Episodes

Sex is important in a marriage, especially since you’re only...

You’re not alone if you feel like the world’s on...

I often mention that good relationships should be easy. It’s...

Ever gone out with a guy who said he was attracted to you, was starting to fall for you, and wanted to get married someday – but later dumped you? Why would a man say such things if he didn’t mean them? The answer is trickier than you might think. See, he DID mean them – he just meant them in the moment. Check out this Love U Podcast to understand why guys say things you would never say.

Men and women have different advantages in dating. Women have the power to no to male advances. Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Women can usually expect a man to pick up the check and set the next date. So why is it that men are called “privileged” for taking advantage of the fact that we have a different biological clock? Beats the hell out of me. But something I heard on a podcast rubbed me the wrong way, and I had to talk about it.

You’re willing to make tradeoffs at work. You’re willing to...

You’re busy. You’ve got work. You’ve got friends. You’ve got...

When you’ve been hurt before, the obvious move is to...

It’s unfortunately commonplace for women to fall in love with...

After 15 years with my wife, I realize I’ve lost...

I know men are supposed to be heartless and soulless. Sex machines who only text. Losers with no moral compass. Opponents on the battlefield of love. Surely, some of them are. But more of them, you may be surprised to remember, are actual human beings. Like you, they’re attracted to what they’re attracted to. Like you, they’ve made questionable choices in the past. Like you, they don’t know what combination of chemistry and compatiblity makes for a great partner. Like you, they’re muddling throu...

We all have a voice in our head. Michael Singer wrote about it in The Untethered Soul. Echkhart Tolle wrote about it in The Power of Now. And recently, I heard Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, talk about it in a podcast. The problem with the voice in your head is that she’s relentlessly negative and critical, and if you allow her to dictate how you live your life, you’ll never be the best version of yourself. Love U is about helping you overcome your limiting beliefs an...

Love is scary, especially if you’ve been burned by men...

Nice is one of those words that everyone says they value. But when it comes to attraction, more people – men and women – gravitate towards confident, funny and rich over “nice”. It’s a shame because there aren’t too many traits more important to a relationship than nice. Nice may mean selfless, nice may mean thoughtful, nice may mean “willing to compromise”, nice may mean “resolving conflict easily,” nice may mean being sensitive to your emotional needs, but without it, your relationship is sunk...

I’ll admit: I’m a bit of an intellectual snob. Okay,...

Second wave feminism was great for women in the United States. Today, more women graduate college than ever before and more women are financially independent than ever before. The result of this is that because women don’t “need” men to provide for them, far more women are choosing not to get married and to exit bad marriages. On top of that, the qualities it takes to succeed in the workplace: tenacity, competitiveness, strong opinions, leadership – have been prototypically coded as masculine. I...

The Barbie movie is now a billion dollar phenomenon – with good reason. It’s a movie told from a woman’s point of view that is unabashedly feminist but fairminded in how it treats its other protagonist, Ken. While it’s visually stunning and the soundtrack is fun, there’s a deeper message about gender roles, expectations, society and romantic relationships. This is my hot take – nearly a month after most of the other hot takes came out. Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to enroll in Lov...

Have you ever been in a relationship where you are afraid of speaking your mind? Where every disagreement produces high anxiety because if you speak up, it could cause a fight, he could lash out, or he might even break up with you? It may be common but it sure isn’t healthy. Good relationships are strong enough to handle respectful disagreement because no disagreement should be big enough to rupture your partnership. If working things out quickly and calmly sounds like a foreign concept to you, ...

After many years on Earth, it’s common to feel like...

It’s normal to feel anxious about dating. Too many men...

Masculinity is suddenly a hot topic in America. Is masculinity – aggression, decisiveness, ego – inherently toxic? Would men be better off acting more like women? If so, what does that mean for women who remain attracted to stereotypically masculine men? This is a common theme of my coaching in Love U and in this podcast, I wanted to share some of the insights and inherent contradictions in being a Type A woman who wants a man who is more “man” than she is, but bristles at the idea of being with...

Yes, it’s a provocative title. But there’s some science underlying...

He’s fun. He’s sexy. He’s successful. And he’s into you....

One of the biggest complaints I get about men is about their inconsistency – both when dating and in relationships. So what’s a reasonable amount of contact to expect from guys? Well, it all depends on how long you’ve been seeing each other. That’s why, in this Love U Podcast, I’ve broken dating into three phases: the first couple of weeks, when you’ve been dating 3-5 weeks, and when you’re officially boyfriend/girlfriend. Once you know how a good boyfriend acts, you’ll have no tolerance for ac...