Episodes

The picture book Trauma Mama Husband Drama is the best way to explain betrayal trauma to someone who doesn’t quite “get it”. If you’re feeling ignored, dismissed, and blamed for your husband’s infidelity, you’re not alone. TRAUMA MAMA HUSBAND DRAMA IS THE BEST WAY TO EXPLAIN BETRAYAL TRAUMA The term “betrayal trauma” is not knows or misunderstood in many circles. Anne knows this and wanted to help women give a name to the mental, physical, and emotional symptoms that women suffer when their p...

Are you losing sleep worrying, “How do narcissists treat their children after divorce?” Here’s 5 ways to protect your child from the toxic influence of a narcissistic father. To discover if your child is being abused by your narcissistic husband or ex, take our free emotional abuse test. 5 WAYS TO HELP THE CHILD OF A NARCISSIST: Learn why the narcissist does what he does. Invite people into your circle who can support your children. Learn how to use effective strategies and boundaries. Kno...

Many women desperately want to know, “Can my husband change?” The short answer is yes. The long answer is, it’s extremely complicated. If you’re interested in observing from a place of emotional safety to see if this will happen, you’ll need strategies to keep you emotionally safe. If you need help understanding if your husband is changing, learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Support Sessions. We understand the deep desire to have a peaceful home. Anne shares that once you’ve establishe...

Like many women, Brandi found herself asking, “Is my husband emotionally abusive?” The ramifications of learning this can seem overwhelming. To find out if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse test. 1. YOUR HUSBAND IS EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE IF HE LIES Emotional abuse victims state that his constant lying is one of the worst parts of his emotional abuse. Lies are emotionally abusive, because hiding the truth from you is one way h...

If you’ve discovered your husband lies, you’re probably asking, “Is lying emotional abuse?” IS LYING EMOTIONAL ABUSE? 3 THINGS 1. IF HIS LYING MAKES YOU QUESTION REALITY, IT’S NOT “JUST LYING” If interactions with your husband leave you confused or second-guessing your memory, that’s not normal conflict. That’s your mind trying to make sense of two competing realities: what you see and what he says. If, so keep reading. It’s likely that his lies are a form of emotional abuse. 2. IF HIS LYIN...

For decades, men who choose to engage in problematic sexual behaviors have been treated as “addicts” according to the traditional addiction model. Tragically, some professionals have labeled label victims of domestic abuse as co-addicts or codependents or told her that she can do something to “help” him. Here’s what you need to know before searching for a “CSAT therapist near me” or other sex addiction therapist or program. As you read and listen, if you relate and find you need support, check ...

Many women who’ve experienced their husband’s exploitation wonder how to prevent exploitation for all victims. The first step to understanding if your husband exploits you, is to know if he manipulates your emotions for his own gain. To discover if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse test. If your husband exploits you through manipulating you to think it’s your duty or obligation, we’re here for you. Attend a Betrayal Trauma R...

If men knew how deeply their actions affected victims, would they continue to lie and manipulate? Infidelity leaves lasting, painful trauma that can affect a victim’s life for years after the betrayal. If you need support check out The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session Schedule. TRANSCRIPT: HOW DOES INFIDELITY HARM VICTIMS? Hillevi was born in Valparaiso, Indiana. In 1993 she married her now-husband. Together with their five children, they lived a dream marriage until Hillevi discovered ...

Are you considering trying to convince your husband to go to therapy? Or making a therapy appointment for your difficult husband? Is your husband’s therapist making things worse? Anne Blythe, M.Ed. covers the 5 things you need to consider before making a decision. If you need support, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY. Many professionals avoid using the word “abuse” and instead use words like “harm” or “mistreat” because they don’t want to hurt the abuser’s feelings. A thera...

Are you wondering, “Is my husband holding me back?” Understanding the signs that your husband may be sabotaging your personal progress is crucial in taking steps toward a healthier, happier life. Sarah, used the The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Workshop to determine exactly what was going on and how to overcome the ways her husband was undermining her. In this episode, Sarah talks about overcoming the ways her husband held through using meditation. USING MEDITATION TO OVERCOME WHAT’S HOLDING YOU B...

Fighting a narcissist for custody is usually a complex, painful, and grueling process that can take years. Tina Swithin joins Anne to educate and empower victims as they fight for their children in and out of court. If you need support, learn about our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. #INTIMIDATION & MORE ABUSE IN A CUSTODY BATTLE WITH A NARCISSIST A CUSTODY BATTLE WITH A NARCISSIST When victims of narcissistic abuse start a custody battle, the narcissist might . . . Turn family and...

12 step for wives of addicts is commonly suggested to women who experience intimate betrayal. Michelle and Kate, members of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Community, join Anne to talk about how 12 Step can harm victims. If you need support after you discover your husband’s betrayal, check out our daily online Group Sessions. 12 STEP UTILIZES THE CODEPENDENCY MODEL (HINT – THE CODEPENDENCY MODEL IS BAD) When women experience betrayal and abuse, they may feel eager to gain some control over their ...

In the early days of her marriage, Lynea attributed problems with her husband to normal relationship challenges or her husband’s culture. Lynea finally realized she needed help to recover from betrayal trauma. The first step to recover from betrayal trauma is to see if you’re actually experiencing emotional abuse. See if these examples of emotional abuse apply to you. Recovery from betrayal trauma is possible. If you need support, we’d love to see you in one of our online support groups for be...

If your daughter confided in you that her husband uses emotional or psychological abuse, here are 3 ways to help your abused daughter. If you or anyone you know needs support, our daily online support group helps women experiencing emotional and psychological abuse. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY. 1. HELP YOUR ABUSED DAUGHTER RECOGNIZE EMOTIONAL & PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE Introduce her to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast, as well as the Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and Y...

Learning how to establish healthy boundaries with your abusive ex-husband is essential for your emotional safety. Celeste, a member of The BTR.ORG Community, shares strategies in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop to establish emotional safety and find peace in a difficult situation. The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop helps victims navigate boundary-setting in divorce or married scenarios. This video simply and clearly breaks down what effective boundaries are, and how women can begin to establish...

When you discover your husband has betrayed you with secret use of inappropriate online material or infidelity, it’s important to seek the best betrayal trauma resources. If you’re experiencing betrayal trauma, we’d love to see you in a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY. TRANSCRIPT: BETRAYAL TRAUMA RESOURCES YOU CAN COUNT ON Anne: We have a special episode today. Several women will share the betrayal trauma resources that help them the most. Check out our Group Session Schedule. A...

Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, talks to Sadie, who with other human trafficking survivor speakers, shares her story. One of the offensive and dangerous societally accepted beliefs is that trafficked workers have chosen and want to be exploited. In fact, the average age of a trafficking victim is only thirteen years old. In fact, many married women are trafficked by their husband’s without even knowing about it. If you listen and relate, we welcome you to a group for women who...

If you’ve wondered, “Is my husband grooming me?” Raven talks about how her emotionally abusive husband groomed her from the beginning of their relationship. One way to know if he’s grooming you is to see if he’s using any one of the 19 emotional abuse tactics. To find out, take our free emotional abuse test. WHAT IS GROOMING? No matter what kind of abuse, or who the abuser is, grooming occurs when an abuser creates a false sense of safety for his victim. “Anything that someone does to make i...

When Anne Blythe, M.Ed. first started podcasting years ago, she searched, “how to set boundaries with my husband?”. In this episode Anne analyzes one of her old podcast episodes. To point out to her years ago self, all the victim blaming she experienced. If you need support, see our Betrayal Trauma Group Session Schedule. In this early podcast episode, Anne shares her very first attempts at healthy boundaries. She refers to a 12-step program, “addict behaviors”, and addiction. Now, of course, ...

After the emotional abuse seems to have stopped, is your husband vulnerable, loving, and making an effort to change, or is he love bombing you? Laurel is on the podcast today, talking about 3 ways to know he’s love bombing you. If you need support check out our Betrayal Trauma Support Group Schedule. 1. GROOMING WITH FALSE VULNERABILITY & IMAGE MANAGEMENT IS LOVE BOMBING Abusive husbands weaponize false vulnerability – they’ll abuse their wives, then reel them back in by love bombing them wit...

Gaslighting is a calculated maneuver that emotional and psychological abusers use to keep women stuck. How do abusers gaslight? Dr. Jessica Taylor, author of Why Women Are Blamed for Everything and Sexy But Psycho talks with Anne Blythe M.Ed, about specific details with real life stories. Betrayal Trauma Recovery is here for you. If you need support, attend one of our support group sessions TODAY. ABUSERS USE THESE PHRASES TO GASLIGHT YOU Wondering if you’ve been a victim of gaslighting? Dr. ...

Every victim faces a unique moment when she has had enough, when she realizes, “It’s time to leave.” Vicki shares her powerful story of liberating herself from an abusive marriage when she reached her own moment of realization. Vicki’s story offers a beacon of hope for survivors facing similar challenges. Whether you’ve been married for days, weeks, months, or years, we want you to be safe, as you figure out if it’s time to leave your emotionally abusive marriage. To find out if you’re experien...

Armchair Pathology: The pathologizing (diagnosing, whether by a formal diagnosis or simply a suggestion) of an individual without thorough, knowledge-based, individualized care by a provider or advocate. If you’re a victim of betrayal, here are some armchair psychology examples you need to be aware of. When a provider or advocate labels a victim with a certain pathology, without being educated or trained in abuse, it can be damaging to the victim. Too many so-called experts subject women to sev...

In this faith-focused podcast episode, Anne Blythe, M.Ed, talks with a victim of ritual abuse. Here’s how one woman’s story can help protect you and your family. We recognize that many victims of spiritual abuse find religion and spirituality traumatizing, while others find religion and spirituality comforting and healing. Please know that you are welcome and loved in this community, no matter where you are on the spectrum of spirituality. Our BTR.ORG Group Sessions are a safe space for you to p...