Episodes

Have you ever noticed how hard it is to find an attractive guy on a dating app? Have you ever noticed that the most attractive guys are the least likely to follow through once you match? Have you ever considered there might be a more effective way to date? In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to answer a common reader question, share some eye-opening statistics about attraction and give you some practical advice that will help you meet more attractive guys than ever before. Watch it on YouTube. Get...

You may not want to hear this but you may be passing up your soulmate online. In Love U, we assume that 90% of men are not your future husband, but that leaves 10% of men to choose from. And if you’re online right now and you’re only open to 1% of men, you are most likely sabotaging your own chances of happiness. In this Love U Podcast, I tell you a real story of some mega smart, mega hot, mega-wealthy women who’ve struggled to find quality men – and how one of them finally listened to me and go...

Once you’re past the honeymoon period of a relationship –...

How do I break up with him? As a dating coach, I get this question frequently, and every time, I find myself a little bit surprised. Evidently, what seems obvious to me is extremely challenging and emotionally fraught to others. In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I’m going to make sense of why I get this question, and, in turn, how you can use what you learn in this episode to let go of your man and find one who is a better fit for your life. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams f...

Race/ethnicity, religious affiliation, height, occupation, physical attractiveness, previous marital status, sexual tastes, similarity to oneself. These are the things you find attractive. And yet these are qualities that have been proven to have ZERO effect on your chances for romantic happiness. This disconnect between what’s attractive and important is at the heart of what I teach in Love U, and I’m delighted to share these two studies that back up this claim. You’re dating wrong and until yo...

You use dating apps and you hate them. Guys who match with you are icky. Guys who text you are either too passive or too aggressive. Guys who seem interested disappear. Guys who seem normal send dick pix. What the f@#$? I might not be able to change what men do on Tinder or Bumble but I can explain why dating apps will always produce behavior like this, and how you can do better. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Take the Find Love Now quiz to learn how ...

Are you in a relationship with a man where you’re...

You’ve gone out with enough guys to realize that, well, most of them are just AWFUL at dating. Canceling at the last minute. Staring at their phones. Not picking up the check. Leaving early. Trying to get laid. Talking trash about their exes. It’s not a pretty scene. But if we can assume that men are legitimately doing their best to make a good first impression, then how can they be SO FAR OFF? In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to explain to you why most guys are horrible at the act of dating – ...

It’s normal to be attracted to guys who aren’t good for you. It’s normal to date such men in hopes that they’ll change, that they’ll grow, that things will get better, that the power of your chemistry and love will make it work. It never does. Attraction is what gets you INTO a relationship. Compatibility is what keeps you there. And if you keep finding yourself in relationships with attractive incompatible guys, you need to do something different to get you a different result. In this Love U Po...

Every week, I talk with women who apply for dating coaching and insist that they’re happy being alone. But are they, really? In this ranting Love U Podcast, I challenge this big lie that women tell themselves to justify staying out of the dating game. The truth is that you’d rather be single than in a bad relationship, but you’d rather be in a happy relationship than be single. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Take the Find Love Now quiz to learn how to...

You love your boyfriend and he loves you. But you find yourself increasingly frustrated with him because he’s not acting the way you want him to. He makes you happy in so many ways, so why can’t he just do the few things you’re asking him to do? If he really loved you, wouldn’t he want to? The answer – in a word – is no. And in this Love U Podcast, I’m going to explain to you why the secret of relationships is not in getting your boyfriend to change, but in finding a boyfriend you can fully acce...

Your first three dates were amazing. Now, it’s Date 4, he’s back at your place, and he’s reaching for your belt buckle. You’re turned on, but you don’t think this is a great idea, but you don’t want to stop him and make a great date turn awkward. What can you to set a healthy boundary and still let him know you’re interested? Sex is one of my favorite topics and I’m going to go off on it in just a minute. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Take the Find L...

Chemistry. It’s the greatest drug in the world. When you’re feeling it, you’re on top of the world. When you’re not feeling it, you feel depressed and trapped. So what do you do if your chemistry isn’t off the charts? Is there any chance that you can have a relationship with someone who doesn’t curl your toes? I’ve got your answers in just a second Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Take the Find Love Now quiz to learn how to fix your broken man-picker. E...

Did your ex text you a happy birthday? Did that guy you hooked up with reach out during the pandemic? Did your high school boyfriend write to you on Facebook? Yep. This is what guys do. They don’t know if they want to sleep with you, keep in touch with you, date you, or marry you, so they send all sorts of mixed messages. They’re like sharks, swimming in the water, waiting for some chum. Sorry to say: you’re the chum. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Ta...

We’ve all been there. Everything was going great – until...

With the advent of dating apps that sit on your phone and give you access to thousands of singles in your area, there has never been an easier time to meet people than today. Then why does it all feel so bad? The answer is that all good qualities come with bad qualities. And if 21st century dating is marked by easy access, the downside is that we’ve had to come up with a new vocabulary to describe what can go wrong. In today’s Love U Podcast, I’m going to share some modern dating vocabulary to h...

You’ve seen it before. Girl likes boy. Boy likes girl. Boy starts acting like a boyfriend. Girl falls deeper for boy. Boy doesn’t realize his deep-seated issues, insecurities and fear of commitment will ultimately end up breaking girl’s heart. Girl’s heart gets broken. It’s a sad, if common, scene, which begs the following question: what should you to if you suspect your guy is not emotionally available for a future? Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Tak...

Have you ever been in a relationship with a guy where something didn’t feel right? Maybe it was a lack of chemistry. Maybe it was a lack of trust. Maybe it was a lack of comfort. Maybe you couldn’t put your finger on it. And yet even though you felt, deep inside, that something was off, you ignored that feeling and stayed. Months, even years of wasted time, all because you were afraid to trust your gut pull the plug, and start all over. Today, I’m going to share with you a few examples of how go...

Have you had a boyfriend who cheated on you? Have you been devastated by the betrayal? The lying? The deceiving? The double life? The illusion that your relationship was strong? The second-guessing your own judgment? You’re not alone. Millions of women have suffered from unfaithful men. Some manage to repair their relationships. Some continue to suffer with a cheating partner and a lack of trust. Others break up but can’t help but choose other guys who lie. In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to w...

You go online and note the men who are swiping on you. One guy is shirtless. One guy has a colored mohawk. One guy has a tattoo on his neck. One guy has a handlebar mustache. One guy looks like he was born in the 2000’s. Then you read their profiles – all about being chill and hooking up and playing video games and the magic of chemistry. And you think: these are all children. You don’t need a boy. You need a man. One who is ready to settle down, build a life and be your equal and more. If you’r...

You go online and note the men who are swiping on you. Far too many look like a less attractive version of your dad. Old. Heavy. Grey. Bald. Wrinkled. White bearded. Unappealing. You look in the mirror and see a sexy, vibrant woman – one often mistaken for 5 to 10 years younger. And you ask yourself: why would I go out with an older guy when I can get a younger guy? If you’ve ever cringed at the boomers begging you to give them a chance, this podcast is for you. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man ...

If you’re a smart, strong, successful woman, you’re familiar with this dilemma. You’re in the 95th percentile of all women in terms of your credentials. And because of that, you believe you can only date the 5% of men who are “above” you. You know intellectually that men don’t date this way: there are few men who insist on dating women taller AND smarter AND richer AND more educated AND funnier. And yet, you persist. Finally, when you meet a guy who is amazing but doesn’t fit in the dream of wha...

You ever date a guy who was just so cute, so funny, so charming, and so… immature. It’s not that he’s a bad guy, per se. It’s that he’s never quite grown up. While you have a blast while you’re out, when it comes to building a life, it feels like you have to do all the heavy lifting. So what do you do when you’re with a fun guy who requires so much effort? Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to Love U. Take the Find Love Now quiz to learn how to fix your broken man-p...

It’s pretty much THE question, isn’t it? You’ve done your time on dating apps. You’ve had enough meaningless sex to satisfy your curiosity. You’ve found guys with potential who couldn’t live up to their promise. And now you want to know the ultimate: how can you get a guy to want to be with you forever? In the next few minutes, I’m going to share a few powerful tips with you, and one earth-shaking idea that will forever change the way you look at commitment. Watch it on YouTube. Get the man of y...