Episodes

How many times a day do you catch yourself saying, "I'm trying!" Cmon, you can tell me; what happens on the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast stays on the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast. Not ready to 'fess up out loud? That's okay. I actually have a much deeper and more critical series of questions to ask you: When you say, "I'm trying!" what do you really mean? Where is your mindset? What message are you sending to the world? And more importantly, what message are you reinforcing deep ...

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/23/1208588523.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-qvijahohr")); I need to write the copy for my latest podcast. But I'm too busy! Plus it's getting really late and I'm so tired. I have no one to help me. No one ever helps me. I gotta do everything myself. Do you realize how hard it is to...

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/85/613778185.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-jtjhwbiqd")); Think back to a time when you really wanted something. I mean lusted after it, visualized, fantasized to the point of complete distraction. Powerful goddess that you are, you did whatever it took to manifest your desire. Whet...

// See Jane. See Jane run. See Jane fall. See Jane cry. See Jane stand up, regroup, and do the same thing all over again. Jane is frustrated. Jane's in pain. Where is Jane running to, anyway? As it turns out, Jane is trying to get to Nordstrom's. They're having a BIG shoe sale. Jane needs new shoes. Jane's shoes are worn to the sole and falling apart. Maybe that's why Jane keeps falling down. Jane can't afford new shoes and yet she's planning to charge a pair of Louboutins. If she can ever make ...

// Nearly two decades ago, I was thrust into the midst of monumental change. After putting my husband through grad school, I quit my job, we packed our car, put what wouldn't fit into storage, and drove across the country with our three year old to stay with our families while he looked for employment. Huge changes, right? But that was just the tip of the iceberg. You see, what I thought was the beginning of a new chapter in our lives was actually the end of my marriage. I was literally dumped o...

// When we were kids, my sister and I used to love watching animated Christmas movies. You know the ones, they ran every year. Frosty the Snowman, Rudolf the Red Nosed Reindeer, How the Grinch Stole Christmas, and so many more. But there was one that featured a song that was crazy infectious; it applied to so many situations, was irrefutably basic and true, and just had to be sung. So...we sung it. And not just at Christmas. This song worked so well all year round that we'd sing it until we drov...

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/88/1129094988.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-lj83i7rua")); Want to know an embarrassing little secret? Sometimes I wait a bit too long to change my sheets. This isn't a calculated process. I don't plan ahead. There are not 'pro vs. con' lists made, color charts, meetings by committe...

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//forms.aweber.com/form/74/1356799374.js"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, "script", "aweber-wjs-8qhitpusv")); Sometimes there's great satisfaction in knowing exactly what's going to happen at every turn. Having a stocked refrigerator, the bills all covered, an orderly schedule. We often cling to the familiar. And If you're like most...

// You just broke in your new couch, your Netflix queue is full, and you're about to reach level 5,000 on CandyCrush. Sure, things could be better but they could also be a whole lot worse. You, my friend, are in the comfort zone. Days go by with little to no real conflict. Weeks. Months. Even years. Why rock the boat? You're fine. Fine! Until you're not... There's an old saying that people will stay the same until not changing becomes more painful than choosing to change would be. And while it c...

// You've been having a rough time. Breakup, loss of job, health scare, financial troubles. Maybe all of the above. You can't face this alone but you hate asking for help. You fear how people will react. Will they judge? Gossip? Turn their backs? Say the 'N' word? Or worse yet, all of the above? But you're exhausted. Emotional. Scattered. Overwhelmed. Probably all of the above! Wouldn't it be amazing if you had someone who knew exactly how to be there for you in this crisis? Someone who always s...

// Think back to a time when one of your best friends was going through a really rough time. Maybe it was a breakup or she lost a job. Maybe a death or other profound loss. Heck it could have been an extraordinarily bad hair day. Whatever it was, she came to you for support. And you probably rolled your eyes, sighed dramatically, puffed up, and said, "What the hell is wrong with you? I told you this was going to happen. Why do you keep getting yourself into these situations? You brought it on yo...

// Have you ever totally lost it? You're having a bad day, a bad week...a bad everything... You reach a boiling point. Something triggers you and you finally just flip out. Maybe you kick and scream. Yell at the top of your lungs. Punch things. Throw stuff. You're hot and flushed. Your ears are ringing. You see red. And while this behavior may be frowned upon in polite society, as long as nobody gets hurt, you may find that once it's over, you secretly feel relieved. Maybe even a sense of libera...

// Did you ever have to end a relationship with someone who was just no good for you? Maybe someone kind of abusive. Who kept you stuck. Lied. Cheated. Made you feel like total crap. A real bully. Unfortunately most of us have had to deal with at least one person like this along the way. It's not always easy to cut ties. Especially when it's someone you genuinely care for. But once you do, life inevitably becomes easier, happier, healthier. So what if I told you that you're still dealing with a ...

Can I ask you a question? I want you to be brutally honest. Tell me the truth. Even if it's painful... What should you be doing right now? I'd tell you to really think about it but my educated guess is that you don't have to. I suspect you have a laundry list ready to go. In fact, there's a good chance laundry is on that list! You should be doing a million things. Am I right? What's more, there're probably a million other things you should have done instead of many of the things you actually did...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRYW7JE_XY8 Who do you trust? I don't mean superficially, casually, socially. I mean who would you want on that desert island with you if you were stranded? And a soccer ball doesn't count. Who would you trust in a crisis? With your twitter password? Who would you sign over control of your affairs to if it ever came to that? Most people have one or two people that come to mind immediately. And that's a really good feeling. But let me ask you this: Is that trust co...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PBj0gbhvYY0 Remember the last time you were driving somewhere new? You may have been nervous because you weren't sure where you were going. Probably you had your navigation system helping out. But still, it can be a bit nerve wracking when you're on unsure footing. Maybe you missed a turn and had to re-route. Or possibly you swerved across a few lanes of traffic to get in the correct lane at the last second. But the fact that you're here now, reading this, tells m...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gC9DofV2G7M&feature=youtu.be Have you ever found yourself standing in the cereal aisle at the grocery store, staring at the dozens of boxes, pacing, agonizing, comparing nutritional information, calories, prices, absolutely paralyzed from making a simple, ultimately inconsequential decision? At the time, it can feel huge, even life altering. I mean you are committing to at least a few days worth of breakfast here. It could set the tone for your whole week. What if...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY5l6f9B_aE I have so much to do right now. Maybe I should start by making a list. But first I'll make a pot of tea. And I should check my email, FB, IG, Twitter... I just wasted several hours. I'm way too unfocused. I think I'll watch Netflix for 30 minutes and try to clear my head. Still not feeling it. A little yoga? A walk? Oh wait, didn't I need to buy something on Amazon? And call the phone company? Okay, I'd better do that before they close. I'll get to tha...

https://youtu.be/JKZIr8UwUCM We all have that one friend. You know who I'm talking about. She never seems to truly listen to what you say. You can pour your heart out to her about how you just wrecked your car and will be broke and riding the bus for the next two months and before you've finished your tale of woe, she's already bored, checking her phone, and interrupting you to ask for a ride to the store. She asks you vague, polite questions and immediately transitions into an angry monologue a...

https://youtu.be/hQ7Tbghcg-k Did you ever play that game where you replace the lyrics to a popular song so that they still sound similar, fit into the tune, even rhyme...but completely change the meaning, tone, and spirit of it all? In other words, have you ever gone Weird Al? Maybe you fell in love with a song and sang it all of the time only to be embarrassed and disoriented to learn that the lyrics that moved you to your very core were not the ones recorded...or even heard by anyone else but ...

https://youtu.be/4QuWHWQC49g What if a complete stranger approached you on the street and asked you for a kidney? Would you say yes or would you say no? Okay, I realize that this is an absurd situation that would almost definitely never happen. And if it did, you'd probably pull out your pepper spray or scream at the top of your lungs. But indulge me for a moment; there's a method to my madness. If it did hypothetically happen, you'd probably say no. So let me ask you this: Why? If you've alread...

https://youtu.be/VPeXXg1jwac Hi, my name is Krylyn and I'm a good girl! Okay, to be perfectly honest, I'm a recovering good girl. Which is not to say that I'm a bad girl or no longer a good one or that being a good girl is bad or that being a bad girl is good. Deep. Breath. Got it? Probably not. Because this isn't an easy topic with black and white lines that you need to stay inside of. In fact, that's kinda the point. All that matters is whether or not you're the right kind of girl for YOU. I b...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YrBS2TUtDA If you've ever been in a dysfunctional relationship. If you don't always feel your power. If you find yourself being walked all over, used, abused, or just plain drained by how someone in your life is treating you, you might by in urgent need of Boundary Setting for Dummies! If you're ready to get in my face for insinuating that you might be a dummy, congratulations: You got boundaries! But if you're nodding your head, tearing up, and/or hoping despera...

Ever have one of those days when everyone seems 100% committed to pushing your buttons and testing your boundaries? That overnight package got lost in the mail. You've wasted over 40 minutes of your lunch break on hold with an apathetic customer service representative trying to resolve a $3 issue. Meanwhile, your barista put herbal tea in your triple espresso. On a different day, you'd probably let these things go. But not today. Today you're ready to rumble. Some days you just wake up with your...