Episodes

Cathy and Todd speak about the most impactful moments of this year’s conference. Time Stamps 16:03 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 37:44 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 54:40 Team Zen 55:55 Painting or remodeling needs? Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Resources Team Zen- Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free...

Todd and Cathy discuss Dax Shepard’s interview with Dr. John Gottman, and discuss his research around marriage, parenting, sex, and the key to longevity. Time Stamps 2:00 Shake Shack 4:38 Dax Shepard/ John Gottman Intro 7:42 Labeling kids 15:40 Differences b/w boys and girls 23:58 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 25:59 Tools in the relationship tool box 34:05 Sex & relationship 39:24 Bridesmaids 40:06 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” ...

Todd and Cathy discuss why parental self-awareness is essential when our kids are making their life decisions. They discuss how our history plays a role in what we think is best for our kids, and why we need to be clear about what “success” means. They discuss why what worked for us may not work for them, and why staying connected is dependent on honest and vulnerable communication. Time Stamps 5:11 Amazon Alexa Skill 6:50 Question- Mom needs support in deciding what school their 6th grader sh...

Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between a punitive (inflicting punishment) and restorative perspective (seeking to understand and address what happened to all involved), and why it’s important to recognize how we parent and why. They discuss why a restorative approach necessitates self-awareness and mindfulness, and why our willingness to effectively communicate with our kids about choices will help them with their decision-making as adults. Time Stamps 1:24 Avid Painting & Remodeling 2:...

Todd and Cathy discuss why focusing on simple allows other things to flow more easily, and why aligning with what feels right allows determination, grit, and curiosity to show up naturally. They discuss why Equifinality (the fact that there are many different pathways to the same outcome) is important to acknowledge when we are making choices for ourselves or for our children. Time Stamps 4:30 Simplicity, patience, & compassion from the Tao 5:12 Birth stories 10:08 Grit 17:30 Zone of genius...

Cathy and Todd discuss the Superbowl and the most impactful commercials, specifically The Washington Post commercial titled Democracy Dies in Darkness. They discuss how the Justice Department minimized the description of domestic violence and why less information can create more problems. They process Lady Gaga’s deposition for Kesha, the Dirty John Podcast, and why connection and listening are the keys to every life relationship. Time Stamps 3:11 Washington Post Superbowl commercial 14:52 ImP...

Todd and Cathy discuss the shadow parts of themselves that they pretend aren’t there, and Todd shares an activity where he had to act out the parts he tries hardest to repress. They share why the people who annoy us tend to display traits in ourselves that we don’t want to look at, and why accepting all of our parts keeps us whole and develops our compassion. Time Stamps [2:02] Quick Takes [7:18] Sex Education for the 21st century- discussion [32:02] ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get ...

Todd and Cathy discuss the new American Psychological Association (APA) guidelines for men and boys, and why a Gillette ad about healthy masculinity has drawn so much criticism. Time Stamps: 3:13 Clip from the Better podcast discussing vaping, jeweling, etc. Dr. John Duffy 8:44 APA guidelines regarding “traditional masculinity” 25:04 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 26:11 Gillette Ad This Is Water 44:44 ZPR Conference 47:18 Painting or remodeling needs?...

Todd and Cathy discuss why instead of looking for truth, we can begin to notice the lies that we consistently tell ourselves. They discuss failure, and why Cody Parkey’s kick during the Bears game became a teachable moment. They talk about extended family, noticing our ego, and what we can learn from the movie Cocktail. Time Stamps: 0:55 How to deal with failure by Cody Parkey 12:45 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 15:02 The lies we tell- Cathy’s yoga st...

Cathy shares an essay by Mark Nepo about partners who are willing to take turns exploring the outer and the inner. They discuss why equality is like an unwinding onion with limitless new things to explore, while focusing on Glenn Close in The Wife and Amy Adams in Vice. They also talk about what “unlikability” means for female candidates, and why it’s important to discuss specifically what makes us like, believe, or pay attention to person in front of us. Time Stamps: 0:47 Cathy doesn’t like t...

Team Zen- Enter coupon code “Jan” for free month of January Todd and Cathy share different questions asked by Team Zen members during Zen Talks. Team Zen was created based on feedback from listeners – they wished they could ask Cathy+Todd a question, get resources for a specific challenge, and find a supportive and interactive community. Team Zen does all of this, and more. It includes two live ZenTalks a month, a private Facebook page with resources and Q&A, a premium podcast, and an opportunit...

Cathy and Todd discuss why light and dark are part of the holidays, and why every season has a purpose. They discuss Barbara Brown Taylor’s book, Learning to Walk in the Dark, and why embracing dark can make us more compassionate and integrated people. They discuss the challenges of spiritual bypassing and what Wayne Dyer meant when he said, “Learn to die while you are living”. Todd Adams Coaching For Guys The Tribe Mens Group Painting or remodeling needs? Check out Avid Co. Zen Parenting Confe...

Todd and Cathy discuss Jonathan Haidt’s book The Coddling of the American Mind, specifically focusing on the interview with Sam Harris on the Waking Up podcast. They discuss why universities struggle with controversial speakers, why safe spaces were created, and why some people have a hard time viewing emotional pain as valid pain. They process why there are no simple answers, and how each situation carries unique challenges and dynamics that need to be considered. Time Stamps 1:02:10 An Arm A...

Cathy and Todd introduce four more speakers and four special organizations who will be at the 2019 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss a podcast featuring Tony Robbins and the author of The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer, and they play a clip from Will Smith about why love is help. Time Stamps 2:05 Conference intro 4:47 Jahmal Cole 9:09 Dr. Alexandra Solomon 11:41 Dr. John Duffy 16:24 Karen Brody 22:10 Moms Demand Action 24:57 My Block My Hood My City 27:58 NAMI- National Alliance of Ment...

Cathy and Todd discuss Brandi Carlisle’s song The Joke, and why it was written for people who feel “under-represented, unloved or illegal”. They talk about the newest sexual assault allegations, and what needs to be done to create change. The discuss the dignity of George HW Bush, and why his agenda while in office was surprising. Time Stamps 0:54 I Am Evidence Screening 3:10 Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 3:58 Team Zen Update 6:52 “Welcome to human existence.” Cathy Adams 9:45 Newest sexua...

Our friend Josh St. Pierre returns to the show to give us an update on his recent kidney transplant (click here to listen to Josh’s first podcast where he shares his story). He shares what it felt like to get the phone call about the potential match, how he’s reflecting and recovering, and why he’s grateful for the people and lessons learned along the way. Click here to learn more about organ donation. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Go Fund Me Page For Josh Why Do We Have 2 Kidneys? So ...

Todd and Cathy discuss how we tell our story, and how we can frame it in a way that serves us rather than depletes us. They discuss why mindfulness and sharing our story are essential when dealing with trauma, and also when we are parenting and relating to our children. They discuss Mark Epstein’s books, Sharon Salzberg’s path to compassionate teaching, and why Michelle Obama says we need to own our story. Time Stamps 3:55 Narrate your own story 35:05 Canvas People– To get your FREE canvas te...

Cathy and Todd discuss Michelle Obama’s new book Becoming, focusing in on some of the best pieces of advice for parents and kids. They discuss why we are always evolving, why growth never ends, and why we should allow our kids (and ourselves) to fail, pivot, and change. Time Stamps 2:23 Don’t rake your leaves 4:15 International Men’s Day discussion 8:00 The power of voices 15:06 Conference Sponsor Rita Hyland Coaching 16:04 “Becoming” by Michelle Obama 17:17 What Are you going to be when yo...

Cathy and Todd discuss anger and how it can be productive, but also be destructive if not monitored. They discuss Pete Davidson’s apology and Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw’s willingness to accept it on SNL this weekend. They discuss how Bridesmaids and Pitch Perfect allowed the women to be the complex characters, and why Bohemian Rhapsody is so fun to watch. Time Stamps 0:00 Review of “Bohemian Rhapsody 9:55 Sex Ed for the 21st Century Virtual Presentation 11:02 I Am Evidence Screening 14:00 Liev Sch...

Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing. They discuss Dr. Bessel van de Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps Score, and his interview with Krista Tippet on the Being Wise podcast, and how trauma becomes lodged in our bodies and what we can do to move it through. Cathy and Todd share examples of trauma and disconnection from Million Little Things, 8th...

Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, and why we need to be thoughtful about words we say and write. They also discuss why intimacy coordinators are being used at HBO, why Todd can continue to express himself authentically, and Dax Shepard’s interview with Brenè Brown. Time Stamps 4:05 HBO is changing sex scenes forever 9:31 Todd’s bad re...

Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute. They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why pleasing everyone will exhaust you, and how our wounds can become our greatest source of strength and inspiration. Glennon and Abby are the keynotes at the Zen Parenting Conference on March 8&9, 2019 – get your tickets at zenpopparenting.com. Time Stamps 15:40 Born to please 31:47 Wisdom comes from...

Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead, and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be practiced, and how we can teach and role model leadership in our homes, so our kids can take it into the world. Time Stamps 1:23 Family meeting on certain people not picking up after themselves 4:54 Magic Coffee Table Video 13:07 Dare To Lead- 13:07 Can’t get to courage without vulnerability. Embrac...

Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids, in our partnerships, and even on-line – has the potential to teach compassion and deepen relationships. They discuss why stepping back is sometimes necessary, why stepping forward can be powerful, and why This Is Us leads to great family discussions. Time Stamps 2:13 Being Measured 4:30 Todd’s pas...