Episodes

In this episode of The Case for Love, Nick and I explore safe solitude, learned helplessness, and our growing preference for ease. We also debate whether people want to give up on love or simply don’t know how to navigate the process of finding it. My guess? You would love to have a man if he dropped in your lap. But the swiping/texting carousel is so unpleasant, that it’s easier to quit than to persevere. 📚 Dating and Relationship Resource Library: https://evanmarckatz.com/resources 💖 Schedu...

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I explain why your friends are not always the best sources of dating advice. I also get into how taking your cues from single women and social media can reinforce your fears and make you likely to assume the worst about men. If you generally feel negative about dating, relationships, and men, this one’s for you. 📚 Dating and Relationship Resource Library: https://evanmarckatz.com/resources 💖 Schedule a Private Consultation with Evan: https://www.evanmarc...

Women say they want men who are emotionally available and willing to work on themselves. But what happens when you meet a man who has those qualities and find yourself judging him for them? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I explain why vulnerability is often read as weakness and why a man who has “done the work” may be less attractive than a man who has not. If you've ever found yourself turned off by a good man who admits his flaws and shares his feelings, this one’s for you. 📚 Dating...

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with Serena Kerrigan, author of the new book Let's F*cking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again, to talk about what it means to stop auditioning for love and start choosing it. We get into why dating multiple people at once comes from a place of power rather than scarcity, and why the anxiety we mistake for chemistry is actually a warning sign. Serena shares how she met her boyfriend when she stopped looking for her dre...

TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Reddit, podcasts, dating coaches, therapists, influencers, and AI can answer any dating question in seconds. And yet, with all that advice, I don’t think most women are much happier. In this Love U Podcast, I explain why knowing what to do isn’t the same as doing it — and how much can change when you focus on the right things for the next 90 days. I also introduce the newly rebuilt EvanMarcKatz.com, including the Dating and Relationship Resource Library and my new ...

We have more freedom, more choices, and more ways to meet than any generation in history—so why are so many women struggling to create the families they say they want? On this week’s Love U Podcast, I talk with journalist Anna Louie Sussman, author of Inconceivable: The Impossibility of Family in an Age of Uncertainty, about what’s getting in the way. We explore how dating apps have changed the way we choose partners, why successful women may face a numbers problem, and the tension between wai...

Modern dating has created a culture where discomfort is something to escape. But does avoiding difficult conversations protect us—or does it make relationships harder to build? In this episode of The Case for Love, Nick Notas and I explore why so many people avoid conflict and why the courage to communicate honestly is one of the strongest predictors of a healthy relationship. If you've ever avoided hard conversation or considered yourself a people pleaser, I hope this makes a difference for y...

When you’ve been dating for a while and it seems there are no good men, finding one is incredibly exciting. But what happens when you meet a man who is even more excited about you? In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I explain why even women who crave commitment can get freaked out by a guy who is too eager to commit. I also share how you can slow down a good guy without making him feel rejected. If you've ever panicked because he was moving quicker than you were, watch this episode and dis...

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I sit down with Regena Thomashauer—better known as Mama Gena. She’s a bestselling author and founder of the School of Womanly Arts, and she explains why so many successful women lose touch with their own pleasure—and how to find their way back. We talk about why pleasure isn’t something you have to earn after all the work is done, what happens when you make joy a priority, and how men respond differently when you do. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from ...

My clients are accomplished women who have taken control of their lives and succeeded – both academically and careerwise – with intelligence, hard work and resilience. Yet when it comes to finding love I’ve noticed two things: Since success in love requires different skills, women are more likely to give up than to approach it with the same hard work and resilience they do with their careers. The desire to stay in control gets in the way of finding a competent man who steps up to take care of...

Modern dating has become a game of chicken. Women are told not to chase. Men are told not to come on too strong. Everyone’s so busy avoiding looking needy or too invested that two people who genuinely like each other end up pretending they don’t. In this episode of The Case for Love, Nick Notas and I explain why vulnerability feels risky, how “playing it cool” backfires, and why the best relationships don’t involve keeping score. If you’re tired of second-guessing every text, you don’t want to ...

In this episode, I explore how biology and culture shape male behavior, why the backlash against toxic masculinity has left decent men unsure how to act, and what women lose when masculinity gets coded as dangerous. If you're looking for a confident, proactive man without the boorishness and entitlement, watch this episode. You’ll have plenty of reasons for optimism. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a call with E...

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Everyone wants to know where to go to meet a quality man, and yet that might be the wrong question entirely. If your man picker is broken, it’s entirely possible you’ll keep choosing the wrong one, no matter how many men you meet. In this episode, you’ll discover why you should treat choosing a partner the way you’d treat buying a house. Carefully. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a call with Evan: https://www.eva...

In this episode, I explain how social media distorts your reality, why negativity dominates modern dating conversations, and why believing the worst in men is a bigger problem than men themselves. If you're tired of the doom and gloom and are craving a more hopeful, realistic perspective, you should check this one out. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a call with Evan: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/coaching 📷 Fol...

A lot of people believe dating apps ruined dating. They’re not entirely wrong. In this episode, Nick Notas and I explain why apps are problematic and what you can do to work around those problems. If you're exhausted by modern dating and want to learn how to date online more effectively, you don’t want to miss this episode. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a call with Evan: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/coaching ...

Have you ever noticed that commitment can feel terrifying even when you're with the right person? Yeah, me, too. You spend your whole life looking for a compatible partner and when you finally find one, you feel deep anxiety. If you've ever wondered why a healthy relationship can feel so uncomfortable, this episode will help you understand what's really going on. Check it out and let me know your thoughts. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.e...

You’ve gone out with a guy who seemed like he had great potential. Chemistry. Common interests. Connection. Today, I want to explain why it’s easy to mistake a great date for a great boyfriend, and why only time reveals whether you’re actually compatible. If you keep getting blindsided when a promising relationship goes sideways, this one’s for you. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a call with Evan: https://www.e...

In this episode, I explain how insecurity can cause you to overreact to isolated incidents instead of paying attention to a man’s overall pattern of behavior. If you’ve ever spiraled over something that later turned out to be a misunderstanding—or found yourself questioning a good relationship because of one bad moment—you’ll want to listen to this one all the way through. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a call ...

In the first episode of The Case for Love, Nick Notas and I talk about why both men and women blame the opposite sex, what men don’t understand about women, and why the advice you get from your algorithm makes things worse, not better. If you’re frustrated, this episode will help you see the dating landscape more objectively, and maybe – just maybe – more optimistically, too. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Book a ca...

In this episode, I explain why warmth matters more than competence when it comes to creating real connection, why some people are easy to be around, and how small signals can unintentionally create distance. I also walk you through the three things that make someone respond to you on a date. If you’re not getting the response you want from the men you like the most, this episode explains what you can do differently. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https...

We all make compromises in relationships. But what happens when you make a compromise you can’t live with? In this episode, I explain why saying yes when you mean no doesn’t keep the peace, it builds resentment. As you already know, letting small things slide has a way of creating much bigger problems down the road. If you’ve ever gone along with something just to avoid conflict, I’ll help you figure out how to hold your boundaries without blowing up your relationship. 🔥 Take my quiz to find ...

You may have seen the New York Times story about a woman who fell in love with an AI chatbot and defended it as if it were a real relationship. In this episode, I explain why AI companions feel so satisfying, why that satisfaction is misleading, and why they ultimately cannot replace real human connection. New York Times Article: https://www.nytimes.com/video/opinion/100000010796401/she-has-an-ai-lover-her-son-has-questions.html 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wro...

In this episode, I explain why so many women hold on in relationships that aren’t giving them what they need, how “maybe someday” keeps you stuck, and why getting a ring from the wrong man won’t bring you the happiness you’re looking for. If you’ve been waiting for your partner to become someone different, this episode will help you understand why it’s so hard to let go and how to move forward. 🔥 Take my quiz to find out if you’ve been wasting time on the wrong men: https://www.evanmarckatz.co...