Episodes

As a high-achieving woman, you have choices. You can choose to give a chance to a guy who is not your type, or stick with your type. You can choose to make his behavior a dealbreaker, or learn to accept him in full. In this episode, my friend Carol Allen and I consider your choices and draw the same conclusion: all married couples compromise your way into happiness, and what they tolerate from their partners is minor compared to what they gain. We also discuss what it’s like to be a childless wo...

Have you ever been stuck in a situation where you’re...

It's not just a hit Netflix series; it's a direct calling for me to respond as a Jewish man married to a Catholic woman in a healthy interfaith relationship. In this episode, I talk about what's bad, what's good, and what Love U principles Kristen Bell's character violates in her attempts to rid herself of a kind, consistent boyfriend. If you've watched the show, it's worth the listen. 🌟 Take my mini-course to raise your relationship standards https://www.evanmarckatz.com/7steps 🔥 Take my quiz...

We started off discussing the topic of envy - how rich people often envy happy couples and happy couples envy those with greater wealth. We moved to why I envied Matthew Hussey and he also envied me. (Seriously!) Finally, we went to a dangerous place - why political differences are so divisive and why they don't have to necessarily end your relationship. Carol and I don't agree politically but we do agree that people are more than their beliefs and opinions. Anyway, this Love U Podcast is juicy ...

In this episode of the Love U Podcast, I discuss three common ways women can be afraid of commitment. While it’s often assumed that men are the ones afraid to commit, Evan reveals how many women, even those seeking a serious relationship, can experience fears around commitment, avoiding key conversations, and feeling uncertain about what they truly want. Learn how to identify these behaviors, establish healthy boundaries, and get clear about your relationship goals so you can find the love you d...

I brought back my friend, Carol, to talk about one of the most popular dating videos on YouTube: How to Keep a Man Interested in You. Yes, we have a list of 10 reasons, but that’s not where we spend most of our time. Because the big question is not about how to keep a man from a place of insecurity, but rather, how to be the kind of partner that makes men feel accepted and appreciated. In addition, we talk about a recent New York Times article about the value of friendship even when you are in a...

Tired of superficial dating advice that doesn’t really work? In this episode, I’ll show you how to transform your love life by making five small changes to your dating habits. These tips will help you date smarter, broaden your options, and create more meaningful connections—without changing who you are or what you want. When you shift your online dating approach – just a little – you can finally see the results you deserve! 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 ...

I know, as a guy, there’s a limited amount I...

When you’ve had nothing but rejection, failure and disappointment in...

In this Love U Podcast episode, I dive into the concept of “dating up”—the idea that women should aim to date or marry someone with more wealth, power, or status. This episode was inspired by a thought-provoking conversation with a client who challenged me, claiming that women need to hear the cold, hard truth about their unrealistic dating expectations. If you’re a woman who’s tired of not finding men on your level, this episode is a must-listen. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.ev...

In this Love U Podcast, I share a tale of friend who had a hard time committing because of a lack of passion (despite the good sex) – because I felt some of those same feelings once upon a time. This leads into the five stages that men go through before they’ll commit. If you’re a woman who wants to know what men are really thinking when they’re dating you, this is an eye-opener. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply for Coaching: https://www.evanmarckatz.c...

Every relationship that ever broke up started with some level of excitement. Those first few weeks and months of breathlessly getting to know each other, explore each other, and make giddy plans for the future. But, as you already know, the first months (and even years) bear little resemblance to marriage and have little predictive power. In other words, every eager guy is going to put on his best face when he’s interviewing for the job. What happens when he’s got the job and starts to take it f...

Many smart, strong, successful women have trouble setting healthy boundaries with men. These powerful women give up their power to get along, to please, and find themselves emotionally dissatisfied within their relationships. In this Love U Podcast, I share a few anecdotes that correlate with 5 important boundaries you MUST set with men. None of them are revolutionary ideas; all of them are importance if you want to have a partner who hears and respects your wishes. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love ...

Is it a good idea to go “no contact” after...

There’s a temptation when you first start dating to tell...

There’s a lot of talk about red flags: separated guys,...

I haven't interviewed anyone on my podcast since 2017 but when I got the opportunity to speak with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School, I leapt at the chance. She's fiercely intelligent and listening to her go deeper on attachment styles and limerence was a treat. Thais Gibson is a counselor, best selling author and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal fa...

As an independent, successful, single woman, you’ve built a life...

I once took a poll and discovered that 40% of my mailing list was not dating at all. These are women who had enough interest in the subject matter to reach out to me for dating advice, but, for their own reasons, chose not to use it. I feel for them. When all your past relationships have disappointed, it’s natural to feel afraid and paralyzed when it comes to dating. The problem is that you’ll never find love if you don’t date. In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to nudge you to stop letting fe...

The first presidential debate of 2024 was revealing. We saw, quiet clearly, that the two candidates running for office were, in fact, incapable of being the leader of the free world. How does this apply to dating and relationships, you might ask? Well, the world is filled with Donald Trumps and Joe Bidens. One is selfish and untrustworthy. The other is a nice guy who is not capable of the job. So, what should you do, as the CEO of your love life, when you run across men like these? Check out thi...

I agree: the masculine/feminine thing is a little overdone. And yet I still think there’s value in emphasizing that women tend to have certain traits that men lack and therefore, crave. In this Love U Podcast, I’ll run down six of the most important ones and share examples of how I get to experience them in my marriage. If you listen and think, “Hey, I do that!” then I predict you’ve got a bright relationship future ahead of you. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/qui...

My client Diana taught me a valuable lesson last week. After dating man with excellent long-term relationship potential, she wasn’t quite feeling it. Since she didn’t want to let a good catch go, she started to talk herself into why she should keep seeing him. Then she asked this ONE question that clarified EVERYTHING for her. In this quick Love U Podcast, I’ll share that one question so you can ask it yourself. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply for Coa...

Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match… at a certain point, you’ve tried...

We all engage in wishful thinking, to some degree. Even when the evidence points to the answer being no, we find some sliver of hope that it can become a yes. Nowhere is this more evident than in dating. In this Love U Podcast, I share a story about my tortured “When Harry Met Sally” relationship that took up nearly two decades, and give you the courage to cut loose men who, despite your feelings, don’t make for healthy long-term partners. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarcka...