Episodes

How many types of orgasms are there? Are some orgasms more powerful than other orgasms? Do different types of orgasms feel different? How do I have all the different kinds of orgasms? What’s the deal with the g-spot? the a-spot? the p-spot? Do all people have all the spots? Help! We get emails with these questions ALL the time, so we know there is still a lot of confusion about different types of orgasms, the elusive spots to create different kinds of orgasms, and what the best kind of orgasm i...

Curious about backdoor play? Want to explore the thrilling potential of this highly sensitive area – but don’t want to get hurt? Our approach to anal touch offers 100% pleasure, 100% pain-free stimulation. With a deep respect and understanding of the b...

We are all in constant states of change, growth and transition – so how can we learn to embrace change with a spirit of curiosity and perhaps even passion? On this episode, Lucie Fielding joins us to share her brilliant frameworks about coming into pas...

Sexually frustrated? You are SO not alone. Sexual frustration can be a deeply painful experience, especially when you feel like there is no end in sight! If you feel like you are pent up, shut down, or itching with unmet sexual needs and desires, this episode is for you. Where does sexual frustration come from? What do we do with sexual frustration so it doesn’t cause so much suffering? In this episode, we explore the roots of sexual frustration, what we can learn about frustration to help us ...

If there is no such thing as a sex drive, what is that unmistakable and potent force that moves us, motivates us and pulls us towards the pleasures of erotic exchange? It’s not a drive, it’s desire – the powerful force of wanting, the complex motivational system that allows us to imagine into future states of possibility. Challenging thousands-old understandings of the human “sex drive,” the latest science suggests a new model of erotic desire – rather than a drive to discharge or satiate a nee...

Lost Libidos, Mismatched Libidos, Out Of Control Libidos: Libido problems are the most frequently reported sexual struggle. If you struggle with your libido or sex drive, join us for an intimate conversation with renowned sex therapist Vanessa Marin. We explore a new framework of understanding libido, desire and passion: one that puts each of us in the driver’s seat of our sex lives. https://www.instagram.com/p/B2WyUewBbAr Please note: links on this page may be affiliate links, and if you enro...

Low libido? Loss of libido? Crazy high libido? Mismatched Libido? There are 99 libido problems out there, and many people report struggling with their libido. Libido troubles are one of the leading reasons people seek out the advice of a sex therapist or tune into sex podcasts like this one. But it is time to rethink libido, debunk libido myths and start talking about the truth about human libido: that it is mysterious, fluid and contextual. If you are struggling with libido troubles, tune in a...

Did becoming a parent change your erotic life? Of course it did! Kids change everything – your experience of your body, time, freedom, personal space and mental load will never be the same! As parents, our priorities change,

Erotic massage is one of the most exquisite erotic experiences we have ever known – and it is how we fell in love with one another! Ready to unlock the power of your erotic touch skills? Click here for the Erotic Touch Mastery bundle (with a secret pod...

In part 1 of our interview with Joseph Kramer, we learned about how he grew up as a masturbation loving gay boy in the Catholic church and left the Jesuits after receiving his first massage. We discovered the origins of the erotic embodiment practices he gathered as he explored a new way of sharing sexuality amongst his gay male community at the dawn of the AIDS crisis, and about how he began to integrate the skills of breathwork, massage and erotic touch into the experience of Taoist Erotic Mas...

Meet our great erotic mentor, Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. and hear the story of how a gay boy born into a Catholic family followed his path to become an erotic pioneer and visionary. Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. In this intimate interview between student and mentor, Joseph Kramer shares his life story about discovering masturbation as a devout Catholic boy, leaving the Jesuits to celebrate being a gay man in New York City, and how he discovered the power of massage and breath. He generously shares the storie...

Does your pleasure ever feel stuck at “good enough” – and you can’t quite kick up the intensity when you want to? In this encore episode, we share a ton of techniques for amping up intensity while receiving stimulation.

Sex moves! From wild rides to subtle shudders, moving your body during sex is key to unlocking a wide range of erotic experiences. Do you give yourself permission to move freely, or do you sometimes feel stuck in place? In this episode, we explore the importance of movement during sex and give you ideas on how to get started exploring a wider variety of sex moves. What holds us back from moving during sex? How can we overcome the shame and anxiety that can hold us back? This episode explores w...

What are you hungry for? What do you crave? What do you want so much you can taste it? The fabulous Dawn Serra joins us for a conversation about recovering a joyful relationship to pleasure, desire and hunger. We explore what food and sexuality have in common as arenas of experiencing and realms of both struggle and liberation. If you are ready for a deep dive into your relationship to pleasure, power and desire, join Dawn for her Power In Pleasure online course*, a 5 week experience enrolling ...

Have you ever talked about the boundaries of your relationship? What does monogamy mean to you? What commitments do you need in a relationship to feel safe and supported? Here’s how to open up the vital conversations about monogamy, relationship boundaries and commitment. We guide you in engaging in thought experiments about non-monogamy as a safe way to explore the contours of your desires, boundaries and needs. Be sure to listen to the episode on Explicit Monogamy Agreements and grab the int...

The queer liberation movement has impacted ALL of our lives in both obvious and subtle ways. We are celebrating the 50 year anniversary of the Stonewall Riots by looking at how the queer liberation movement has generated waves of social change in just one generation. We look at the historical roots of homophobia and how the early gay rights movement began to confront the institutions of power that defined homosexuality as a sin, a crime and an illness. Ready to explore more with us? Enroll in ...

In this episode, Canadian sex therapist and researcher Sarah Hunter Murray joins us to dismantle the myths about male sexuality that are at the root of so much sexual struggle. Her book Not Always In The Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex & Relationships draws from in depth interviews with men to expose the persistent mythology about male sexuality that most of the time goes unquestioned. You can find more from Sarah Hunter Murray and her book Not Always In The Mood at SarahHunterMurray.com Tra...

What attitudes do you bring to your sex life? What are your attitudes about gender roles, power dynamics, desire, body parts, hygiene, physical acts, desire, love, pleasure and all of the other factors that influence your sexuality? All of us need some serious attitude adjustments when it comes to sexuality- to move away from the attitudes that create struggle and suffering and towards new attitudes that allow a more sane relationship to the force of sexuality in our lives. If you want resourc...

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin joins us to continue our conversation about female orgasm. This episode continues our conversation about female orgasm with Vanessa Marin, started on Episode 303, The Path To Female Orgasm. The struggle for female orgasm is a cultural issue, not a personal failure. It is essential to locate the conversation about female orgasm in a historical context and recognize that we are just getting started. Just starting to undo the misinformation, myths and violence that have...

If you want to have kinkier sex, you are going to want to build some foundational skills long before you ever pick up a toy. The skills of mindful sex – noticing your thoughts without judgment, staying present during the heights of arousal, paying attention to both the internal landscape and to another human’s subtle responses – are all crucial skills for stepping into new erotic terrain and having kinkier sex. Kinky sex means different things to different people – but for most of us, it means ...

Mindful Sex May continues with an exploration of what mindful sex practices can offer men struggling with performance anxiety. This is one of the most common sexual struggles for men – you finally have the opportunity to be sexual with a partner, you start to get aroused, and then… worry, anxiety, fear and/or panic start to set in! Anxiety is the enemy of arousal – so what can you do to interrupt the pattern of performance anxiety? Join us in exploring the practices of Mindful Sex – enroll in o...

How much attention do you bring to your masturbation? How much creativity do you allow yourself in the time you spend with solo touch? Join us in exploring Mindful Sex – enroll in the Mindful Sex Online Course In this episode we explore Mindful Masturbation – or as our mentor Annie Sprinkle calls it “medibation!” What happens when we treat masturbation as an important experience to pay more attention to – and perhaps even treat it as a meditation practice? What happens when we bring the quali...

Your body is good enough, sexy enough and you are worthy of limitless pleasure. How easy is it for you to believe that simple statement? For many of us, body shame, insecurities and judgment create a tremendous amount of stress and struggle. We are taught that our bodies will never be good enough, and that we have to sweat, struggle and strain to achieve a body that is more valuable and worthy of love. To wrap up our month long theme focusing on Burnout and ending the stress cycles, we talk ab...

You spend a third of your life in bed. Two of the most important activities for your wellbeing – sleep and sex – happen there. So when is the last time you thought about your bedroom and if it is meeting your needs? In this episode,