Episodes

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here November and December 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: How do you use a vibrator? Is roleplaying marriage a sin? Will a dildo make me unsatisfied with my husband? Wife makes excuses about everything When to start talking to your kids about sex? Wife caught...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here In sickness and in health. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. The traditional wedding vows go something like "I take you to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live." Unfortunate...

SWM 117 - Why do I want sex when I'm sick? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season. So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7. Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got it worse than her. She complained about being sick but still working out multiple times daily (playing Supernatural on the VR - in case any others are fans). For me, I was barely making it through ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here SWM 116 - Why do I always have to tell my husband how to help? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Lately, I've noticed a trend on social media where famous creator couples make videos of the wife telling the husband that visitors are coming over and they need to prepare. In response, the husband goes and starts cleaning out the attic and crawlspace, going through ke...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Strapons, Exes and Foreskins. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Well, it’s November, so it's time to get into the questions we received in October from our anonymous Have A Question page. As these are anonymous questions, all we get is what they submit. I post them in our supporters’ forum, we discuss them, and then I write up my responses on a blog post and relea...

SWM 114 - Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I had a wife ask, Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely? This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was for us dying on the cross. If you have a different opinion than I do, or want to share your perspective, please post them in the comments on the blog post. Follow u...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here September 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: A husband's changing orgasms Can widowers masturbate Husband won't stop masturbation habit Calling husband "daddy" Feeling guilty about initiating sex Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Guide to e...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here SWM 112 - Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. This podcast episode is answering this question I received from our anonymous Have A Question page: Hi Jay, I've noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what's considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Sex in heaven, oral sex positions, recovering from affairs, wanting to be a mom. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Welcome to another set of questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. These are 4 of the questions that came in during August. I pulled two of them out to tackle separately in longer posts and hope to get to them in the next few weeks. So, let...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here July 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: My wife feels disrespected because I notice other women Wife is hurt but not healing after years Wife disconnects during foreplay What can we do during fertile days Oral sex questions Husband doesn't know our anniversa...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here June 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Crossdressing Reframing "duty" sex Wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn't Afraid to have more children Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Is it wrong for Christians to Crossdress? Book a coaching ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here SWM 108 - What does the Bible say about hell? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. This podcast episode is a Bible study about the topic of hell. One of the most confusing subjects in Christianity is the topic of hell. I think it's so confusing because most base their beliefs on a handful of passages and then a heavy dose of pop culture. And the popular view is tha...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here May 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Wife wants too much sex Couple needs counselling Keep having the same unproductive fight Make boundaries before you start dating Sexy underwear for men Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Book a coaching...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here April 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Is it okay to take nude pictures and videos of each other? Limon by Minna discount Asexual wife? Wife loves me, but isn’t in love with me Wife isn’t interested in improving our sex life Wish I married a bigger butt S...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here March 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Threesome tempations Aversion to receiving manual and oral sex Penis size Falling asleep during sexy time Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Melt - Couples Massage Course (course) Intimacy Ignited (boo...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Do women control men, beauty vs lusting, playlist for sex, and are men polygamous by nature?. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Today we're tackling another group of questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. We have another Couple's Night on June 8th. It's usually the first Thursday of the month, but we had a conflict this month. You get free access if y...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here January 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Phone sex Oral sex to completion Forgiveness and trust after betrayal Are pictures and videos a problem? Increasing female libido naturally What is our duty? Toxic wife Abusive employer Here are the links I menti...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here December 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Does my wife know what I'm doing to her? I want to share orgasms with my husband What are your thoughts on BDSM? Is bondage a problem for me? Wife doesn't like direct clitoral stimulation How do I hold my wife acco...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here SWM 101 - Why does my spouse always push for more during sex? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Today I'm answer this question I received in my inbox: Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn't enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here My daughter's speech - The crisis of my generation - transgenderism. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. This is episode 100, and I wanted to do something a little different for our one-hundredth episode, and I was struggling to figure out what that should be. Then an opportunity presented itself. You see, my children are in 4H, and if you don’t know what 4H is, man...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Spouse falls asleep during romantic getaway Husband wants her to wear revealing clothes Public sex Are we responsible for our dreams? How to encourage your spouse to be healthier Here are the links I mentioned duri...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Where does the energy come from? Mutual masturbation Sharing fantasies and machines Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz Why do married men masturbate? How do you meet o...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Where are you? How to hide bruises What role do I have in God changing my heart? Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husband How to recover from faking orgasms? Husband wants to be pursued Where ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Why men being submissive is problematic. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. A reader posed the following question: Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic. Here are the link...