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Success. If you're like me, you can't get enough of it. And you've probably spent way too much time - and possibly money - searching for it. In books and videos. You dress for it. You chase it. You fake it ‘til you make it. You travel far and wide! But let me ask you this: Do you feel successful? Truly, fully, mind-contentedly successful? Of course you don’t. If you did, you wouldn’t be here. And let’s face it, if it was really that easy - if everyone was doing it - you wouldn’t need me. No one ...

My guess is that you are extremely important. There are probably dozens, hundreds, even thousands of people holding their collective breath and waiting on your every move. You are the glue that holds everything together in your world. It’s exhausting. It’s overwhelming. You are constantly doing at least 10 things at once at any given time. And if you stop - if you even dare to take the tiniest of breaks - the universe as we know it would immediately unravel and cease to exist. And how could you ...

Last year was a rollercoaster ride for nearly everyone I know. Lots of changes and losses and upheaval. Some sweet moments, of course. But in so many ways, it seemed like one of the most tumultuous years ever. At least in my lifetime. So how about you? What are the things that happened in 2017 that you can’t wait to leave far behind you? What did you lose? What went wrong? Where would you love to press the reset button? And what would you change if you could? I know a lot of people don’t like to...

We're barely into the new year and you've already used, lost, grown tired of, or broken all of your favorite holiday toys. The leftovers are gone. Or worse...you're still wearing them under your "fat" pants. The next decent excuse for a merry celebration is months away and those resolutions are feeling impossible to keep. Any of this ringing any bells? Chances are you've had this feeling before. And not just after the holiday season. My guess is it's happened to you repeatedly. Anytime you build...

It's here again. That time of year when you've run out of...well... Year! Where did the time go? How did another entire year just slip away in the blink of an eye? And more importantly, how did you not make good on that laundry list of resolutions? Why are you still in that job, that car, that house, those pants? You may ask yourself, my God, what have I done? https://youtu.be/98AJUj-qxHI So. Many. Questions. And some regrets. And do I detect a hint of anxiety? Let's face it: New Year's is a tim...

Last week I talked about how to deal with those rude, obnoxious people you've undoubtedly been encountering in spades this holiday season. Bad drivers, selfish shoppers, lazy, incompetent customer service people...and the list goes on. We joked a little, tongue in cheek, about 5 ways to handle these Grinchy Grinch Grinches without loosing it completely and hauling off and punching anyone in the face. We can all agree how tempting that sometimes is. And I suspect we can all agree that it's never ...

The woman who cuts in front of you at Starbucks and proceeds to place an order for a small village - and keeps revising it for at least 52 minutes. - The old man who zooms in front of you to steal the parking space you've been waiting patiently for, blocks you from driving around him, and then expects you and the line of vehicles behind you to back up so that he can let the parked car out. - The lady with two entire shopping carts full of stuff - and a nappy little dog - in front of you in the e...

Hey Buttercup I got your number: You are superwoman. Not only can you bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan...you bought the land, built the farm, selected the pig - after breeding, delivering, raising, and grooming it - cured and smoked the meat, and now your creating dozens of recipes and preparing dishes to serve at the party of the century which you will single-handedly pull off. Why? Because you can. My sister had a friend who told her one of the single wisest things she'd ever heard....

Breaking News: Grown-assed woman found dancing in the streets in a pointy hat holding fistfuls of cake and chanting, "WooHoo, it's my birthday!" between bites. Remember when YOU got that excited when your birthday rolled around? How long has it been? As you get older and wiser, more seasoned and experienced, you probably also experience a corresponding decline in enthusiasm for your birthday. Let's face it: Once you hit a certain age, another trip around the sun can be a bit hard to take. So man...

Today is American Thanksgiving. It's a day dedicated to giving thanks for all the blessings in our lives. The myth we were taught as children revolved around the colonial settlers from Europe - or Pilgrims - and the native Americans. It was told that they put aside their differences for one day a year to share a meal, teach each other their unique traditions, and embrace each other with love and acceptance. But anyone with any true knowledge of that time in American history knows that this is ju...

Have you ever gotten super excited about doing something new...only to be immediately derailed by a well meaning friend or loved one? Of course you have! We all have. And sometimes the warnings, criticisms, and devil's advocate act can truly come from a place of good intentions. Sometimes you need a reality check. But what about when you really don't? Almost 20 years ago, my sister was about to get married. She'd put on a lot of weight over the years and she really wanted to slim down. For her h...

Some people always suck the air out of the room. They make everything about themselves. They are masters of manipulation...able to belittle you so stealthily that you may find yourself thanking them for the deed. They can make you smaller with just a quick glance. And my guess is that you can spot them a mile away. Like most people, you're probably pretty good at avoiding them or at least defending yourself from their calculated attacks. These people are not good for you. They're not supportive....

Ever wondered how you can let someone know that you just don't support them? Looking for ways to show someone you really don't care? We've all been there. So I'm here to show you 4 ways to say, "I don't got your back!" Or...you know...identify which of your own loved ones aren't truly there to support you. Support. It's that make or break ingredient that can often be the difference between success and failure. Think of it like salt: You don't always detect when it's there. When administered corr...

Remember all of that fuss in Romeo and Juliet about a rose? You know, if it was called anything other than a rose, it'd still be a rose. It would look the same, feel the same. Smell the same. That's some deep stuff, right? Basically, Shakespeare was saying it didn't matter how you framed it; a rose is a rose is a rose. But what if you called a rose a banana? Could that be confusing? Could it drastically alter perceptions and possibly really mess up a good pie? Or let's say you called a rose a th...

When I was growing up, I was cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. I was also looney for Lucky Charms, crazy for Captain Crunch, and fanatical over Fruity Pebbles. Weekly grocery shopping with my family was stressful. I had to choose one and commit to it for an entire week. Or worse, they'd let me have a couple, which would make every morning an agonizing dilemma. And then there was the bickering and bargaining with my sister over who would get the last bowl of whatever was in the box. It didn't really matter...

See that woman over there? She's got a way better job than me! And that one? Man I want her car! And check out the brains on the one with all those diplomas on her wall! Grrrrrrrraaaaargh!!! Woah! Clearly I need to get a grip on my green eyed monster. Sound familiar? Jealousy can come on like a freight train and mow down your confidence. I call it the Jealy Roll. Worst. Pastry. Ever. Recently I had to get over myself and acknowledge my own jealy roll. Yes, that's right; I'm just as susceptible t...

// I once joined the YMCA. I did it because I wanted to work out regularly and spend time participating in activities with my son. I was going to get in shape so I could be healthy, happy, and, I'll be perfectly honest here...HOT. I made the decision. I was committed. And by taking the very concrete action of signing that contract allowing them to debit money from my account every single month, I had thoroughly covered all the steps of my very own motivation model. I was unstoppable. I was on fi...

// So you think you're motivated. You've defined what you want. You've figured out why. You've tapped into your desire. But there's still one more thing you gotta do. And it all comes down to this. What is it? Are you sure you're ready? Okay, here we go... Quiet on set... Lights; camera; ACTION! I've spent the last month breaking down motivation for you piece by piece. No sugar coating. Gloves off. Down to business. And we are finally at the homestretch. I've helped you identify your WHYs. I've ...

// In the space between desire and action, there lurks a shadowy nemesis to all wishy washy scaredy cats and procrastinators. A powerful force to be reckoned with. A master of movement. A champion of change. What is it? Guess. Don't daly or hesitate. Guess. Need a hint? Decide already!!! That's right, I'm talking about... Decision! Why is decision a part of the change process, you might ask. Isn't it enough to identify the things you desire to change...and then take action to change them? That's...

What you want? baby, YOU got it! Or do you? Before you can get what you want, you have to not only know what it is, you gots to burn for it, deep down, in your soul! What am I talking about? This is the stuff that moves mountains. It forges paths. Dams rivers. Launches ships and dreams and entire careers. It even drives some to drop houses on their sisters and others to terrorize little girls over a pair of shoes. Maybe you already know what I'm talking about...But I'm not ready to reveal it jus...

// WHY? Because I said so. Because you have to. Because that's the way it works. Because it's always been that way. Feeling motivated? Of course you're not! Those answers never work. They didn't work when you were a kid. They don't work on you now. But let me ask you this: Can you easily and readily provide exciting, empowering, satisfying answers to the WHYs in your life? Because if you can't, you're probably not going to truly find the motivation to get from this side of WHY to the other. In f...

// Have you ever fantasized about having a superpower? Maybe you secretly wish to fly. See through walls. Be invisible. Be invincible. Well, I can't help you get any of those powers. And honestly, they seem like they just might be more trouble than they're worth. Imagine flying into high rise windows. Or having to see the weird things people do when you're not looking. If you were invisible, I bet people would trip over you all of the time. And being invincible? I don't know about you but I'm ex...

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// We humans are social creatures. We rely on each other for so many things. We form friendships, groups, communities. We gravitate towards people who share our opinions and world views. We look to our mentors and heroes for guidance. And we need this support to shape, confirm, and validate our realities. You don't have to look far to find a bazillion quotes about virtually any subject imaginable. There's something extremely primal and comforting about a good quote that strikes a chord deep insi...