Episodes

It’s National Orgasm Day! We always like an excuse to celebrate pleasure, but orgasm is one of the most misunderstood parts of the sexual experience, and stands in as a measure of sexual success instead of an experience to be savored. In this episode,

We’ve been in Pleasure Mechanics uniforms for 15 years and this is our 400th episode! We’re celebrating by featuring calls from our global community of 11,000 pleasure seekers. New to Pleasure Mechanics? Enroll in our free online course and get started...

In this conclusion to our Thrilling Sex Series, we explore the difference between Intense and Extreme when it comes to erotic experiences. Click here for the complete Thrill series and curated resources. Intense is a matter of degree, force or volume. Any experience can be made more intense through deeper engagement with our attention and awareness. Extreme is a factor of what is risked, and extreme activities require not only full attention but also training, mentorship, practice, equipment a...

Thrill and Delight are both experiences of Peak Pleasures – but what separates thrill from delight? What can we learn from Thrill to allow us more Delight in our lives? In this episode of Speaking of Sex, we continue our conversation about Cultivating ...

Want more erotic thrill in your life? In this free podcast episode, we discover how to cultivate more thrill in your sex life – without risking it all! The experience of thrill is all about experiencing peak pleasure with the full-bodied attention that is sparked by real or perceived risk. Most humans crave some level of thrill in our lives – and like most human capacities the desire for thrill is a big spectrum. How you want thrill, what kind of thrills you want, who you want to share them wit...

Psychogenic Arousal is a human superpower that many of us forget we have! Just like we can make ourselves quake with fear by thinking about scary things, we can create full bodied experiences of pleasure, excitement and arousal through thoughts alone! Pscyhogenic stimulation is all about turning yourself on by with our minds, and it is a boundless realm to explore if you are ready to feel more pleasure and arousal in your body. Tune into this podcast episode by hitting “play” above, tuning in h...

Play is an essential part of the human experience – yet many of us adults have lost touch with how to play, in and out of the bedroom. In this episode, we explore how and why humans play, and how we can all get more playful with ourselves,

“How free are we to determine how we experience and express our sexuality? How much is this determined by the structures around us?” These are just two of the very big questions and ideas we encounter as part of the adventure in Meg-John Barker and illustrator Jules Scheer’s Sexuality: A Graphic Guide All images are from Sexuality: A Graphic Guide used by permission. In this episode we are in conversation with author Meg-John Barker about their new book Sexuality: A Graphic Guide. The latest...

Bored of masturbation? Stuck in a rut? Uninspired? Here’s how to uplevel your solo sex life and become a better lover for yourself! This episode explores everything from unpacking your attitudes and beliefs about masturbation to getting out of childhoo...

Quick Links: $50 off our Mindful Sex Online Course Roundup of Speaking of Sex episodes about masturbation and practicing self love! Mindful Masturbation : A Practice Of Pleasure & Self-Compassion The primary erotic relationship of your life is with you...

Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyone holds some shame. Shame tells us we are broken, sinful, gross or otherwise unworthy of love. Shame tells us if we were to be truly ourselves, we wouldn’t belong. Shame lies to us, and holds us all hostage in an invisible web-like grip of cultural myth and misinformation. It’s time to slay the shame. I...

A Sexplanation is a new documentary, hitting the film festival circuit now, that offers a joyful exploration of what’s happening with sex education in North America, and the very personal impact of the past 40 years of abstinence only sex education in schools. Going far beyond the classroom, Alex embarks on an epic journey into answering his own questions – and in doing so brings us a thrilling and powerful conversation about shame and guilt, fantasy and desire, connection, identity and belongi...

Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is you! This book introduces you to research-backed frameworks that help you understand your own experience of sex. You’ll get tools to understand the most essential lessons of all: you are normal, your body isn’t broken, and you can gain erotic joy and confidence over time. Come As You Are invites you to com...

Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic connection can authentically emerge. We look at the anatomy of social safety, fear vs. excitement, and the autonomic nervous system. Then we offer strategies for connecting with a sense of safety and finding ways to relax into play. In this Speaking of Sex episode, we introduce a life-changing framework c...

A crucial step in understanding your erotic imagination is making a clear distinction between FANTASY and DESIRE. Many people try to start talking about sex by saying something like “Tell me about your fantasies. . .” While this is a great question to ask, you can run into trouble if you mix up Fantasy with Desire. Love the show? Go Deeper With Us: * Enroll In Our Free Online Course* Join The Pleasure Pod & Unlock Members Only Resources In this encore episode, originally published in 2013, we...

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative,

Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day rolls around every year – as some version has for over 2500 years! With it’s roots in pagan fertility festivals and it’s future as a multi-day festival celebrating all kinds of love, Valentine’s Day is here to stay.

Our friend and teacher Dr. Alexandra Solomon has spent over 20 years working with couples as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and teaching the popular Marriage 101 course at Northwestern University, and is the author of two bestselling books on love and erotic intimacy. Dr. Solomon is one of the teachers we most love learning from in this field, and we find our philosophies and approaches align and complement one another. So when she recently launched an online course, INTIMATE RELATION...

Big thanks to Marie Jenicek from This Thing Called Movement Podcast for allowing us to share this beautiful interview. In this interview between Charlotte Mia Rose and Marie Jenicek, discover: * how Charlotte got into this work originally* why Chris and Charlotte started Pleasure Mechanics* why touch is an underestimated essential for our wellbeing* how shame gets in the way of our sexual experiences and what we can do to dismantle it* how to explore the relationship between your movement, sex...

Here’s how to set erotic intentions – for the New Year or any time you want an erotic reboot. Intentions are how we align our daily actions with our values and desires. Intentions help us live with integrity and be active creators in our own lives.

Do you long for the days when you loved sex? Miss the lusty new relationship energy that made you never want to get out of bed? Do you worry you will never enjoy sex again? If so, you are not alone – we hear every day from people with versions of this question: is great sex a thing of the past? Will I ever love sex again? When we opened up the tool to share your wins, breakthroughs and aha! moments with us (Share your wins here!) one of the first responses to come in was about asking this quest...

If you are wondering how to practice gratitude, even in tough times, this episode is for you. This encore episode offers guidance on how to practice gratitude all year round to create more pleasure, joy and connection in your life. We’ve gathered more tools on how to practice gratitude for our Pleasure Pod members, including an interactive Erotic Gratitude Generator! Join The Pleasure Pod to support the show, step into our inner circle and unlock curated members-only resources! Ready to dive ...

In this encore episode (first shared back in 2013!) we share our framework of Erotic Game Play and invite you to start creating playful baby steps towards the kinds of erotic experiences you crave. Humans love playing games. From puzzles and word games to ball sports and races, humans love the thrill, challenge and emotional highs of games. The rules, roles and goals of any one specific game is how we shape the experience of play – you know you won’t be tackled during a chess match, and you can...

How do power dynamics play out in your marriage? What are the hidden power struggles getting in the way of your happiness and fulfillment within your marriage? How can we reclaim marriage from it’s history as a system of ownership and transform it into a container to create the kinship, belonging and security we all crave? In this episode, we explore sex and power within marriages, and how you can come into a more consensual Power-With relationship with your spouse. We talk about: * the histo...