Episodes

Online dating apps have done two things: 1. Given men and women infinite options at their fingertips, 2. Tortured those same men and women since so few of those options pan out. In this Love U Podcast episode, I break down the five most prominent ways you can tell that your relationship isn’t going anywhere. Starting from the first date and going chronologically through the relationship, I outline the red flags that should cause you to cut bait and find a more enthusiastic man. 🔥 Take my quiz...

You know the feeling. You go on a great date or two. You catch feelings. You start to think about a future. You sleep with him. And then, a few weeks later, you discover that he is NOT the man you thought he was. It may be maddening but since it’s common, we need to talk about it. In this episode, I’ll share how dating is a show and why you don’t want to commit to a man until you’ve spent some time backstage. 🫶 Subscribe to Lovesplaining for free: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/substack 🔥 Take m...

I’m returning to my roots from 20 years ago, when it was all about people and relationships and tangible breakthroughs that lead to lasting love. In this short video, I’ll share what that means for me and why it’s great for you. if you’re in pain and want coaching over the summer, I will be taking clients on a very limited basis. You can apply through my website: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/now 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply for Coaching: https://w...

Although dating coaches tend to emphasize compatibility over attraction, make no mistake: attraction is important. Good sex is important. And figuring out the blend between passion and comfort is the most important. In this episode, I walk you through the formula from Love U that has helped thousands of women find satisfying relationships – both physically and emotionally. No settling involved. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply to Love U: https://www.ev...

Even good relationships involve conflict and compromise. You know what it’s like to be with a guy who isn’t a fair fighter. He raises his voice. He shuts down. He hurls insults. He brings up other arguments. He doubles down and escalates the conflict even when he’s mistaken. You don’t want to be that guy. In this Love U Podcast, I share a communication technique that I learned twenty years ago that I still use today. This one is a relationship-saver. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www...

When you’ve been hurt and disappointed, it’s easy to assume...

You may find it annoying or triggering but it’s common...

I know it should seem obvious but the fact that I recorded a podcast about it means that plenty of women still find married men alluring. In this episode, we’ll talk about why married men are often more romantic than single men AND 4 reasons why it absolutely doesn’t matter and you should run far, far away from any married guy who shows interest in you. 🔥 Take my quiz to find love now: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/quiz 💖 Apply to Love U: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/apply 📷 Follow me on Insta...

If you didn’t have a healthy nuclear family with loving...

My readers often ask me to create specific programs for them. “Why can’t you create something for women in their 60’s who are facing a smaller dating pool with men who are retired, widowed, unhealthy and dealing with erectile dysfunction?” The answer is that despite the unique challenges facing women of different ages, 95% of dating and relationship advice is universal. It’s about confidence, communication, boundaries, beliefs, and the skill of learning to be more effective in dating. But, as a ...

You know the narrative. Men suck. There are no good ones left. They’re all narcissists or losers or emotionally unavailable. The cute ones don’t want to settle down. The ones who want to settle down aren’t attractive. When you finally find one you like, the compromises are too great. I’m not here to argue with you. What I will say, as a happily married dating coach, is that you have two choices: accept him as he is or dump him. What you can’t do is stay in a relationship with a man who you’re co...

My smart, successful clients have all loved and lost. Yet they recovered to rebuild their lives and fill it with meaningful work, travel, hobbies and friendship. Today's question is whether this is enough. Is being happy alone a condition for finding love or is a trap that allows you to stay alone indefinitely? What's the benefit of lasting love when being single is better than being in a bad relationship? In this Love U Podcast, I do my best to explain. 🫶 Subscribe to Lovesplaining for free: h...

While it’s easy to get mad at guys who overvalue...

When you’ve had bad luck with men, it’s easy to...

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements. One of them is “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” Nowhere is that more relevant than in the world of dating. Texting, hooking up, ghosting, breadcrumbing, endless amounts of rejection. And yet none of it is personal. No one is out to get you. You’re just collateral damage in someone else’s journey. To succeed in dating, you need a strong ego – and you also have to know when to put it aside. If you’ve ever been offended that a guy you barely dated returns...

No one wants to become a dating expert. No one wants to go on 300 dates. No one wants to renew their Match membership. Yet, in order to find someone special, there is nothing more valuable than the power of perseverence. If you are one of the many people who have been dating online, on and off, for many years, I’m going to make a case for why you should never be off. You may be missing out on your soulmate.

After 20 years of coaching, 1000 blog posts, 300 podcasts, I was bound to make some mistakes. We’re all human. We all have biases. We all have blind spots. On this episode, I’m going to share a few ways in which I’ve evolved over time and make a case for how it’s important to know the rules before you make exceptions to the rules.

Dating brings up all your insecurities. Am I attractive enough? Young enough? Smart enough? Am I worthy? When those thoughts are running through your head, it’s hard to be the best version of you. What IS the best version of you? Well, after listening to Selena Gomez on Smartless talk about her mental health issues that stem from being in the public eye, the only word that came to mind was AUTHENTIC. So today, we’re going to talk about why you must stop caring about what men think and start focu...

If you’ve ever tried to rekindle a relationship with your...

If you were in a relationship without passion, you’ll look...

You may go months or years without a strong connection with a guy. When you find it, you want to preserve it at all costs. But what if you discover, sometime in the first month of dating, that there are major obstacles to a long-term relationship? Do you act on them? Or do you sweep them under the rug because it feels so good to be with him. If you’re like most of my listeners, you sweep them under the rug. If you’re like my clients, you know better and get rid of any man who is incapable of bei...

Dating can throw you off your axis. Whether you’re getting...

When you’ve been burned by men, it’s easy to see...

It’s been said that happiness is the gap between our...