Episodes

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here A short one this week. I did not have much time to record, so this episode covers our marriage challenge for breaking out of a sexual rut, and a new printable we made called the Spice Jar. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. The Spice Jar is a printable game of sexual activities you cut out and draw from, built to help you change something up in the bedroom tonight ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code. Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict. Now, conflict isn't bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy. Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person's perspective, to seek unselfish solutions. But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy mann...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here A sexual awakening is the point where a low-drive, gatekeeping or refusing spouse realises that sex genuinely matters to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change. The question in this episode is how long the change actually takes after that moment. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. The realisation itself is usually sudden, and usually triggered by so...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be, at least not in the way we imperfect humans have played it out. One area we have made a real mess of over the centuries is sexuality, and in this one Judaism seems to have got it right. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. The Bible is clear enough: our bodies are good, our spirits are of God, and...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here A few years ago, I wrote a post called 16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger. In it I shared a bunch of things that I thought might be interesting to people, to sort of help my community get to know me a bit more. Today I'm going to take a slightly different direction and share with you 8 things that I don't want to admit as a Christian Marriage Podcaster. While these might help you g...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here These days, standing up and saying that your the head of your household can be a bit dangerous for men. With gender equality so strong in our society, the idea of gender roles is often scoffed at, looked own upon. I've heard many people say that patriarchy is just an excuse for men to do what they want, when they want. I don't see it that way. Here's what being the head of the household ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Valentine’s Day is a few days away, and if reading that made you sweat, I feel for you. I think it is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for a married couple. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. The arithmetic is simple. Expectations are high, stress is high, and communication is low, and high expectations plus high stress plus low communication ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Men are often accused of compartmentalized lives, and for the most part it's true. Most of us can have our work life and our home life and our church life and our sports/hobbies life, and keep them all fairly contained. Women, on the other hand, tend to have one life, and it all mixes together. However, there is one aspect of life that men often find very difficult to compartmentalize: t...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This episode is about morning sex, meaning sex when you first wake up. I get asked why does my husband want sex in the morning often enough that it earned its own episode, and there is more going on than most people realise. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Most of it is chemistry. Testosterone, the hormone that drives desire, peaks in the morning. Cortisol, the ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here I wrote about this on the blog a few years ago and wanted a podcast version for people who do not read the blog, or who are new here. I think married men, and married women, masturbate for three reasons: ignorance, selfishness, or addiction. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Ignorance is the most common and the easiest to fix. They genuinely do not know the damage...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This week we're discussing how you train your spouse. In all human relationships, we teach other's how to interact with us. Sometimes it's positive, sometimes it's not. But, often we don't think about it and then we are surprised by the results of our training. My wife and I trained each other horribly in the years of our marriage and spent years undoing those bad teachings. But, you ca...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here For the first half of our marriage, I heard from my wife many times "All you want is sex", because sex was probably the biggest are of conflict in our marriage. Since then, I've seen it many times in emails and comments from lower drive spouses, or from the high drive spouses complaining about the complaints of their low drive spouse. Some of them are accused of being obsessed with sex,...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Every marriage blog and podcast has a post or an episode telling you how to spice up your sex life, if not dozens of such posts. But, they're usually just short term tricks, something to get you excited for a night or two, but then die off quickly. However, they all have one thing in common, and that, I think, is to the real way to spice up your sex life. So, in this episode, we're going...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Christmas is nearly here, and with it a lot of stress, anxiety and awkward living arrangements, whether family is coming to you or you are going to them. So this episode is about handling Christmas in a marriage. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. The season bundles its challenges together. Schedules go out the window, the children are excited and slightly feral, s...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This episode is about praying with your spouse, and what it does to the rest of the intimacy in a marriage. Prayer is a level of intimacy a lot of couples are frightened to step into, and getting past that first attempt tends to pull the other areas forward with it. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. A marriage has several kinds of intimacy: physical, emotional, an...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This episode is about a problem common to husbands with new babies: their wife’s breasts have been re-purposed. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. They used to be his, and now he shares them at best, and usually not even that. Any stimulation triggers let-down and leaking. Nipples are too sensitive to touch. She is touched out, and sometimes even a hug is too much ...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This episode answers the question why can’t my husband just tell me what he needs. It is the other side of last week’s episode. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Men generally struggle to express a need, to their friends, to their wife, to anyone. The result is that a lot of men go through life fairly alone with very little support, because they do not know how to...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This episode answers a question I get from a lot of husbands: why can’t my wife just tell me what she wants. It used to drive me mad early in my own marriage, until I worked out the answer. Now I see it as an opportunity rather than a frustration. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. It shows up everywhere, from what do you want for supper to waiting during sex for h...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here This episode tackles a question I wrote about years ago and wanted to revisit for listeners who have not heard my view on it: is sex a need or a want? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Plenty of people show the side effects of not having sex, or of having it rarely. Those effects can be physical, psychological, emotional and relational, and usually one spouse feel...

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Episode 2 of our podcast! We can actually call it series now. Today I'm talking about getting rid of veto power in the bedroom. Often one spouse, usually the low-drive spouse, has absolute say over when sex happens, or when it doesn't happen. But is that the way it should be? I share my thoughts and what I believe the Bible has the say on the subject. You can view the show notes here.

WIVES - DON'T MISS OUT - Founding spots in the wives group close November 8, 2026. For more info, click here Well, my regular readers have been asking for a podcast for some time, and I'm finally ready to take the plunge. This is our first episode of what I plan to be a weekly podcast. For those who want more information, here are the show notes, or you can listen to the podcast itself. I'm still learning audio production skills, so be patient with me on the sound. I hope it will improve over t...