid, a teenager, who shares her heart wrenching story with empowering tips for mothers of teens. Teen dating violence never happens without emotional abuse. The best way to avoid teen dating violence is to determine if there’s emotional abuse. Take this free emotional abuse quiz to find out. If you have experienced emotional abuse and need live ...

If you grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home, you may be all too familiar with how fundamentalism and patriarchy fuel abuse. To know if you’re experiencing this type of abuse in your church or home, take our free emotional abuse test. Emily is on the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast, sharing her experiences with a fundamentalist cult. Recognizing and then escaping the abusiveness of her upbringing has led her to support other victims – including the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Community. FU...

Healthy physical intimacy implies just that – intimacy. However this is NOT one of the types of physical intimacy. In fact, even thought it’s common in marriage, it’s classified as domestic abuse. To know if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 types of emotional abuse that are connected with intimacy, take our free emotional abuse quiz. And if you relate to any of this episode, check out our Betrayal Trauma Support Group Session Schedule. We’d love to see you in a session today. TRANSCRIPT:...

Many victims of emotional and psychological abuse wonder if art therapy for trauma can help with symptoms. Here’s what you need to know. If you relate, you may wonder if you are experiencing emotional abuse. Did you know there are 19 different types of emotional abuse? See if you’re suffering from this type of trauma by taking our free emotional abuse quiz. TRANSCRIPT: HOW TO USE ART THERAPY FOR TRAUMA Anne: I have a member of our community, Betrayal Trauma Recovery has live group sessions, o...

If you want to help your daughter in an abusive relationship, Anne’s mother and sister share how they could have helped her. If you feel like this emotional abuse quiz could help her, have her take this free emotional abuse quiz. Discover if she is experiencing any one of the 19 types of emotional abuse. 1. HELP YOUR DAUGHTER IDENTIFY THE ABUSE “I described my husband’s behavior, physically intimidating me, yelling in my face, manipulating me, gaslighting me, and unsafe behavior by him. But e...

If you’ve just discovered your husband lied to you and was cheating, and you’re wondering what does the Bible say about cheating husbands? This is for you. Every woman is welcome at BTR no matter what her faith paradigm. A lot of women of faith come to BTR in a spiritual crisis because of how their clergy responded to their husband’s infidelity or lying, and part of their healing is processing what the Bible actually says about these betrayals. Here’s the truth that you’ve likely never heard ...

Victims of betrayal desperately want to protect their families from harmful material. Cleanbrowsing is one way to filter your internet to keep your family safe. Daniel Cid, founder of Cleanbrowsing, joins Anne on the free The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast to empower families to stay safe from online harms. WHAT IS CLEANBROWSING? Cleanbrowsing is software designed to protect children and adults from harmful online material. If you need support after discovering your husband’s exploitative ...

Lindsay, a member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Community shares her experience doing an in-home separation, Lindsey offers valuable insight to empower listeners. If you need support, learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. WHY CHOOSE IN-HOME SEPARATION? Sometimes women want to separate themselves from their abusive husband’s behaviors, but for one reason or another can’t physically move to another space. In-home separations offer temporary safety (if your husband respects the s...

Is infidelity abuse? Has he lied to you? Emotionally manipulated you? Here’s how to know if his infidelity was emotionally abusive to you. To learn if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse test. If you relate to any part of this episode and need support, check out our Daily Group Session schedule. TRANSCRIPT: IS INFIDELITY ABUSE? Anne: It is humbling to welcome Dr. Omar Minwalla on today’s episode. Dr. Minwalla is a clinical s...

After betrayal, many women wonder if he would have stayed faithful if they had improved their appearance. But that’s not true. Here’s how treating body image issues after betrayal can help women move forward. WHY DOES BETRAYAL CAUSE BODY IMAGE ISSUES? Betrayal attacks a woman’s sense of self-worth, affecting her physically, emotionally, and spiritually. These types of betrayal will inevitably injure a woman and cause body image issues that are no fault of her own: A husband’s use of inapprop...

Emotional abuse and intimate betrayal can make you feel small. What does it mean to find your voice? To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse quiz. HOW CAN I FIND MY VOICE WHEN I’M EXPERIENCING EMOTIONAL ABUSE & INTIMATE BETRAYAL? Finding your voice does not mean confronting your abuser. In fact, that can be dangerous for you. Instead, find your voice by: Journaling about your experiences Sharing your story with a trusted friend Attending a Betrayal Trauma R...

Women who discover their husband’s infidelity might wonder, what does the Bible say about divorce? If you’re experiencing this type of emotionally and psychologically abusive behavior from your husband, here are some scriptures from the Bible about divorce you need to know. If you’re considering divorce, it’s important to determine if you’re experiencing emotional abuse. Take our free emotional abuse quiz. TRANSCRIPT: WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT DIVORCE? Anne: It’s just me today. Many women...

Therapy not working like you hoped? Most people don’t know the signs of an abusive therapist. When Dee went to her therapist for anxiety, she expected to feel better. Instead, she was gaslit, groomed, devalued, and discarded. Do you need support? Learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Support Sessions. They are multiple times a day for women only, so you will feel safe. TRANSCRIPT: SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE THERAPIST Anne: I have a member of our community on today’s episode. We’re going to call...

If you’re wondering, “Am I over my ex?” The question itself may tell you all you need to know. 1. WHY ARE YOU ASKING, AM I OVER MY EX? Ask yourself why you’re asking this question. The fact that you’re asking probably means you’re still struggling with some aspect of the relationship. And it might not even be him, it might actually be the emotional abuse you endured. To find out if you experienced any of the 19 types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse test. 2. IF YOU WERE MANI...

Many women who come to BTR for help say that lack of intimacy in marriage is a key issue with their husbands. Typically, this means their husband expects physical intimacy while ignoring relational intimacy or emotional safety. And some women say their husbands seem not interested in relational OR physical intimacy, at all. Either way, his lack of intimacy is a signal that something deeper is going on with him. If you need emotional support, try our online Betrayal Trauma Recovery support group...

Parents are rightfully concerned about their children’s safety. If you’re searching for tips on teaching children how to set boundaries, here’s what you need to know. CHILDREN NEED TO SET BOUNDARIES TO KEEP THEMSELVES SAFE Here are four practical and empowering boundaries strategies when teaching children how to set boundaries: Body awareness with basic hygiene, health, and safety concepts The dangers of inappropriate media on the Internet and apps Personal Safety – prevention awareness of ...

If you’re wondering how long the betrayal trauma process takes to heal, here’s what you need to know. Betrayal trauma is what women experience before and after they discover their husband’s infidelity. And it’s not just from the discovery of his lies. Years of invisible emotional and psychological abuse also cause betrayal trauma. To find out if you’ve experienced emotional abuse (even without knowing it), take our free emotional abuse test. If you relate and need support, see our daily, onlin...