Episodes

Betrayal trauma occurs when you’ve experienced (or are still experiencing) your husband’s emotional and psychological abuse. If you recently found out your husband has been lying to you, using pornography, or other infidelity, here’s what you need to know. If you relate and need support? Learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Support Sessions. WHAT IS BETRAYAL TRAUMA? Betrayal Trauma is caused by your husband’s chronic and systematic betrayal. This betrayal includes infidelity in the form...

If you’re wondering, “How do I know if my husband is abusive?” You’re not alone. Hearing the stories of other women can help you know what to do next. Coach Jo is a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Coach who had to ask herself that question in two different marriages. If you relate with her experience learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions here. YOUR HUSBAND IS ABUSIVE IF HIS EXPLOITATIVE MATERIALS USE = COERCION Women have the right to information about their partner’s behaviors before ...

Women seeking treatment for divorce following the devastation of betrayal and a life they didn’t expect often ask, “Will I ever be okay again?” It’s hard to imagine at first that they can make something meaningful for themselves and their children out of something so painful. However, post-traumatic growth is real and here are a few key things to remember when you feel overwhelmed by what is happening now. KEY STEPS: POST-TRAUMATIC GROWTH TREATMENT FOR DIVORCE 1. KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT’S R...

One of the most important things support groups for survivors of emotional abuse do, is offer women a safe place to process what has happened to them in a community of women who understand and can validate their experiences. If you’re wondering if you’re experiencing emotional abuse, take my free emotional abuse test here. HOW SUPPORT GROUPS FOR EMOTIONAL ABUSE SURVIVORS HELP VICTIMS We hear from so many women who discover BTR but are reluctant to sign up for Group Sessions or take the Clarit...

Voicing the agony of betrayal trauma can come in many different forms. Ralynne Riggs, a professional singer and victim of betrayal and abuse, shares her experience. She created a YouTube cover of the song Anything Worth Holding On To. TRANSCRIPT: VOICING THE AGONY OF BETRAYAL Anne: I’ve posted the music video we’re talking about today on our YouTube channel. So after you’ve listened to this episode, click here to find Betrayal Trauma on YouTube. This music video really captures the emotions th...

Have you experienced emotional abuse from your husband? Maybe in the form of sexual betrayal. If so, here are five affirmations for emotional abuse victims. 1. I AM ENOUGH Abusive relationships often diminish a person’s self-worth. Victims are led to believe they need their abuser for validation. By repeating the affirmation, I AM ENOUGH, victims can begin to rebuild their self-esteem and recognize their intrinsic value. Say out loud: I AM ENOUGH 2. PEOPLE HAVE TO EARN MY TRUST & LOVE Many ...

If your narcissist ex won’t leave you alone—even after the divorce—you know how exhausting it is to feel like there’s no real break, no matter how much space you try to create. Here are six powerful strategies you can use right now to create distance from a narcissistic ex-husband who won’t back off. As you’ll see in this interview with my guest Lee, these are real, battle-tested tools—clear, practical, and effective. If you’re married and quietly wondering if what you’re experiencing is emoti...

Have you been searching for the best support for betrayal trauma? Do you feel alone, scared, heartbroken, and sick over the betrayal and the consequences of his emotional abuse? Victims of betrayal and abuse deserve a safe space to process trauma, openly speak truths, ask hard questions, and receive validation. What is the best betrayal trauma support group? Here are 4 things to look for . . . 1. IS YOUR EMOTIONAL & PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY THE TOP PRIORITY? The best betrayal trauma support group...

You deserve the best betrayal trauma resources as you navigate the deeply personal journey toward emotional safety. WHAT IS BETRAYAL TRAUMA? Betrayal trauma in marriage occurs when your husband violates your trust. But here’s the thing: Some resources for navigating what to do about betrayal trauma can be more traumatizing than helpful. IN THIS ARTICLE, WE COVER THESE BEST BETRAYAL TRAUMA RESOURCES Accessible online betrayal trauma support groups Helpful betrayal trauma podcasts The best be...

People often told me, “marriage is hard work”, when I tried to explain the confusion, fear, and emotional exhaustion I was experiencing in my marriage. I kept wondering: is every marriage really this way? I had nothing to compare it to. Especially when even couples who seemed happy said marriage is hard. If your marriage is hard work all the time, you may be dealing with something other than the “normal” hard work of marriage. Take our free emotional abuse test to find out. DOES THE HARD WORK ...

Has your husband betrayed you? You are not alone. Anne and Missy share insights on healing from betrayal through recognizing betrayal, understanding manipulation, and finding support. If he’s betrayed you, there are resources available to support you. In fact, you may be a victim of his emotional abuse. There at 19 different types of emotional abuse, and some are really subtle. To see if you’re experiencing emotional abuse, take my free emotional abuse test. TRANSCRIPT: IF YOUR HUSBAND HAS BET...

Victim blaming is an insidious form of abuse in and of itself. In the betrayal trauma community, abusers, clergy, therapists, and others blame victims for “their part” in the betrayal and abuse they experience at the hands of their partners. Recognizing victim blaming is an essential skill in the toolkit of every victim. Our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions meet daily in every time zone and offers women the unique opportunity to process trauma, share their stories, ask important question...

Abusers are enabled, as these myths are embedded into the population: therapists, clergy, friends, family, and neighbors, and random people on the internet, like a recent Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast reviewer who left a comment riddled with the 7 Toxic Myths about Emotional Abuse. If you need support from coaches who really understand abuse, check out our Daily Group Session Schedule. 7 TOXIC MYTHS ABOUT EMOTIONAL ABUSE Women with strong opinions, religious views, and world views should no...

Divorcing a narcissist is a nightmare. Anne Blythe, M.Ed. continues her heartfelt conversation with June from the BTR Community one year after she shared the first part of her story. Here the next chapter of her journey divorcing a narcissist. If you need support while experiencing narcissistic abuse, learn about BTR Group Sessions here. This episode follows June’s Story: Part 1: He Blamed Me for the Emotional Abuse – June Checks in One Year Later Part 2: Divorcing A Narcissist – June’s Story ...

It’s common for victims of emotional abuse to say, “He blamed me for the emotional abuse.” If this has happened to you, here’s what you need to know. To see if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz. If you need help, the safety strategies in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop can help you protect yourself from emotional abuse. This episode follows Junes’s Story: Part 1: He Blamed Me for the Emotional Abuse – June’s St...

Women often ask, “how do you live with a husband you don’t trust?” If you’ve discovered something about your husband that made you question if you could live with him, he’s likely using at least one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse. To find out, take our free emotional abuse quiz. DID HIS MANIPULATION & LIES BREAK YOUR TRUST? Most women who can’t trust their husband discover he’s been manipulating, gaslighting, and lying. It’s important for emotionally abusive men to protect their...

A narcissistic husband can make marriage a nightmare. Below you’ll find expert advice for women married to a narcissistic man. If you need support dealing with your narcissistic husband, check out our daily online narcissistic abuse support group. WHY DEALING WITH A NARCISSISTIC HUSBAND FEELS SO HARD A narcissistic husband doesn’t just behave selfishly. He often: Rewrites events to avoid responsibility Blames you for his behavior Minimizes your concerns Expects emotional access without off...

“My husband says I’m the problem, so I went to therapy for years. But things are still bad.” J.R. spent nearly a decade trying to improve herself so her marriage would improve. She didn’t realize she was never the problem in her marriage. To know if you’re the problem, take our free emotional abuse quiz to see if you’re experiencing any of the 19 types of emotional abuse. If you are, it’s unlikely you have anything to do with the problems in your marriage. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKes8...

As Diane shares her devastating story of surviving narcissistic abuse. She empowers women to become educated about abuse and trauma and start seeking safety. If you need support check out our Group Support Schedule. He just became increasingly mean to me, to the point where I thought something was seriously wrong with me. I started going to a therapist because I thought, “What is wrong with me? I am nothing.’” Every day, he found something wrong with me. He would tell me how horrible I was, ju...

Three factors determine how long does it take to heal from emotional abuse. If your husband betrayed you, here are the strategies to speed up the healing process so you can feel peace again. 1. HAS HIS EMOTIONAL ABUSE STOPPED? The first factor that affects how long it will take to heal from emotional abuse is to ensure that the emotional abuse has stopped. Emotional abuse includes various behaviors that come out of his exploitative privilege. If he thinks his “needs” and “rights” are more impo...

If you’re looking for the best betrayal trauma support group, here are five things to consider: 5 CHARACTERISTICS OF AN EFFECTIVE BETRAYAL TRAUMA SUPPORT GROUP 1. CAN YOU GET SUPPORT QUICKLY? AND OFTEN? At Betrayal Trauma Recovery, we’ve all been through betrayal trauma and know how important it is to get the right support, right when you need it. That’s why Betrayal Trauma Support Group Sessions meet online, every single day, multiple times, in every time zone. Check out the Session Schedul...

What is marital coercion? It can take many forms, but maybe the most common is when a husband uses pornography and hides it from his wife. Karen, a victim of betrayal trauma (and a therapist), joins Anne on the to explain why this is sexual coercion. To find out if he’s using any one of the 19 different types of emotional coercion in your marriage, take our free emotional abuse test. If you are experiencing marital coercion, we’re here for you. Learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessio...

Whether it’s objectifying one human being through domestic abuse or many through trafficking, dehumanizing women is a despicable act. One of the types of exploitation is so common most people don’t know how harmful it is. Anne Basham, CEO of Anti-Trafficking International (ATI), joins Anne to dive deep into the correlations between pornography use, domestic abuse, and human trafficking. Do you need support? Learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. TRANSCRIPT: TYPES OF EXPLOITATION ...

If you’re wondering if you’re experiencing spiritual abuse, Sharon shares how her husband’s spiritual abuse affected her. Although spiritual abuse can be subtle, sometimes it can be extremely intense. If you’re wondering if you’re experiencing spiritual abuse, take our free quiz. EFFECTS OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE Anne: I’ve invited Coach Sharon, part of our BTR coaching team to come on today’s episode. Sharon and I have been sharing our innermost feelings about the work that we do. How it really fee...