Episodes

Today’s episode was inspired by the book, Hands Are Not for Hitting by Martine Agassi. We aim to stay out of the bickering when our kids get into it, but what about when it gets physical with each other or they are destroying toys/property? Today we will talk about a cool strategy that works well when tempers are flaring and how to be the calm in their storm so you all can have more harmony in our home. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connec...

How are we on our 200th episode???? And we have a giveaway! And Holy moly guacamole look who we have with us today!! I was lucky and blessed enough to be asked to interview Dr. Shefali about her new book and how conscious parenting has completely transformed our home from stressed to blessed. Listen below and reply to this email with your biggest takeaway. Giveaway alert: Share it on social media and tag me… I’ll be raffling off a free copy of her book for anyone who shares it on social media...

Does it feel like you’re pulling teeth when you’re trying to hear about your kid’s day? When I heard this idea from Dr. Becky Kennedy I just had to try it . I thought it may work, but never knew it would work this well (teens are tough yo) so i had to immediately share it with you! Listen below on how to get the scoop about their day by being a detective instead of an interrogator to have more harmony in the home. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! L...

When we air out all the awesome and annoying traits within ourselves it unlocks the burden to be perfect. In turn, it takes the pressure off of our loved ones and their shoulders as well. Today we will discuss how to do it with our safe people in our heads or with each other to drop egos. When the egos are lighter, then we can lean into unconditional love to have more harmony in our homes. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connect! Here’s where...

Have you ever heard of vertical and horizontal relationships? I had never heard of them before until I stumbled upon a TikTok and the creator seemed to summarize this work in 30 seconds or less. I was stunned and of course had to share it with all of you immediately. Please listen to this TikTok and let me know how it resonated with you to have more harmony in your home. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connect! Here’s where you can find me:...

We all know the term called helicopter parenting where we swoop in to save and protect our kids from failure, pain or disappointment. But, today that is not the term we are unpacking and you’ll be shocked how today will help you. Ego roars its strongest voice when we Edge God Out. We will learn together how to detach your ego and use George Jetson as your inspiration. You don’t want to miss this one! When we are able to master this concept in our lives then we create more harmony in our home....

Is it possible to be too positive? I’m here to help you unpack the concept of toxic positivity. It can backfire in our homes to breed disconnection instead of connection which we ultimately want with our kids. When we are able to master this concept in our lives then we create more harmony in our home. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connect! Here’s where you can find me: Learn more at https://www.coachingkelly.com. Find me on Instagram! ...

Today we are going to talk about a cool concept about creating a powerful relationship with our future self and having his/her back instead of focusing on our past pain and failures. You can hook up your future self and find out how ironically my aim to help my future self backfired while recording this episode. When we make the hard choices today, it makes tomorrow easier or we can make the easy choices today which makes tomorrow harder. When we are able to master this concept in our lives t...

What happened to you when you were a small child and you had big feelings? If you were told to go away or get over it or yelled at for having tricky emotions then it is probably hard to learn how to feel your feelings as an adult. The reason why your parents didn’t teach you how to feel your feelings is because they didn’t know how to teach you. They were likely never taught so they can't teach what they don’t know and only passed on the strategies that were modeled to them when they were litt...

Do you ever feel like you go after a goal and have great intentions but then a couple of days in you’re already doing the thing you said you wanted to stop like smoking that cigarette, having that extra drink, excessively checking Facebook, or eating the Twinkie against you will like the Twinkie just falls in your mouth because it happens so fast. If so, then welcome to human hood. (A word I just made up) Do you ever feel like you’re yelling against your will? Like someone or something takes o...

Do you ever feel really excited about a goal and start off really strong with the habits that will get you to the goal only to peter out and start dabbling within the first week? Welcome to adulthood and how all of us seem to tackle goals without mind management. Today I’m going to discuss a secret weapon that you can put in your arsenal when going after big goals. We will be learning how to be more consistent in the habits to get you there to bridge the gap between where we are and where we ...

Do you ever overthink about a decision or how to go about bringing change into your life. For example, let’s say you want to lose 10 pounds so you spend an inordinate time studying meal plans/workout routines/touring gyms to find just the right one. Then it is 2 months later and you’re still spinning in the same process and haven’t taken any action towards the goal and have added on 5 more pounds. This has happened to me and so many of my clients so I know the game we all play. I will help yo...

Do you ever feel like you are stuck in quicksand when you want to make a change? You know what you should be doing, but you don’t do the thing that will get you to ‘that thing’ you’re after. Today we will explore why we all do this and how to soften the quicksand to take action instead of beating ourselves up for the inaction or overdoing a bad habit we are desperate to change. When we learn these skills, we are a better teacher to our kids which leads to more harmony in the home. We have to (g...

Today we are going to replay a very famous episode in our arsenal in our podcast that gave you lots of freedom to detach from your parents and their opinions of you as a child and today too. Our role as a parent is to step into emotional adulthood so we can let our kids be kids and not get in their way with our own emotional baggage. Let me know how this episode helps you to break free and have more harmony in your home today! Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting...

Have you ever had someone who is so into you that they call, text and innodate you with plans with them around the clock? You may like the person, but they are coming on so strong that it becomes a bit off putting. Today we are going to talk about how we sometimes do that to our kids and come off as needy and graspy and don’t have a life outside of them where our every emotion hangs on their actions or inactions. We will talk about how we can get a life outside of them and not live through the...

Do you have issues with your parents understanding your parenting techniques? If you were raised in a toxic environment and want to disrupt that pattern, it will most likely lead to resistance. That resistance is tricky for adults to accept because the inner child is triggered and tends to bring up old wounds. When old wounds are brought up then one can go into fight, flight or freeze at any moment because it’s a default setting for the inner child. Today we will unpack it all and the steps ...

Do you long for your kids to have a close and connected relationship with their grandparents? That is normal to desire, but sometimes it can’t happen due to distance, toxicity, resentment, mental illness or death. Today we will talk about how to grieve the relationships you long for when it doesn’t always pan out the way you desire to have more harmony in your home and over the holidays. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connect! Here’s where ...

Do you resent your parents for how they treated you when you were younger? It’s a common feeling to wish you had a different upbringing for xyz reasons so today we will unpack how to lessen the sting if you had a less than ideal childhood. We will learn about how we can break the patterns and disrupt the unconsciousness to create healthier patterns to have more harmony in our homes everyday! Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android! Join my FREE parenting bootcamp! Let’s Connect! Here’s wh...

Have you ever seen the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”? It is an oldie but a goodie that I wish I knew about during my dating years to save myself a lot of embarrassment. Today we’ll talk about how to apply this concept into all of our relationships from those in our 4 walls, the relationships of the people who were in the 4 walls when we grew up and everyone else in between. I start off with a shopping life hack that opens up the discussion into reading the room in all of our relationship...

We all had pain and trauma from our childhood that the unconscious brain and nervous system remembers at the soul level. Our unconscious patterns created when we were younger mysteriously show up when we are adults because we are trying to heal old wounds in current time. It never works so we end up recreating old trauma in our adult relationships and many times with our kids where we can lose our cool out of nowhere. When we are aware of cutting the ties of trauma bonds with consciousness th...

As a kid, did you feel responsible for your parent’s happiness? That is a tall task for a kid and a lot of weight on our shoulders which can impact us as adults as well. We will uncover patterns of enmeshment and codependency that may have been established as a child to garner love and approval from our caregivers. The love may have felt conditional and carries with us as adults creating an internal conflict that leads to lots of conflict within our 4 walls. When we unlock the handcuffs from...

We spent last week talking about the different ways our kids may handle stress by going into fight, flight or freeze mode. This week we are going to go into our time machines back to our childhoods to take a peek at how we managed stress as kids. During stressful and traumatic experiences as kids our egos were developed as a protective mechanism and sometimes show up in adulthood that don’t work for us anymore. We will unpack that together today to unlock patterns and recreate new patterns th...

Do you ever wonder why some kids respond differently in the same stressful scenarios? Like one kid may lose their mind and start punching a wall while another kid might run to the room and hide in the blanket. Today I’m gonna talk to you about popular stressor mechanisms that our kids develop and use as their default stress response. When we recognize what they do under stress then it can help us during role-playing and setting up scenarios to teach them healthier ways of responding to stress...

Do your kids cry and cry and you just want it to stop altogether? If so, today is a great strategy to help you help them to dry their tears without shame or anger. Tears are a part of life and the more we normalize them for our kids we can help them to soften the shame and anxiety that comes with holding it in. The more we allow them and aren’t so shaken by the tears the less intense they are for the kids to allow us to have more harmony in our homes. Subscribe on Apple! Subscribe on Android...