Episodes

Did you recently discover you husband flirting with women online or using pornography? Are you confused, hurt, devastated, and afraid? If your wondering “Is online infidelity cheating?”, here are 7 things you need to know based on the research. Did you know that online cheating is a form of emotional abuse? To see if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz. 1. SOMETIMES WHAT YOU DISCOVERED IS JUST THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG It ca...

If you’re wondering about psychological abuse vs emotional abuse, here’s what to know. Emotional abuse is when someone manipulates your emotions to exploit you. He can use psychological abuse or emotional abuse to toy with your emotions to get what he wants. To find out if you’re experiencing emotional abuse, take this free emotional abuse quiz. Psychological abuse is a deliberate attempt to manipulate, control, and diminish a person’s sense of reality. It can be impossible to detect, because ...

If you suspect your husband is having an affair, is it wrong to check your husband’s phone? Does access to your husband’s phone ensure he’ll stay faithful? Jenn shares 3 reasons why checking his devices didn’t stop her husband from cheating. If you relate and need support, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY. TRANSCRIPT: IS IT WRONG TO CHECK YOUR HUSBAND’S PHONE? Anne: A member of our community we’re going to call her, Jenna is on today’s episode. She’s been on the podcast b...

I went through so many stages of anger after infidelity. Here’s what I learned over the years. I realized I wasn’t just healing from his infidelity—I was also recovering from years of emotional hurt. If this sounds like you, take this free emotional abuse quiz to see if you’ve been through emotional abuse too. THE 5 STAGES OF ANGER AFTER INFIDELITY Healing from infidelity means facing a whirlwind of emotions. One emotion often takes center stage is raw and overwhelming. If you’ve been betraye...

If you’ve endured repeated betrayal from your husband, you’re not alone. Many women in our community have faced the long-term effects of emotional abuse in their marriage. Florence, a member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Community, a victim of her husband’s emotional abuse for over 40 years, shares her story. If you relate, consider attending on of our daily online support groups TODAY. THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE Being in an emotionally abusive relationship for a prolonged per...

If you’re wondering, “Is my relationship safe?” It’s important to look at patterns of abusive behavior. Physical abuse never happens without emotional abuse, so the first step is to understand the patterns of emotional abuse. To discover if your husband is using any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse test. This Is the Second Episode With Dave Cawley Warning Signs Your Husband Is Dangerous – Susan’s Story With Dave Cawley Patterns To Look Out For In ...

If you’re searching for warning signs your husband is dangerous it’s important to know that many victims “only” experience emotional abuse until . . . Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, talks to Dave Cawley, host of the Cold podcast series, about the Susan Powell case, empowering victims to protect themselves and seek safety now. This Is the First Episode With Dave Cawley Warning Signs Your Husband Is Dangerous – Susan’s Story With Dave Cawley (THIS EPISODE) Patterns To Look Out...

It’s shocking how common financial abuse in divorce is. Here are the best ways to protect yourself. Divorce is hard. If you’ve been married to a narcissistic abuser, it can feel even more impossible to break free. These individuals often don’t stop their controlling behavior after a divorce is filed. Instead, they escalate their attempts to assert power. One of the most common—and devastating—ways narcissistic abusers do this is through financial abuse. If you’re a woman divorcing a narcissist,...

Hidden abuse is characterized by lies and manipulation, and it causes trauma that’s hard to recognize. To discover if you’re experiencing any of the 19 types of hidden abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz. This episode follows Penny’s Story How to Start to Heal From Emotional Abuse – Penny’s Story Healing Trauma From Hidden Abuse – What Gets In Our Way? – Penny’s Take (THIS EPISODE) WHAT IS HIDDEN ABUSE? One of the biggest obstacles in healing trauma from hidden abuse is understanding w...

Is it possible to heal from emotional abuse and betrayal trauma? Everyday, brave women resist in a variety of ways. Penny shares her story of how she resisted abuse and finally was able to heal from emotional abuse. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session today to share your story with other women who have endured the same type of emotional and psychological abuse and begin healing from emotional abuse TODAY. This episode follows Penny’s Story How to Start to Heal From Emotional Abuse ...

If you’re asking yourself, “Should I get a divorce?” you’re likely in a place of deep confusion. You might feel: Relieved at the thought of leaving Overwhelmed by what comes next Unsure if things are “bad enough” This isn’t a simple decision. And if your husband’s behavior includes addiction, secrecy, or emotional abuse, the usual advice to “just try harder” can make things even more confusing. SHOULD I GET A DIVORCE? 7 STEPS TO HELP YOU DECIDE This guide will walk you through how to know ...

Did you know that it’s considered child abuse to expose a child to inappropriate media? Here’s how to protect children from online threats. To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse quiz. WHEN A CHILD IS EXPOSED TO ONLINE DANGERS A child’s accidental exposure to online inappropriate material. It traumatizes children who view it. They need immediate trauma-focused care to process and heal. Trauma from exposure can affect children in many ways. Often, traumatized ...

If you’re struggling to deal with an addict husband, we get it. We’re here for you. Our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions are for women who have done everything they can to fix their marriage, but their addict husband is still causing trouble. To see if your husband’s addiction causes him to be emotionally abusive, take our free emotional abuse quiz. And listen (above) to Evangeline’s story to see if you relate, or read the transcript below. You’re not alone. TRANSCRIPT: HOW TO DEAL WI...

A lot of women are looking for answers about how to heal betrayal trauma in relationships on Reddit or other forums. Here’s what those forums get wrong: 1. BETRAYAL TRAUMA ISN’T “JUST” ABOUT THE CHEATING – IT’S ABOUT ALL THE ABUSE Betrayal trauma victims on reddit often share their stories about how their husband cheating on them and they can’t get the thoughts out of their heads. BUT they’re posts make it clear that they’re still unaware of all the other abuse they experienced. For true heal...

There’s another word for toxic – abusive. If you’re asking, “Is my husband toxic?” What you’re really asking is, is he emotionally or psychologically abusive. Here’s three things you need to know. WHAT DOES “TOXIC” MEAN? A toxic person uses manipulation, control, lies, and chaos to get what they want. Often, toxic men use emotional or psychological abuse tactics, which can be harder to detect than physical abuse, but is just as damaging. See if he’s using any one of these 19 different types o...

What’s the difference between emotional abuse and normal conflict? I’ll dive into that below. When we’re figuring out the difference between emotional abuse vs normal conflict, it’s important to focus on emotional safety either way. Step one would be to take an emotional abuse test to see if what you’re experiencing is emotional abuse. UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONAL ABUSE VS NORMAL CONFLICT Emotional Abuse: Emotional abuse is manipulating someone’s emotions to exploit them. Because it’s aim is explo...

Do you have betrayal trauma symptoms? Did any professional that you went to help you understand that you are a victim of emotional and psychological abuse? If not, you’re not the only one. Attend one of our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions to join a community of women who can validate and support you. MOST PROFESSIONALS MISS BETRAYAL TRAUMA SYMPTOMS Tragically, family, friends, clergy, and therapists further abuse victims. When they don’t recognize that betrayal trauma symptoms are cau...

Is therapy causing you to feel worse? Do you keep going, thinking maybe the next session will be the breakthrough? Here are the warning signs of an abusive therapist every woman needs to be aware of. Amy Nordhues, a victim of an abusive therapist, and author of Prayed Upon, joined Anne Blythe, M.Ed. on The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast to talk about the warning signs of an abusive therapist. If you relate and need support, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY. TRANSCR...

If you’re wondering how to get back to yourself after emotional abuse, listen to how Anne Blythe, M.Ed. came back to herself through writing, exercise, and boundaries. Do you need support through your healing journey? Check out our Group Support Session Schedule. TRANSCRIPT: HOW TO GET BACK TO YOURSELF AFTER EMOTIONAL ABUSE Anne: A few years ago, I was doing an interview for The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. There was this freaky Friday situation. and the guest started interviewing me. I ...

Do you feel like something is “off” with your husband? If you’re asking, “Why is my husband constantly on his phone?” Here’s what couple therapists or clergy won’t tell you. Dr. Hastings and Dr. Lucero Jones are on the podcast talking about their groundbreaking research on how a husband’s pornography use affects his wife. You deserve support, learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. 4 WAYS TO FIND SUPPORT WHEN HE’S CONSTANTLY ON HIS PHONE Listen to The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Po...

Does your husband promise you that he will do anything to help heal your marriage from his betrayal, lies, and emotional abuse? Then then doesn’t do anything? “I fight for our marriage, but he doesn’t follow through,” said Kirsten, a member of our community. Does this sound familiar? We’re here for you, learn about our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. TRANSCRIPT: WHY WON’T MY HUSBAND FIGHT FOR OUR MARRIAGE? Anne: I have Kirsten on the podcast today. I know her personally, and she’s am...

If your in-laws enable emotional abuse, you’re not alone. Tragically, this is an extremely common occurrence for victims. Tanya shares her heartbreaking story of living through financial, physical, and emotional abuse – all while her in-laws enable her abuser. If you need live support, learn about our online Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. TRANSCRIPTION: WHEN YOUR IN-LAWS ARE EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE TOO Anne: I have a member of the BTR community on today’s episode, we’re going to call he...

If you’re experiencing narcissistic abuse, know that you’re not alone. HOW TO SPOT YOUR HUSBAND’S NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: 1. HE MAKES HARMFUL CHOICES SEEM LIKE “ACCIDENTS” One early sign of narcissistic abuse is when your husband does something hurtful, suspicious, or confusing, then acts like it was just an accident. Maybe he “accidentally” sends a message to the wrong person. Maybe he “accidentally” leaves out key details. And then he makes you feel unreasonable one for asking questions. 2....

When a man chooses to have a secret sexual basement, he’s abusing his wife. Here’s why. A secret sexual basement refers to a hidden life that a man conceals from his wife and children. This hidden life may involve activities such as pornography, prostitution, sexting, affairs, sexual assault, or workplace sexual harassment. HAVING A “SECRET BASEMENT” IS ABUSE Here are all the abusive ways a man keeps his behaviors hidden from his wife: Manipulation Lies Gaslighting Emotional neglect Did ...