Episodes

Sexual Empowerment is a term that gets used a lot, but what does it really mean? In this episode, we explore empowerment, Power Over vs. Power With, and more! Here is a great introduction to how power operates in society:

How can we create deeply satisfying, fulfilling erotic experiences when what the body wants is so changeable and context-dependent? In this episode we explore how to find “just right” over and over again by paying exquisite attention to yourself AND your partner, creating a positive feedback loop of verbal and non-verbal communication so you can be deeply satisfied, feel totally met and taken care of, and respect one another’s needs and boundaries. Ready to master the art of erotic touch, head ...

In this encore episode we share the ten ways learning massage can make you a better lover. From learning how to use your hands to touch your lover’s most sensitive parts to communicating specific requests, learning massage together will not only bring the luxury of massage home, it will also transform the way you make love! When you are ready to master the art of erotic touch with us, enroll in our Couples Massage Online Course! This episode originally aired as episode 061 in 2014.

Interoception is known as the “eighth sensory nervous system” of humans – and is perhaps the most important sense that you’ve never heard of! Interoception is our human ability to feel the insides of our own bodies,

What is the master key to more pleasure, joy and connection? What if there was one skill you could learn to unlock way more relaxation, arousal & orgasmic bliss – not to mention loving connection with every human you love? After over 370 Speaking of Sex Podcast episodes, we are returning to our roots, the spark that started it all for us – our love of TOUCH, and using touch as a language of love. Join us as we kick off a new podcast series, a deep dive into the skills of giving and receiving e...

Illness, injury, accidents and other sudden health changes disrupt our lives on all levels – including our sexuality, relationships and even our sense of identity. When our bodies experience massive changes,

Context is perhaps the most important factor in how you experience your sexuality. Context is all of the factors in the external environment AND in your internal landscape that create the story of each moment. Human sexuality is incredibly context dependent – meaning even small changes in the context of an erotic encounter can create huge differences in how that moment is perceived, felt and experienced. Understanding the impact of context on your erotic experience will help you manage the fact...

We humans are pleasure and rewards seeking animals – we must actively seek out the food, hydration and human connection that sustain us. The Zuckerman Sensation Seeking Scale is one framework that looks at the range of the ways we relate to adventure,

Social distancing has quickly changed all of our lives – but in very different ways. Some of us are alone, some of us are together with family and no respite in sight. How is social distancing impacting our erotic connections?

Mutual Aid is an ethos of care that has risen out of multiple communities – including the disability rights movement & immigrant communities- that invites us to consider our interconnected webs of strengths and vulnerabilities, needs and assets.

A quick dispatch amidst all of the disruption and overwhelm of the global coronavirus pandemic. Our home ground during this global emergency will be https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/care During this time of global emergency, Pleasure Mechanics online courses are open to all. We can support you with tools & strategies to nourish one another with touch, connect with those you love & resource yourself with pleasure. Community Access Codes: * CARE33 = 33% off * CARE = 50% off If you would lik...

Please visit PleasureMechanics.com/care for updated resources on this global emergency – we love you – stay safe, stay connected. This podcast was recorded on March 11, 2020, after we were recovering from family illness during the first few weeks of th...

In this encore of Speaking of Sex episode #178, we discuss the difference in the experience of “making love” vs. “fucking” – which of course is not a simple binary and yet resonates for so many of us. Sometimes, we want tender,

In this interview, Alexandra Solomon PhD joins us to discuss her new book Taking Sexy Back : How To Own Your Sexuality & Create The Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) Ready for a masterclass in intimate relationships? Join us in Dr. Solomon’s new online course Intimate Relationships 101 It’s time to flip the script and shift from sexualized to sexual. It’s time for women to construct their sexuality from the inside-out. Instead of awaiting or fearing the label, “you’re sexy,” it’s ti...

Want more romance? Want your partner to be more romantic? Want to be more romantic and be able to express your love? Let’s start with thinking about what being romantic even means! Beyond the package deal scripts of Valentine’s Day style romance, what does it mean to be more romantic? How can we approach romance with a fresh lens that reveals the heart of romance that so many of us crave? On this episode of Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics, Chris and Charlotte Rose bring their irreve...

We all develop pleasure ruts – our most reliable pathways to pleasure, arousal and orgasm. How do we break out of ruts and find new pleasure pathways? How can we encourage exploration in our relationships – without losing any of the reliable standbys t...

We stopped by the Sex Talk With My Mom studios in Los Angeles to talk with our old friends about opening up to pleasure, mindful sex, erection and ejaculation issues, and so much more. We hold nothing back in this candid conversation! This episode originally aired as episode 264 of Sex Talk With My Mom. Our first conversation with them was episode 121. Check out their podcast for more candid conversation about sex, dating, love after loss and lots of great laughs. Big thanks to Karen Lee and Ca...

Savoring is the art of slowing down a moment enough to be fully in it, while it is happening, with presence and gratitude. Fully savoring pleasures of all kinds – from small sensual pleasures to the deepest joys of intimacy and connection – is a skill set that we humans can develop, on purpose, over time. The Science of Well-Being course from Yale highlights savoring as an essential practice for overall well-being and happiness: Savoring is the act of stepping outside of an experience to revie...

Feeling disconnected from your partner, and maybe even from yourself? Here is a powerful framework from an award winning couples therapist to help you cultivate more moments of micropleasures into your daily life and loving relationships. Micropleasures are those experiences that bring you pleasure, joy and connection in 60 seconds or less. Love the show? Click here to show your love and support the show! Thanks! The 60 Second Pleasure Point framework was originally developed by Peter Fraenkel...

What do you want? This is such a simple question, yet one that can be so hard to answer, especially in the erotic realm. Love the podcast? Ready for more? Join The Pleasure Pod & Get The Interactive Worksheet & More of the Best of Pleasure Mechanics! What do you want? This question emerges in all arenas of our life – from the biggest picture questions about family, career and lifestyle to the micro moments of everyday life. How easy is it for you to answer the question “What Do You Want?” Ho...

As we accept our nomination as finalist for a Sexual Freedom Award, we had the chance to reflect on the really big question: What Is Sexual Freedom? In this episode, we invite you to reflect on sexual freedom – both as an individual and what it means as a global project of social justice. Big love and thanks to the folks at the Sexual Freedom Awards, we are thrilled to be finalists for Publicist of the Year for the 25th Annual Sexual Freedom Awards! Podcast Transcript: Podcast transcripts are...

The hymen myth tells us that the vagina is sealed off by a freshness seal that is only broken upon first penetration. Upon this myth rests the entire idea of female virginity, sexual purity and many other harmful ideas about sexuality that cause endless shame, fear and suffering. The truth is, the hymen is a flexible membrane that moves and stretches with the rest of the vagina. It is permeable at birth and can remain intact through childbirth. Some people have very thin and flexible membranes,...

If you want to show up for more pleasure, love and connection in life, one of the skills to work on is recalibrating towards pleasure. This means noticing both what you desire AND noticing what you are enduring silently. Do Not Endure. Enduring is all about suffering patiently, and often silently. You do not ever need to endure discomfort or pain to get to pleasure. We do not need to endure sexual attention to be polite. You do not need to endure minor discomforts out of fear of “breaking the m...

Taking turns in bed is one of the most powerful reframes you can make to gain access to way more pleasure and connection. Taking turns is yet another gift from our erotic massage lineage – on a massage table it is clear how we can take turns giving and receiving touch, centering the needs and desires of one body at a time so we can lavish it with as much presence and pleasure as possible. Taking turns is not about “you do me and then I’ll do you” – it is about dropping into a shared erotic exp...