Episodes

Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the praises of vanilla sex,

How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but only sometimes, and especially on new dates, why? Should I try ED medication? What is the difference between Viagra and Cialis? If you have questions about sexual health and sexual self-care, you are not alone! We get emails like this every day, and we are not doctors – but now we can finally refer you ...

Superfreaks Unite! What would happen if we all let our inner Superfreak flag fly? What joy and bliss awaits us on the other side of courageous kinky exploration? Join us in conversation with Arielle Greenberg, author of Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure & The Pursuit of Happiness (Beacon Press, 2023) Explore more of Arielle’s work here. We cover: * Reclaiming Freak Pride * Kink Vs. Fetishes * The 4 Ps of Transgression * Finding Kink Community * Developing Resilience Skills for Sustainable Kink ...

Mismatched Libido is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but we don’t hear a lot about Mismatched Kink. It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if your kinks don’t align perfectly, if you have very different kinks or even if only one of yo...

What awaits on YOUR erotic journey? What discoveries, adventures, lessons and transformations are just ahead on your path? Join us to sink into the idea that your erotic life can be a journey – rich with excitement, meaning and purpose. Unroll your map of possibilities and gaze at the expansive horizons with us, and get unstuck, out of ruts and on your path to more erotic fulfillment. Enroll in our free online course now to begin equipping yourself with tools, strategies and resources for your...

The Golden Rule is a recipe for erotic disaster – doing unto others what you would have them do unto you is NOT good advice, it turns out, in or out of the bedroom. It’s time we started breaking the golden rule – and started exploring the true meaning ...

Touch is not a luxury nor a pleasure to be earned at the end of a work day. Touch is an essential human need, at all stages of human life. Most of us experience some level of touch hunger or touch starvation, and the impact on our lives can be dire. The good news? Touch is readily available, free and accessible, and even just a little bit of safe, affectionate touch can quickly reverse touch hunger. Tune in to hear why we have been so wildly committed to teaching touch since we met in 2006, and...

What would it feel like to Make Love As Art? What would it look like to bring more artistry, playfulness and creativity to your love life? If eroticism is a creative expression, what wants to be expressed through you? What kind of erotic artist are you ready to become? In this episode we bask in the afterglow of our experience at the EcoSex Symposium – and invite us all to become erotic artists and love activists! Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global team of Pleasure Par...

What are your deepest yearnings? What horizons do you achingly long for? What do you want to experience in this one precious life? Recently inspired by Ariel in the new The Little Mermaid, this episode is an anthem to the power of desire. We all have deep desires that we hide away from those we love. Sometimes, we hide our most precious treasures in the dark to keep them safe. In this Speaking of Sex podcast episode, we give you permission to start feeling into your buried desires, and the tool...

We all experience seasons within our sexuality. At times seasons stack together to create sexual eras within our lives. We explore how embracing erotic eras can be a useful and liberatory framework to use as we reflect on our erotic lives. This podcast is a continuation of the ideas we shared in podcast #297: Surviving Sexual Seasons. Our community of listeners told us the ideas within that podcast were incredibly useful and supportive, and we build on those ideas in this podcast. We get perso...

If you are ready to start exploring kink but feel overwhelmed by where to begin, we invite you to try MiniKink! And if you are already kinky and expanding into new dynamics or activities, MiniKink gives us the chance to efficiently and safely explore what more is possible. MiniKink invites you to create very short, bite-sized kink scenes to explore one small element of kinky play at a time – a long kiss up against the wall to explore immobilization, for example. Kink doesn’t have to be big, se...

Riding the red wave, surfing the red tide, earning your red beard… there are as many euphemisms for period sex as there are opinions about it, and in this episode we dive right into the charged and tender conversation of getting intimate while bleeding...

JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living with depression. We ALL know someone who struggles with depression, and in this podcast episode we explore how we can love one another more fully while steering clear of the resentment, guilt and shame that can damage our most intimate relationships. “Depression does not inherently break our bonds, but...

Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment are all names for different applications of a similar erotic move, where we hold an intimate part of the body inside our holes, bodies or crevices. This warm, wet, intimate embrace is an erotic technique that we can al...

On the other side of curiosity there is a boundless playground of pleasure, intimacy and connection. When we listen to what other people find pleasurable about their kinks and turn-ons, we can start noticing the responsive desire that stirs within, and find our own Responsive Kinks! In this episode we invite you into the practice of turning towards other people’s pleasure with more curiosity, wonder and willingness to discover new parts of your own erotic being. Thanks to our episode sponsors ...

What would it feel like to stretch a little more? How much release, relaxation, relief and pleasure are just a stretch away? In this episode we invite you into stretching into more pleasure – with both the physical practice of stretching whenever and however it feels good to you and the emotional practice of stretching open into receiving more pleasure, joy and love. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global team of Pleasure Partners: * Go to GreenChef.com/Pleasure60 to rece...

Getting naked brings up emotions for all of us – from fear and shame to bliss and exultation and just about every emotional experience in between, getting naked exposes us and reveals so much about our cultural and personal histories.

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative,

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us. Receiving sexual pleasure is a specific skill set that is necessary to complete the circuit of pleasure when we are making love. We can think about receiving sexual pleasure as being similar to receiving a gift, where the gift is the attention, care and presence of our lover. Click here to enroll in Erotic Touch Mastery, ...

Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too often, lovers rush towards penetration and end up under-...

The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage for a dedicated sex room. But we ALL can cultivate our erotic context with small acts of expression and agency – and on this episode we share how to create space for your erotic expression and exploration, on any budget. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here Fi...

Dr. Nan Wise joins us to discuss the emerging neuroscience of pleasure, orgasm and emotions. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here Nan Wise, Ph.D. is the author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier and More Purpose Filled Life. She is a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University and has a private practice. Connect with her at AskDoctorNan.com Explore your erotic mind and body with the p...

It makes sense that many of us have fear, suspicion and doubt around our deepest desires – there are generations of erotic mistrust that we have inherited! So how can you begin to Trust Your Yes, affirm your desires, and go after what you want,

If you crave rougher sex, but don’t know how to ask for it or suggest it to your partner, this is the podcast episode for you. And if you already love rough play as part of your erotic life, tune in to gather strategies to take your rough sex to the ne...