Episodes

Do you have an ideal mate? How do you know what you are looking for and can you trust those instincts? In this episode, Alvean and Doug offer some suggestions for how to recognize the traits that make someone ideal for you. For more and a complete transcript, click here: LL62-Your ideal mate

Intimacy is a word with many meanings–some quite nuanced. In this episode, Alvean and Doug offer their views on intimacy and how best to achieve it. For a complete transcript, click here: LL60-What is Intimacy

It has been said that life is a poor teacher because it first tests us then gives the lesson. What are the lessons life has taught us about true love? In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss their own lessons and those that listeners have shared. For a complete transcript, click here: LL59-What has true love taught you?

Can relationships grow stale and wither on the emotional vine? In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about the ways in which feelings can change–sometimes growing diminished and how one can alter that course and breathe fresh life into a relationship. For a full transcript, click here: LL58-Is there a use by date….

Alvean and Doug talk about their own regrets and the most common ones they’ve heard from listeners. How do you navigate those feelings and emerge with a more affirmative attitude? Click here for a full transcript: LL57-Your Biggest Regrets

Sometimes the past is something we recall with fond memory, while at other times we’d rather forget. In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss the impact children from a prior relationships can have on your current one. Will it be positive or a field of emotional landmines that can explode when you least expect it? For a full transcript, click here: LL56-Relating to children from a prior relationship

In this episode, Alvean and Doug take on the difficult question of what to do when a relationship becomes a party of three and the two are no longer a sacred bond. How does one recover, if at all? For a complete transcript, click here:LL54-You, Me and ………

Ask most women about the men in their life and there is a good chance that they will describe the men in the life as opaque or lacking when it comes to expressing their feelings. As trite as it may seem they aren’t wrong–but what they may not know is what their man is really feeling but not discussing. There are many reasons for this seeming disconnect, and in this episode Alvean and Doug discuss the causes and importantly ways in which women can help their mate to become more comfortable reveal...

As we age, most of us retain certain personality traits but often change our perspective on issues as they are informed by life experience. What we want out of our lives, our value systems and our views of others can change –sometimes dramatically– as we enter different stages of life. In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about their own experiences and the ways in which attitudes and values are affected by our social ecosystem. For a full transcript, click here: LL55-How has your perspective c...

Let’s face it, relationships can be hard to sustain. They require constant attention and it can feel like work, not fun. In the midst of those challenges one or both partners can be tempted to stray–looking for a more nurturing, happier, or simply less stressful alternative. In some cases this leads to cheating, or a breakup, but it doesn’t have to. In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss this subject frankly and with practical advice how to handle the possibility of a 3rd party in your relatio...