Episodes

Many women ask, “What if my husband says he doesn’t love me??” It will surprise you to know that it’s actually a lie. Here’s what you need to know. Did you know there are 19 different types of emotional abuse? To see if you can recognize the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz. TRANSCRIPT: WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND SAYS HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU Anne: Today we’re gonna cover what happens when your husband says he doesn’t love you anymore. We have a member of...

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Healing emotional wounds in relationships, especially from a toxic marriage, is vital to our emotional health. Here’s how to find the right support. To discover if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 types of abuse that cause emotional wounds, take our free emotional abuse quiz. Step 1: RECOGNIZING WHAT CAUSED THE EMOTIONAL WOUNDS Understanding emotional abuse is the first step to getting help and staying safe. Before you go to any helping professional, it’s important to be educated about em...

It is crucial for women to recognize the signs of clergy misconduct, as those who experience betrayal or emotional abuse often turn to their faith communities for solace and support. Here’s what you need to know. If you relate to this, you need support. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY. Dave Gemmel, Associate Director of the NAD Ministerial Association, joins Anne Blythe, M.Ed. to discuss clergy misconduct. Congregants seek spiritual guidance, compassion, and leadership fro...

You might think you already know the answer to this question: “What does God say about divorce?” But here’s the thing, the Bible has told righteous people throughout all of time to separate themselves from wickedness. The word we use today for “wickedness” is abuse. So the first step to knowing what God may want you to do about your marriage is to discover if you’re experiencing emotional abuse. Click here to take my free emotional abuse quiz. TRANSCRIPT: WHAT DID GOD SAY ABOUT DIVORCE? Anne:...

Has your husband (or his therapist) weaponized codependency language to harm you? Here’s why codependents anonymous might not be right for you. IS CODEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS THE ANSWER FOR BETRAYED WIVES? When a husband lies and cheats, many women are told: “You’re codependent. You should go to Codependents Anonymous.” But here’s the truth: men often pick up “codependency” language from sexual addiction therapists or marriage counselors, but it’s actually a form of victim blaming. When a professi...

Husband future faking is when a husband uses promises about the future (trips, counseling, moving, budgets, a baby, “I’ll change”) to control what you do today, delaying consequences, buying time, and keeping access, without producing consistent, verifiable change. FUTURE FAKING = PROMISES NOW, NO FOLLOW-THROUGH LATER It spikes after discovery (you catch lies, porn, affairs, money issues). Real change is quiet, boring, measurable for months, not speeches. Protect your safety and watch behavio...

Covert emotional abuse is difficult to identify. If you’re wondering if you’re husband is using covert emotional abuse, here’s what you need to know. To discover if your husband is emotionally abusive, take this free emotional abuse quiz. Anne Blythe, M.Ed. Host of The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast, talks to Nadira, a member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community about her husband’s covert emotional abuse. 6 EXAMPLES OF COVERT EMOTIONAL ABUSE Covert Emotional Abuse Is A Lack Of Co...

Are you asking yourself, “Is my husband hiding money?” If you suspect he might be keeping secrets, including financial ones, it’s important to recognize the signs. From sneaky spending habits to secret accounts, there are common tactics some use to hide things from their partners. This quiz will help you uncover if he’s lying in general, giving you the insight you need to determine whether money is part of the equation. HERE’S WHAT TO DO IF YOU WONDER, IS MY HUSBAND HIDING MONEY? 1. RECOGNIZE ...

If you’ve been sensing: “I think my husband is cheating…” If so, you’re not alone. Many women describe the same experience: A constant sense that something is “off” A feeling of dread they can’t explain Questioning themselves: “Am I paranoid?” The truth is, there are patterns you can look for, but there’s also something deeper happening that most advice ignores. This how to guide will walk you through how to know if your husband is cheating. SIGNS YOUR HUSBAND IS CHEATING STEP 1: PAY ATTE...

Here are some of the most common scriptures on betrayal. Then I’ll dive into an analysis of betrayal—specifically in the context of a husband betraying his wife, using examples from the scriptures of Judas. Here’s what you need to know If you’ve been betrayed and are turning to scripture for guidance. SCRIPTURES ABOUT BETRAYAL & BROKEN TRUST Psalm 41:9 (ESV) Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me. Psalm 55:12–14 (ESV) For it is not an enemy who...

Divorce isn’t just paperwork—it’s a complex emotional and logistical process that’s almost impossible to navigate alone. Divorce and emotional abuse go hand-in-hand. If you’re struggling after divorce, the right support can make all the difference. This episode is part of a series: This episode follows Felicia’s Story Part 1: This Is Why You’re Not Codependent – Felicia’s Story Part 2: Divorce and Emotional Abuse – Felicia Checks in 9 Months Later (THIS EPISODE) If you’re a woman going throug...

Many women spend years (and thousands of dollars) hiring a therapist codependency​ expert after someone convinces them they are the problem. If someone has labeled you “codependent” because you reacted to your husband’s problematic behavior, stop for a moment. Before you schedule therapy, understand this: you may not need to fix yourself — you may need to protect yourself. YOU MAY NOT NEED A THERAPIST CODEPENDENCY EXPERT, YOU MIGHT BE SEEKING EMOTIONAL SAFETY Often, betrayal trauma victims (w...

If you’re realizing, “my husband won’t stop lying,” you’re not alone. Below you’ll find six ways he’ll react if he gets caught. Understanding these reactions can help you make sense of the situation and take steps toward emotional peace. COMMON REACTIONS WHEN A MAN IS CAUGHT LYING Recognizing your husband’s reactions when caught lying can help you decide on the best course of action. 1. HE CALLS YOU CRAZY The most common tactic he’ll use is to undermine your perception of reality. By callin...

If you’re thinking, “My husband is paranoid and angry,” this interview will help you sort out what’s really going on. It’s likely that you’re experiencing emotional abuse. To find out, take our free emotional abuse quiz. TRANSCRIPT: MY HUSBAND IS PARANOID AND ANGRY Anne: I have a member of our community on today’s episode. We’re gonna call her Louise. She’s here to share her story. So many women share a similar story. They talk about how their husband is paranoid and angry. One of the reasons...

Women often carry the burden of being the peacemaker. But what does Jesus say about abuse?

If you never thought you’d have to deal with narcissistic abuse in marriage, you’re not alone. To see if you’re experiencing any of the 19 types of emotional abuse you’ll experience from a narcissist, take our free emotional abuse quiz. If you are experiencing narcissistic emotional abuse, you will need support. For live support, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session today. 5 CLEAR SIGNS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN MARRIAGE 1. YOU’RE CONSTANTLY SECOND-GUESSING YOURSELF. Gaslighting ma...

Does shame cause cheating—or is it just an excuse? Discover the real cause of cheating and why shame isn’t the reason your husband keeps lying. If you’re experiencing the pain and devastation of finding out your husband has betrayed you online, attend one of our daily Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions TODAY. IF YOU’VE BEEN TOLD THAT SHAME IS THE CAUSE OF CHEATING IT’S A LIE Here’s the truth: Cheating is not a mysterious emotional accident. It’s a pattern. A predictable one. And if you’ve...

Exploitative material isn’t entertainment, it’s the commercialization of women’s bodies. It’s harmful to everyone. If your husband is on phone all the time, it’s important to know, that what he’s doing on his phone really matters. If it seems like your husband is on his phone all the time and cares more about what’s on his phone than he does about you, you need support. Attend one of our live, daily Group Sessions TODAY. EXPLOITATIVE MATERIAL IS HARMFUL TO WOMEN If he’s using exploitative mater...

If you’ve discovered your husband’s lies or infidelity, will marriage counseling help? What you need to know about the best marriage counseling near me for couples. Did you know that most couples who are seeking counseling are dealing with emotional abuse? To find out if your husband is using any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz. DO WE NEED MARRIAGE COUNSELING? Are you considering marriage counseling because you just discovered your husband’...

If you’ve just discovered your husband’s dark secrets, most women don’t know where to turn for help. If you’re wondering what to do when husband betrays your trust, here are 3 things to consider. 1. Check To See If His Betrayal Included Emotional Abuse Most men who betray their wives use emotional abuse tactics long before their lies are discovered. The first thing to do after your husband betrays your trust is to become educated about emotional and psychological abuse. To find out if your hus...

So many women struggle with the question: “What to do when you are mad at your husband?”. If you’re angry because your husband has harmed you, your anger makes sense. Did you know that legitimate anger is not bad, and in fact, it’s helpful? Anger is a natural response to harmful treatment, and it helps you know that something is wrong. It’s like a sacred internal warning system, alerting you to danger and calling you to action. HERE ARE 7 REASONS WHY ANGER IS NOT BAD: ANGER… Alerts you to un...

If you’re wondering, “Why is my husband yelling at me?” the answer might surprise you. Here are 7 key questions to help uncover the real reasons behind his constant anger. 1. MAYBE HE’S YELLING BECAUSE HE HAS A SECRET? When your husband has something he wants to do that he doesn’t want you to know about. He will be very irritated when you ask normal everyday questions. Or try to interact with him like any normal person would. Hiding things from you is not only lying and deceit, it’s actually a...

A husband’s lying, infidelity, gaslighting, and emotional abuse causes betrayal trauma. The effects can leave women feeling lost, confused, and unsafe. Understanding the 4 stages of betrayal trauma can help you process what’s happening and take meaningful steps toward healing. Most men who betray their wives are emotionally abusive. Before moving on, take our free emotional abuse quiz to see if you’re also experiencing emotional abuse. THE 4 STAGES OF BETRAYAL TRAUMA When a husband lies, chea...