Episodes

Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram – it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with modern psychology. They discuss the light and dark of each number and why understanding the different types develops self-compassion and empathy for others. Time Stamps 6:48 History and intro of the Enneagram 20:53 Type 1- The Reformer or Perfectionist 23:02 Type 2- The Helper/Giver 27:36 Type 3- T...

Cathy and Todd breakdown the manipulation tactic known as gaslighting, where the goal is to abuse or control through lying, manipulating, and destabilizing. They discuss how it can be used by partners, parents, friends, bosses, and the political system, and why self-awareness and reality testing are essential to keep yourself from being victimized. They also discuss Norway’s approach to childhood sports and how its contributed to their record-setting number of Olympic medals. Resources Team Ze...

We couldn’t tape a show this week because Todd was sick ☹, so this is our Pop Culturing Podcast where we talk about the movie Say Anything… (1989) – we share why Lloyd and Diane’s love and friendship inspired us to be better people. We will return to our regularly scheduled programming next week! Say Anything … is a 1989 American romantic comedy-drama film written and directed by Cameron Crowe in his directorial debut. The film follows the romance between Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack), an average ...

Cathy and Todd discuss the benefit of mental health days after a law passed in Oregon allowing them to be excused. They also discuss the light and dark side of empathy, and how pain and challenge is a an opportunity to become more compassionate toward ourselves and others. The discuss post-traumatic growth and how we are hard-wired to help people in need, especially if we relate to their experience. Time Stamps 2:23 Mental health days 16:55 Hidden Brain- The Empathy Gym 17:36 Trauma 24:00 Can...

Cathy and Todd discuss why alone time or time away from your partner can be healthy and connective. They share the benefits and discuss the balance of togetherness and individuation. They share why it’s important to keep a sense of self and why the healthiest partnerships exist within the paradox of safety and adventure. Time Stamps 2:06 Should we have different words for trauma? 11:52 Being apart to come together 23:30 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kr...

Cathy and Todd discuss Stranger Things Season 3 and how it deals with grief, trauma, and growing up. They also discuss the “believe women” theme and all of the obvious and less obvious 80’s references. Time Stamps 45:45 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 1:06:55 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Resources Team Zen- Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month T...

Cathy and Todd discuss how we all have different approaches to challenging situations, and why there isn’t one way to speak up or solve a problem. They discuss how we can help children build a “self-awareness muscle” through question-asking and curiosity, and why understanding and honoring who we are is a life-long endeavor. Time Stamps 7:05 Random observations on a Monday afternoon (quick takes) 15:40 Two boys holding hands 20:45 Different ways to diffuse an intense situation 34:50 Welcomb...

Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it’s important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire, and consent. They explain what it means to be an Upstander and why supporting and speaking up for oth...

To celebrate their 500th episode and 8 years of podcasting, Todd and Cathy talk with their daughters Jacey (16), Camryn (14), and Skylar (11) about their experiences with “zen” parenting, and discuss the issues confronting teens and pre-teens today. Todd and Cathy also announce the launch of their new podcast, Pop Culturing – they discuss movies, tv shows and books, and break down key moments and little-known facts to touch upon underlying themes of self-awareness and what it means to be human. ...

Cathy and Todd discuss some questions that Lori Gottlieb addresses in her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and share their own experiences with being the practitioner and the patient. Time Stamps 1:07 Thrifty McSavesalot 3:05 Maybe you should talk to someone 5:22 Do patients ever bore you? 15:06 Are there clients you don’t like? 17:32 What are you like outside the office? 26:22 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 27:39 Why don’t you give advice? 40:00 How do you feel when your client leav...

Cathy and Todd discuss how fatherhood is being redefined and expanded as we learn more about ourselves and gender, Team Zen, Taylor Swift and much more… Time Stamps 4:24 Team Zen Clip 6:40 Cleo Wade quote on fathers 24:42 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 45:00 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Resources Team Zen- Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month...

Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Paul’s book The Wisdom of Anxiety, and why anxiety is an opportunity to be curious rather than afraid. They discuss how compassion, stillness, and gratitude play a role in understanding and coping with anxiety, and why anxiety is a wound and a messenger. They also discuss the Equal Rights Amendment and how it hasn’t yet been ratified by 38 states. Time Stamps 2:54 John Oliver’s take on the Equal Rights Amendment 14:02 The wisdom of anxiety 33:19 Welcomb- Lice & R...

Todd and Cathy discuss Sister Joan Chittister and her new book The Time is Now: A Call to Uncommon Courage. They discuss civil discourse, why we get our loves out of order, and why we yearn for the genuine. They discuss why self-care is the first step toward bettering our partnerships, parenting, and engagement in community and activism. Time Stamps 20:21 Is your computer backed up? No? Checkout Backblaze and get gimmick free, unlimited, cloud backup for Macs and PCs for just $6/month per comp...

Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4th – click here to join Team Zen and participate. Time Stamps 1:49 What is emotional labor? 6:08 “Tell me what to do.” Helping vs being in charge of the household 8:00 Is there a difference b/w a full-time mom and a professional mom? 11:02...

Cathy and Todd discuss why the new laws in Alabama and other states strip women of their reproductive and human rights. They discuss how we have to take a wider view and not assume everyone has access to the same resources or education. They discuss how men make these decisions but remove themselves from what should be legislated or criminalized, and how we could refocus our energy to educate and support all communities. This episode is for mature audiences. Time Stamps 0:56 Tribe Men’s Group ...

Cathy and Todd discuss girls and stress and play clips from Rich Roll’s interview with Under Pressure author Lisa Damour. They also discuss the conflict between James Charles and Tati Westbrook, and how to talk to boys about being a bystander. Time Stamps 1:06 Tribe Men’s Group https://tribemensgroup.org/ 2:40 Bystander Moment Screening on July 9th– View Trailer Here 3:50 Women’s Reproductive Rights 10:00 James Charles discussion 17:25 Lisa D’Amoure Intro 19:36 What should parents be worrie...

Cathy and Todd talk with Former New York Times reporter KJ Dell’Antonio about her book How to be a Happier Parent. They discuss some common issues that challenge parents, and explore how to decrease the stress and find more joy. Time Stamps Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Resources https://kjdellantonia.com/ Team Zen- Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 ...

Todd and Cathy discuss how people and organizations are both light and dark, and why it’s important to recognize this in ourselves. They discuss the You Tube Original Show Cobra Kai, specifically the nostalgia and surprises, and how all the characters are multidimensional and imperfect. They also share Carol Cadwalladr’s TED Talk where she calls out the Titans of Tech and Ricky Henderson’s Baseball Hall of Fame speech. Time Stamps 2:57 Ricky Henderson 6:48 Carol Cadwalladr’s Ted Talk 22:10 C...

Cathy and Todd discuss a sports psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais interview on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard. They discuss the difference between being the best and being your best. Time Stamps 4:42 Don’t tell your kids they can be president 13:55 Being the best vs being your best 18:38 Friday Night Lights clip 23:42 Ricky Henderson 26:54 Dax on #metoo 38:10 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon...

Cathy and Todd discuss how to give ourselves permission to change or try something new. They share some wisdom from Oprah’s new book The Path Made Clear, and discuss why trusting and honoring ourselves can strengthen our relationships. Time Stamps 0:23 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid Don Wall Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Resources Rob Bell / Everything is Spiritual (2016 Tour...

Todd and Cathy discuss Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism about how we can do less, but better. They discuss how to figure out what’s essential, how to let go of what we no longer need, and how essentialism relates to KonMari and the movie City Slickers. Time Stamps 3:50 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid 6:14 Essentialism by Greg McKeown 1:00:26 Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month 1:00:47 Todd Adams Coachin...

Cathy and Todd discuss how parenting experts can appear to contradict each other (even when their information is valid), and why we need to know our family and trust our instincts when making parenting decisions. They discuss Gabor Matè’s interview on the Goop podcast, Lori Gottlieb’s interview on NPR’s Fresh Air, and they share MILCK’s #ICANTKEEPQUIET project. Time Stamps 2:53 Marianne Williamson 5:49 Milck’s #Icantkeepquiet 13:31 Teen boys rated their female classmates based on looks. The gi...

Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development. They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better, and what Bill Gates and Warren Buffet both recommend for a happy life. Time Stamps 3:28 Why the “why” is important 6:15 Basics of the Harvard study 19:17 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 20:47 The power of happy childhoods 39:52 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “...

Cathy and Todd discuss public shaming and why responsibility, humility, and reflection need to be a part of the process. They discuss John Oliver’s interview with Monica Lewinsky and the college admission scandal. Time Stamps 25:26 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 39:19 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 42:36 Team Zen 45:13 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avi...